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maitreabsolu -> please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 5:55:55 AM)
why dont some people answer their messages, even if , or especially if, you are not interested? a simple ' no thanks' would do ?being a sub or a slave starts by being polite and respecting others ?? [Mod note : Please do not post the same thing to multiple forums]

ragdoll -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 6:11:05 AM)
i try to respond to every Message i get... but some days i have several (not as many as some women!! i know) and i just feel exhausted simply "thinking" about writing "not interested" to everyone... ESPECIALLY to people who clearly didn't read my Profile. Example. i get messages from Men even though my profile says my orientation is Lesbian (i use to have it set to Bisexual). And.. in the area of my profile where i did my own "write up" i do go on to say that "Bisexual" suits me better... but that right now i have no interest in a relationship with a man (this is why i changed my orientation to Lesbian, because i thought i'd make it extra easier for men to "understand" that i'm not interested)..... YET i still get Messages from men... asking me about being a submissive.. asking if i want to be "their" submissive... talking to me about their relationship philosophy... and asking if i'd like to "get to know them better so we can potentially have a relationship"... and i feel like.... if someone clearly didn't read my Profile, why should i take the time to write them a polite "no thank you" message back? i've even gotten messages from submissive men asking me to "dominate" them... errrrrrrrr? .................... i'm sure a lot of other people experience the same thing. People who write them that clearly haven't read their Profile thoroughly. OR there are people that send notes like "You obey me! I am the best Master in the US. I am very skilled. You must write me back slave!" ~ and notes like that i don't really feel like i should respond to either .......... i guess.... being polite has it's limits, you know? i know there are some other topics about this too... (theres a grand one that AAkasha started titled Subs - how to get a dominant interested - and stay interested - and though it's directed at submissives i really think everyone can learn from the advice given there)... ~ it also kind of partially answers the question of why someone might not respond. ^_^

sultryvoice -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 7:08:42 AM)
Common courtesy is something I give and expect...I answer every email, even if it's way out of line..I have found that many do not read the profiles..but I will answer all emails no matter how bad they are.. Respectfully, sultry

kyraofMists -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 8:28:03 AM)
For me respect is earned not given out of hand just because someone decides they want to interact with me and considers themself Dominant. Secondly, no one is going to earn my respect if they do not respect the limits that my Lord and I have set up. My profile clearly says not to email me directly but to send all emails and invitations to my Lord. my Lord will instruct me to respond to an email if He has given someone permission to contact me. If you have not been given permission to email me directly, then I see no reason to be polite and respond. That being said, I usually respond (with my Lord's permission) pointing out how the person has not respected the limits set up in my profile and that I have no interest in the interaction. Knight's kyra

tedibare -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 8:45:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maitreabsolu why dont some people answer their messages, even if , or especially if, you are not interested? a simple ' no thanks' would do ?being a sub or a slave starts by being polite and respecting others ?? why do some people refuse to read profiles? if your going to write to someone, at least know who your writing to before you do. i answer all my emails, BUT i will answer them in my time, not someone elses, and if someone doesnt like it, they can be put on ignore... oh and btw being polite and respecting others is NOT restricted to subs/slaves, its ALL people tedi

junecleaver -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 9:20:26 AM)
It's simple: I don't want to. Some people get very offended over unanswered mail. I have sent out an e-mail or two and gotten nothing back. It wasn't a huge deal. If I answered all my mail, I would never have time to post in the forums. Not to mention half of the people who e-mail me, just want in my pants or have an entirely different opinion on what D/s is. IMHO, people shouldn't be so oversensitive.

Lordandmaster -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 9:23:20 AM)
I think starting TWO simultaneous threads on the same topic is a lot more offensive than not responding to an unsolicited e-mail.

ElektraUkM -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 12:12:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maitreabsolu why dont some people answer their messages, even if , or especially if, you are not interested? a simple ' no thanks' would do ?being a sub or a slave starts by being polite and respecting others ?? "being a sub or a slave starts by being polite and respecting others ??" I don't think that subs ought to be more or less polite or respectful than anyone else. Personally, I answer ALL my emails. I love communicating with people. Contrary to the 'deluge' that women usually (?) receive on this site, I don't get more than two or three emails a day, usually short, usually easily responded to. This is because the person is either saying 'hello, you look cute, but I see you're taken', or it's something really off-the-wall or mass-mailing-esque and it only needs a quick 'hello, thanks, I'm not looking' email and it's all over. Actually, either I'm the ONE profile outline that is guaranteed to deflect 'asshole' emails... or I'm really great at discouraging the amorous with my polite one-liners LOL [:D] But while we're on the topic... I have wondered for a while now if some (many?) of those 'female sub' profiles that attract so much attention on here aren't actually the work of men wanting to chat to women on the site. If so.. then that would explain all the so-called 'rude' female subs on here ~ If male doms write to these bogus profiles, they're unlikely to get any response at all. ~ Elektra

Kasia -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 1:00:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maitreabsolu why dont some people answer their messages, even if , or especially if, you are not interested? a simple ' no thanks' would do ?being a sub or a slave starts by being polite and respecting others ?? She probably has damn good reasons. I wonder what was in that message that didnt get any answer........

