Who's Gift Is It Anyway?

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MistressOfGa -> Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 12:26:23 AM)
How do you feel about a submissive/slave giving a gift such as a paddle, flogger or restraint to their dominant/owner for His/Her birthday? If the item is to be used on the sub/slave, is it really a present for their dominant/owner or is it another way to illicit playtime from the dominant/owner? My answer: Nothing wrong with my boy wanting to illicit play, but I would want to be the one to decide when I use it. If my submissive expected me to use it right away (such is the case with most gifts) and I didn't choose to, my boy may be a little hurt that I didn't want to play with it as soon as I got it. He would understand of course, but I think it would hurt his feelings somewhat. Say you?

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 12:31:08 AM)
it;s kind of like him buying you sexy underwear. Who is he really buying it for. Though i think in the end both parties benefit from it.

MistressOfGa -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 12:35:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 it;s kind of like him buying you sexy underwear. Who is he really buying it for. Though i think in the end both parties benefit from it. Thank you for responding takenbyjohnro7. If both parties are enjoying it, wouldn't it stand to reason that the gift was then for both of them and not just the dominant? Edited for grammar

AquaticSub -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 12:43:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa How do you feel about a submissive/slave giving a gift such as a paddle, flogger or restraint to their dominant/owner for His/Her birthday? If the item is to be used on the sub/slave, is it really a present for their dominant/owner or is it another way to illicit playtime from the dominant/owner? Depends on the toy. I wouldn't give him a vib, even though we love using them in our play. However, if I knew he had his eye on a particular paddle or flogger I would get it for him. I don't that asking to play since it would be something that he wanted already.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 12:45:51 AM)
I buy him toys from time to time - toys I think he might enjoy using on me. Some of them he uses, some of them he doesn't. He uses me, and "plays' with me whenever he chooses, and not just because I bought him a new toy. I have no expectations of such things and my feelings are not hurt if he does not want to do something. Gifts for him are his to use if he wants, where he wants, with whom he wants, how he wants, and when he wants. So yes, it is really a present for my Master.

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 12:48:00 AM)
With the lingerie example, I believe the term is "Lingerie isnt a gift, its a request" With that in mind, if a sub gave me a new toy for my birthday, or for any reason, I would graciously accept it as the thought of them trying to get me something that I would like that noone else would consider getting for me. Or, in shorter terms, I would think it rather thoughtful -I know im ranting, not enough sleep, too much sugar, that sort of thing.

MistressOfGa -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 1:56:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie I buy him toys from time to time - toys I think he might enjoy using on me. Some of them he uses, some of them he doesn't. He uses me, and "plays' with me whenever he chooses, and not just because I bought him a new toy. I have no expectations of such things and my feelings are not hurt if he does not want to do something. Gifts for him are his to use if he wants, where he wants, with whom he wants, how he wants, and when he wants. So yes, it is really a present for my Master. I love all of these answers. Those who are of the subly nature, your Masters should be proud. Those who are of the Masterly nature, your belief in the motives of your subs are equally as impressive. I rather like the idea of my boy giving me a gift from his heart with no motives but to make me smile :)

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 1:58:38 AM)
As my grandpa used to say "Belief is 9/10s of reality" Of course he started sayin this after he went nuts, so take from it what you will

CuriousLord -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:00:54 AM)
When you care about your sub, your actions are always going to be a bit manipulated by their wants and needs. Just part of how caring about someone else works, I suppose.

Justme696 -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:07:48 AM)
Why judge a gift anyways? IF you 2 really connect, then the gesture is what counts not?

BitaTruble -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:09:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa How do you feel about a submissive/slave giving a gift such as a paddle, flogger or restraint to their dominant/owner for His/Her birthday? If the item is to be used on the sub/slave, is it really a present for their dominant/owner or is it another way to illicit playtime from the dominant/owner? Any gifts are always for Himself otherwise he'd only ever get 16 ga needles for presents. ::grins:: Additionally, I don't need to illicit playtime. I can ask then he will or will not play with me depending on his mood. Works for us. Celeste

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:12:19 AM)
I don't give Daddy D.s presents for his birthday, mainly cause there's things he wants more. However if he wanted it or would apreciate it, I see no problem with a sub presenting their dominant with toys and stuff, as long as it don't turn into a sense of intitlement thing. I bought it for you to use on me so now use it.

BitaTruble -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:15:15 AM)
~FR~ The best gifts though.. are buying really wicked, evil, nasty toys for the Masters of your good friends. [8D] Celeste

MistressOfGa -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:16:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble ~FR~ The best gifts though.. are buying really wicked, evil, nasty toys for the Masters of your good friends. [8D] Celeste lol but of course! That's what friends are for <g>

AquaticSub -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:21:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble ~FR~ The best gifts though.. are buying really wicked, evil, nasty toys for the Masters of your good friends. [8D] Celeste Speaking of which... we just, as in tonight, got a new toy from a friend of ours. A flicker whip!

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:23:20 AM)
Very Nice

MistressOfGa -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:26:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble ~FR~ The best gifts though.. are buying really wicked, evil, nasty toys for the Masters of your good friends. [8D] Celeste Speaking of which... we just, as in tonight, got a new toy from a friend of ours. A flicker whip! Can I be their friend? <s>

AquaticSub -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:31:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa Can I be their friend? <s> chuckles Come visit our part of NC. I'm sure we could arrange for you to meet up with them at one of the local events.

Asherdelampyr -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:35:13 AM)
I wish I had friends like that, all I got for xmas was cookie dough. and I dont even bake :(

AquaticSub -> RE: Who's Gift Is It Anyway? (1/13/2008 2:36:45 AM)
Awww.... I'm sorry to hear that. Maybe you can mold the cookie dough into a small but thick pad and use that as a sort of paddle? One of Val's favorite toys is a small bit of wood that fits perfectly into the palm of his hand.

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