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ORIGINAL: angelslave77

Since we seem to be being good little soldiers and not hijacking threads  I thought I would put this here, and I have no doubt it has been done before, but too bad I say, I am going to have a whinge anyway.

The term "topping from the bottom" fuck me seven ways from Sunday that fucking term drives me nuts. And to avoid confusion what I am speakingof here is those "weal and twue," relationships where the parties are,or believe they are "in love" or "collared" or "owned" or whatever term you want to use here.

If a person has a real and genuine need within a relationship then discussing it with the Dominant is never topping from the bottom  and yet so often the questions phrased are "how do I tell my Dom blah blah without topping from the bottom". Answer is simple you just fucking tell him, and if he thinks you are topping from the bottom he is probably an arrogant ass not worth your time.

Communication is vital in any relationship and reguardless of what we identify as Dom/sub ect we are first and foremost human beings, and as such we form relationships and no matter how you define that relationship, if you want it to be healthy you need to communicate.

What the Dom does with the info is of course entirely at thier discresion and whether you can live with the desicion becomes another post entirely. 


                                 angel
    (who appears to have gotten out of the wrong side of bed this morning)