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 2:10:37 PM)
Are the messages you send them respectful? Do they show your genuine interest in them? Have you read their profile thoroughly? Have you made your intentions known? Have you checked to see if they are even seeking someone? If you answered yes to these questions, then it is possible that they are just getting too many e-mails, and are therefore missing out on a good thing. Also, some people on this site can be rude, or simply don't know the protocol for e-mail ettiquette. Or maybe they just haven't read your message yet. There are lots of reasons people don't answer their mail. I, for one, try to answer all of it. It may not be for several days, but I do try. Even if it's a rude one, I respond with courtesy if the message is thoughtful. I know I'm not alone in that, so just hold out and someone will mail you back.

Aileen68 -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 2:14:48 PM)
If it's an obvious form letter then I don't answer. If it's also obvious that You didn't read my profile I won't answer. If You can't spell out all the words in your letter i.e. u instead of you...then I won't answer (that is a huge pet peeve of mine). I find that if I email You back saying thanks but no thanks...You almost always take that as a sign that I really do want to chat and I'm just playing hard to get (not!). So as much as it goes against my nature I find that it is easier to not answer. On a side note though...if You can make me laugh with that initial message I will usually respond with a message (still with a "no" though).

Kasia -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 2:50:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 If it's an obvious form letter then I don't answer. If it's also obvious that You didn't read my profile I won't answer. If You can't spell out all the words in your letter i.e. u instead of you...then I won't answer (that is a huge pet peeve of mine). I find that if I email You back saying thanks but no thanks...You almost always take that as a sign that I really do want to chat and I'm just playing hard to get (not!). So as much as it goes against my nature I find that it is easier to not answer. On a side note though...if You can make me laugh with that initial message I will usually respond with a message (still with a "no" though). Ditto. And I dont consider it rude for not answering - I consider it rude to get any of those kind of messages at first place.

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 3:40:04 PM)
quote: I think starting TWO simultaneous threads on the same topic is a lot more offensive than not responding to an unsolicited e-mail. Does it truly matter that much? People are going to continue posting repetitively, regardless of what we say. Don't sweat the small stuff so much. And it appears that it's all small stuff.

ElektraUkM -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 4:13:32 PM)
Just checked your profile and you're living maybe 20 miles from me and a few other people on this site (that I've chatted with) at the most. Why do I feel your whole first/second post(s) to this board were a whole waste of time, when they could have been so much more...? Welcome to the board. You've done a very sensible thing (to my mind) in crossing over to the discussion forums, rather than languishing in the horror that is the email approach!!!!! ~ Elektra

Lordandmaster -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/28/2005 8:46:55 PM)
It's against the rules, and USUALLY duplicate threads are pulled. quote: ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain quote: I think starting TWO simultaneous threads on the same topic is a lot more offensive than not responding to an unsolicited e-mail. Does it truly matter that much? People are going to continue posting repetitively, regardless of what we say. Don't sweat the small stuff so much. And it appears that it's all small stuff.

plantlady64 -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/29/2005 9:59:00 AM)
Hello There, I am a polite sub & do respond to all my messages even ones who come from obvious lunk heads who saw my photo and didn't even read my profile. I'd like to turn your question around and say I wonder why do Dom's send messages to subs and ask to chat, or write from long distances asking if they can get to know you better, when in your profile you state you don't chat or want long distance pen pals? Maybe other subs choose not to waste time on people who send messages that don't meet their stated criteria. I think there are as many Doms sending out messages to subs who clearly state their desires that don't even come close to what the sub seeks. Then they have the nerve to be bent out of shape when you do write back that they should have read your profile as they don't meet what you seek. I say who knows why losers do what they do? I just don't get it. Sincerely, sub suzanne

KatyLied -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/29/2005 5:10:19 PM)
I don't feel compelled to answer every message I receive. I don't feel it's rude to not respond. There may be something in the sender's profile, or journal that turns me off. Sometimes there are other reasons, such as their location or what they are seeking.

fastlane -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/29/2005 5:14:01 PM)
I answer everyone that e mails me and I answer many that don't....just for the helluva it.

Wills -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/31/2005 9:07:26 AM)
why dont some people answer their messages, even if , or especially if, you are not interested? a simple ' no thanks' would do ?being a sub or a slave starts by being polite and respecting others ?? I've read all the posts concerning this topic on this page,and i understand all of your reasons for replying unto your messages or not,and everyone is definetly entitled to their own opinions i message submissives' and slaves',and i do so respectably,but i believe less than half of em bother to reply,i guess maybe it's cuz i'm old, i'm 55, but in my opinion i believe it is just plain flat out rude not to reply to someone who messages you,i answer all mail i receive,but it is seldom i receive any mail ~Wills

OsideGirl -> RE: please be polite, answer your messages (8/31/2005 9:44:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: maitreabsolu why dont some people answer their messages, even if , or especially if, you are not interested? a simple ' no thanks' would do ?being a sub or a slave starts by being polite and respecting others ?? [Mod note : Please do not post the same thing to multiple forums] My profile states that I am a collared submissive who likes to top women and I'm looking for female playmates for myself. If you're a male (Dom or sub) that emails me looking for anything other than polite conversation, then you've obviously have not read my profile or you've convinced yourself that you're the exception. I view these emails to be the collarme.com equivalent of a telemarketing call. I have no reason to be polite or respectful to you, since you have not been polite or respectful to me.

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