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girlygurl -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 9:17:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

My submission doesn't have a price.

My other "skills"... negotiable.

Cali



OK Cali, what might those "skills" be?  [:D]  hmmmmm me thinks i'm sittin on a million bucks! lol

girly




takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 9:43:02 PM)

How nice of you to to take the time to write to me. i think though you need to read that part again in my journal that you are quoting incorrectly, before other people read it and see that you din't understand what was written.

i am flattered though that you have taken such an interest in me that you read my journal entries.




ModeratorEleven -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 9:49:08 PM)

Ok folks, this nonsense stops now.  The same handful of people are repeatedly engaging in the same behavior and either that behavior ends now or your access to our forums will.  According to your profiles you all claim to be adults, and now it's time to start acting like adults.

XI




BitaTruble -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 10:27:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

You found Your sub, everything is fine except for some reason she doesn't work. (no disability)  he/she is young and healthy.

You are not rich, but you end up paying for all her/his living expenses .  Which You really can't afford. She/he  does not live with you, so you are responsible for everything.

Do You think that this is a good situation for You? Would it ever cross Your mind that a healthy young person who doesn't work is just staying in a relationship with You, so that their expensives are all paid, or do You think that it's a fair trade for her/his submission to You?

In Your opinion what do You see positive about this situation and what do You see negative (if anything) about it.

Thanks




Men have given up crowns, gone to war, literally lost their heads for a woman. That a man would chose to put himself into financial destituition would not surprise me in the least. It's been happening since men, women and wealth were all in the same place at the same time and it's not gender specific. Women will do the exact same thing.

Celeste

edited for an article




takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 10:37:00 PM)

How true, Remember Helen of Troy?




laurell3 -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 10:51:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

You found Your sub, everything is fine except for some reason she doesn't work. (no disability)  he/she is young and healthy.

You are not rich, but you end up paying for all her/his living expenses .  Which You really can't afford. She/he  does not live with you, so you are responsible for everything.

Do You think that this is a good situation for You? Would it ever cross Your mind that a healthy young person who doesn't work is just staying in a relationship with You, so that their expensives are all paid, or do You think that it's a fair trade for her/his submission to You?

In Your opinion what do You see positive about this situation and what do You see negative (if anything) about it.

Thanks




I'm not sure what the word "rich" means.  One can not be overtly wealthy and still desire to have their SO/spouse stay home for various reasons including caring for the home, caring for the children (and with the price of daycare for multiple children that might actually save money sometimes) and still be a totally healthy dynamic.

Personally without some such reason I can't imagine my SO not having career goals and having their life revolve solely around me.   I do know there are those here that do that and I have no problem with them doing it or their dynamic.  What works for you does.  It's not my place to judge.  However, it would seem a bit too clingy for me personally. 

I didn't address the issue of them taking advantage because that just simply would never be a motivation that would be acceptable to me nor would I be in that type of serious relationship with someone with that motivation.




takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 11:03:00 PM)

Rich means wealthy in this particular case. In this senario (made up of course) this person is being supported in an apartment of her own. It really isn't judging someone else's relationship. It's more about would you ever want a relationship like this and would it work for you.




laurell3 -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 11:08:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Rich means wealthy in this particular case. In this senario (made up of course) this person is being supported in an apartment of her own. It really isn't judging someone else's relationship. It's more about would you ever want a relationship like this and would it work for you.


I think I answered that.  But I'm not opposed to it for the reasons you stated.  If you desire it obviously they aren't taking advantage.  My feeling (which is hypothetical of course) is they would lack the independence I think would make a relationship with me work well.

