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julietsierra -> RE: Our Master is cheating (1/18/2008 2:23:52 AM)
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subcolumbus,
I'd also like to point out that in heterosexual, vanilla, marital relationships in which there are offspring, Dads cheat there too and the people who look up to them are devastated as well. At that point, it becomes the responsibility of the other adult person in that relationship to help them hold their world together - even as they're hurting themselves.
You get to be that person that will help your partner hold his world together.
The other thing I'd like to point out is that all of us, along the way, have looked to our fathers as if they were akin to gods. Then, as we grew up, we discovered that they were less than perfect. We discovered that they were often significantly less than the gods we'd thought they were. And for many of us, that was a rude awakening. Some of us didn't like our fathers for a while when we discovered that. Then, slowly, as we grew, we discovered that we didn't love them only when things were going right. We loved them even during the times we didn't respect them. We loved them when they were downright weak. And ultimately, we loved them knowing they weren't gods. We loved our fathers - perhaps even more - for being men, full of foibles and frailities and all the other things that come with being human.
In the end, it's nice loving someone we think is perfect. It's much better loving someone we've endured the crises of living life with. If you can get through this, if your partner can work past the inevietable pain this is going to cause him; if your Master has any desire to move past this coming storm, there is much more waiting for you all.
If either you, your partner or your Master can't move past this, then I'd say that the crises and your support of your partner will create a much deeper connection between the two of you.
In the end, no matter which way it goes, it's going to hurt. And no matter which way it goes, things WILL be better on the other side.
juliet
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