MistressOfGa
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Good question! I know I am coming in late again, but I wanted to answer this nonetheless. What do I give? What do I contribute? What do I invest? All the same answers as far as I am concerned.
I am not a Pro-Domina so I do not take money from my subs. I do however give a lot of things to make their lives easier. When I meet potential subs, I meet them on my terms. That means I pay for what I want. If I ask them for a dinner meeting, I pay for the dinner. If I want a hotel meeting, I pay for the room and all that it entails. If I want to meet a submissive from another state, I pay my own way to go and meet him. I pay for the hotel room I stay in while I am there. Often times I pay for our dinners if we go out. Basically, I feel that the one who spends the money is the one who will ultimately get what they want. I never leave a boy undecided rather I want to continue the relationship or not. And most times they want to continue one with me. With pup, he would come to my town to visit me, I would either pay for his gas when he got there or I would pay for him to go home (200 miles).
I relocated to be near him. I asked nor expected any kind of help with finances for my move. Once I was there though, I expected him to treat me to dinner or pay for the gas to go to the beach, ect. As he is a collage student I was aware he didn't have much funds, so I pitched in for gas and we paid dutch to eat out. He would bring grocery's over to my house if he wanted to cook something special for me.
I do not regret any of my decisions and if I had to do them again, I would do them all again, for it is what has made me the kind of Mistress that I am today. To change anything, would mean to change who I am now, and I kind of like who I am now :) I do not just take any submissive that petitions me. I only look for high quality men who have already shown themselves to me that they are worthy of my attention, whether it be time, money or energy.
I was asked on another thread if I wanted my boy to be castrated who would pay for it. I answered that I would. I believe that anytime a Dominant wants something surgically done to their sub, then it is the Dom's responsibility to pay for it. If the submissive WANTS to pitch in, then so be it. But expected to? Not in my opinion.
Now, all of that had to do with money.
We come to investment of time and energy. I would certainly not expect my subs to pay for their training. And if they have experience, I would still train them MY way. I don't care how much time it takes to train them, I would spend it. Because in the long run, it will be to benefit me. If they needed help in other areas of their lives, I most certainly will be there to help them. Whether it be to teach them how to handle their finances or to fix a car. I know quite a bit! <s>
What it all boils down to is this. I want the very best for my submissive. I happen to think that *I* am what is best for him. If it takes time, energy or money, I am willing to "invest" it in what I feel would benefit us both. Now, finding a submissive who is willing to go that extra step is another thing.
I do get tired of submissives coming on here and complaining about Pro-Domina's wanting money. So what if they do? If this is what they do to make a living, who are they, or me for that matter to question or complain about it? At least they know what they are getting for their money and the Pro knows what she is to do for it. But there are plenty of Domina's, myself included, who have been taken for a ride by a submissive. But we live and learn. I learned the hard way, but I wouldn't change what I have done to learn it.
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