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from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/13/2008 11:24:04 PM   
sinkstar


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Status: offline 		If your D/s relationship doesnt work out, will you change the status to "Friends with benefits"?

Im curioius how many ppl will find it fine to be just play partners with someone you was in a serious D/s relationship with.
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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/13/2008 11:25:19 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		In the past I had attempted to delude myself that was possible, however, once I have feelings for someone I always do and expectations go along with those.  Besides, the relationship ended for a reason right? 

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/13/2008 11:28:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sinkstar

If your D/s relationship doesnt work out, will you change the status to "Friends with benefits"?

Im curioius how many ppl will find it fine to be just play partners with someone you was in a serious D/s relationship with.

No, I released him for a reason. I would have no further use for him at that time. If I want a play partner I will find someone else. The emotions of releasing my sub would be too difficult to deal with.
 
I am reminded of the song by Lobo: I love you too much to ever start liking you, so don't expect me to be your friend. I love you too much to ever start liking you, so let's just let this story have an end.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/13/2008 11:32:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sinkstar

If your D/s relationship doesnt work out, will you change the status to "Friends with benefits"?



No.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 5:11:29 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		Couldn't do it. I can't do casual (I can't separate sex and love) so continuing a fuck buddy friendship with a former Dom would be too confusing and painful.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 5:49:30 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		I read a lott about Friends with benifits, but mostly from American's ( no offense please). Can some one explain me what it exactly is? IS it beeing fiends and have sex...or?
(just to be sure :P )

If it is friends with sex..in soem cases I might ant it, but if I care about the person, I prefer the friendship alone.
Friends and sex can be dangerous,

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 6:38:26 AM   
RoughFN


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ORIGINAL: Justme696

I read a lott about Friends with benifits, but mostly from American's ( no offense please). Can some one explain me what it exactly is? IS it beeing fiends and have sex...or?
(just to be sure :P )


you got it. A person you're having some sort of sexual relationship with, but without romantic involvement.


I can handle FWB situations, but I don't think I'd be able to do one with a former slave, at least not initially. Give it a few years for me to get over her and then maybe.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 6:38:28 AM   
beargonewild


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Status: offline 		You are correct. It's having a friendship with a person(s) and sex is also involved. It can be tricky but also exciting and fun! To the OP, my answer would be NO. Though currently I'm in a situation where a friend with benefits has the potential to become a D/s dynamic. 

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 8:16:45 AM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		It has never ever worked out well for me. My feelings always got hurt in the end no matter how much I tried to detach emotionally from the person.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 9:18:38 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sinkstar

If your D/s relationship doesnt work out, will you change the status to "Friends with benefits"?

Im curioius how many ppl will find it fine to be just play partners with someone you was in a serious D/s relationship with.


No. While I can do FWB, once the emotions are there I have only two choices: Have a relationship or stop the play.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 9:25:16 AM   
lauren0221


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Status: offline 		Pretty much what everyone else said. Continuing to play while putting aside my feelings - probably not possible for me - my masochism does have some limits:)

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 9:25:39 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I have ended very very short relationships and they have existed happily as FWB afterwards for years (on in particular) but most of the time that doesnt work out. With the two I have now, it would never work. Fox couldnt do casual... and Angel doesnt have sex. If Angel and I ended, we would still remain friends, we soul just not play with one another with the dynamic we have. For Fox, if anything ever happened to split us up, wed have to cut things cleanly. Thered be no middle ground.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 11:47:03 AM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		I have sex with many friends and it has worked for me, but never after a failed relationship.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/14/2008 2:30:36 PM   
erebus


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Status: offline 		Difficult if not impossible.  Friends, yes, perhaps, but not the full monty.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/15/2008 4:44:35 PM   
AtlantisKing111


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Status: offline 		If a D/s relationship does not work out I could change (and have changed) the relationship to "Freinds".

But "Freinds With Benefits"? 

No.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/15/2008 5:39:31 PM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		This is a tricky topic, because it's what two people can live with and agree upon.  In many cases people are simply too emotionally involved and the Green eyed monster of Jealously can take hold.   It all depends upon the situation, why the D/s relationship ended.

For the most part, once a D/s relationship changes to FWB, one day one of the friends will get involved in another D/s relationship.

Changing a D/s to a FWB status generally is painful for one or the other partner.  Some people can pull this off, but many people can't deal with it mentally and emotionally very well for a prolong period of time.




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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/15/2008 6:01:25 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		I've got a FWB so... that is easy.  I have never gone from D/s to fwb and I would think that it depended on the person and the dynamic we had. 
I do know that I've become better friends, over time, with a fwb, but I'm not sure that the dynamic works in reverse.

LJ

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/15/2008 6:11:07 PM   
sexyred1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sinkstar

If your D/s relationship doesnt work out, will you change the status to "Friends with benefits"?

Im curioius how many ppl will find it fine to be just play partners with someone you was in a serious D/s relationship with.


Ha! Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, it was so fucking tight it choked the life out of me, never again.

Ya hear me now?? So no, don't do it.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/15/2008 7:03:13 PM   
christine1


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Status: offline 		when i lived in vegas my very first dominant wanted that after we ended the relationship and i just couldn't bring myself to do it....there were too many emotions involved on my part....i think i have too  hard a time separating myself from my emotions enough to do that.

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RE: from a serious D/s to FWB - 1/15/2008 9:33:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me, casual friends works best.  FWB?  So far never had an ex I wanted that with.

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