I make the caveat taken because it is polite regardless of what your OP states.  There are those here with that dynamic and I want them to know I am not being judgmental of their dynamic, I'm not implying you are judging them by doing so, merely extending a caveat to explain my opinion further.




takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/15/2008 11:36:15 PM)

No, i don't think that you are doing that at all and i hope that they don't either. Although that situation would'nt be right for me. i know that not everything is for everyone.




cherrypez -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 3:36:09 AM)

    I didn't read where she said the sub worked in the home and I am not sure what you mean by working in the home.   Does that mean she is a 'housewife' (for lack of a better word) or she is doing some sort of in home business?   Either way I don't have an issue with either way but FOR ME, I NEED my own income.   I NEED my career.   It's  a very important part of who I am.   And when someone asks if this type of dynamic meaning me staying home and working or staying home in a 'housewife' mode would work for me, I would have to say NO it would not work for me.




parttimehotty -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 5:36:50 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

You found Your sub, everything is fine except for some reason she doesn't work. (no disability)  he/she is young and healthy.

You are not rich, but you end up paying for all her/his living expenses .  Which You really can't afford. She/he  does not live with you, so you are responsible for everything.

Do You think that this is a good situation for You? Would it ever cross Your mind that a healthy young person who doesn't work is just staying in a relationship with You, so that their expensives are all paid, or do You think that it's a fair trade for her/his submission to You?

In Your opinion what do You see positive about this situation and what do You see negative (if anything) about it.

Thanks




How long have you been together?  Did she EVER live w/you? Why in the world would you support someone who's not living w/you? And why isn't she working?  Would you do this w/your children? If they just didn't feel like working because Daddy will foot the bills? And last question..........will you please be my Daddy? i'll submit my resignation tomorrow and you can just contribute to my Paypal acct. W/we can do the online thingy and never even have to meet[:@]

**No disrespect intended, merely trying to prove a point**




Maynard -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 5:50:04 AM)

wow, where did all this drama come out of? did i miss a post? i thought i read them all in this blog.




LaTigresse -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 6:29:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Maynard

wow, where did all this drama come out of? did i miss a post? i thought i read them all in this blog.


In this particular instance I am going with the thought process that "ignorance is bliss"




domahpet -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 7:21:46 AM)

takenbyjohnr07-

you crack me up! i dont know if you signed on thinking youd be a pro flamer like some of the guys here, but if you did youre going about alllllll wrong! If you really are a sub, even tho some of us go back and forth, theres alway care and concern behind it, theres absolutly none from you. You come off like a tantrum thowing 5 yr old, then change your scene as soon as a mod shows up. If youre wanting to do it you need to have correct facts and wayyyy more experience so you can at least back your shit, not just blindly attack whoever dosent agree with you.

youre not making any friends here thats for sure. and if your first thought to that sentence is "i dont want any friends here"
maybe you should think about cancelling your membership. if youre here just to be a bitch to people, i think youll find soon that people are just gonna start ignoring you, blocking you, and even deleting you unread.

questions id like a real answer to is where is your john? does he know you come off at people like this? is he teaching you manners and decorm as part of your training? since youve only been together a minute, surely youre still in your training period, right? or is he online only?   i think these are fair questions, but if your not comfortable answering here, ill take a note on the other side.[;)]




OscarHargraves -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 7:34:13 AM)

The whole point here is that YOU think you made/are making a mistake.  If you didn't then you wouldn't have asked.  You're the Dom, right?  If you feel the situation is wrong then FIX IT !  Tell the Sub to get a job and contribute to her own welfare.  If that doesn't work then 'beat feet' and 'make haste' in your search for the replacement.  




KatyLied -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 7:35:47 AM)

I think she's the sub in question, not the dom.  Her dom doesn't post here, to my knowledge.




Rianne -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 7:41:34 AM)

I'm wondering how the relationship started....what did she do before this one was footing the bills?  There are plenty of Sugar Daddy relationships around...where the expectation is that one is always available for service, but if it's not affordable I don't understand why it's even an option.  Perhaps some kind of credit counseling or financial planning help is needed.




domahpet -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 7:51:14 AM)

she is so not the dom, read her 'journal'
which is obviously written for her doms benifit
g[:'(]g!
either that or she has multiple personality disorder




Justme696 -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 10:39:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: domahpet

she is so not the dom, read her 'journal'
which is obviously written for her doms benifit
g[:'(]g!
either that or she has multiple personality disorder


I am completely confused about who is who now




Dnomyar -> RE: Woul dthis ever cross your mnd? (1/16/2008 11:19:43 AM)

justme you need to go with Horton.




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