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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 4:27:48 PM

daddyncherry

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i choose to use the world "cultivate"...he cultivates in me what he wishes to be there...he also teaches me to do things as he wishes them to be done...

i submit to no one other than him, but i am by nature a people pleaser type....If there is an occasion that we play with another couple, or another Dom uses me, then it is by my Daddy's choice, but i am NOT submissive to that Dom...i am polite and mannerly and do what comes natural...but i am abiding by my Daddy's will.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 4:54:52 PM

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Since I'm sure you meant no offense (right?) I'm okay with the word "trained". It simply is another way of saying "taught". Parents train/teach their children after all (potty "training"), so the word isn't all that offensive IMHO. Just the way it is used. The word "training" seems that it is mostly used for pets and the word "teaching" for humans.
Well, with that said, I like the slow and steady integration approach. Till one day I wake up and realize that I'm his completely

. Even to the point where I've learned to like former limits.
But of course he will teach me any way he desires and I will learn. Whether I learn that I like it or hate it is another story. He'll demand that I like it of course, lol.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 5:02:20 PM

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As a sub/slave, what do you believe you should be trained for? Do you look for someone that will teach you to be submissive entirely in all relationships, but maybe with a sense to danger or harm? Or do you look for someone to teach you to be a slave to that person, but have a will towards others? If neither of these, how do you want to be trained?

I should be trained by a 6' 4" ripped hunk with long dark hair that looks like Antonio Banderas... if he dresses like Zorro that is a big plus. I think being trained to be submissive entirely in all my dealings with others is a great idea. It would force me to keep that submissive mindset and help me to serve Him much better.

I would also like to be trained to catch a Frisbee in my mouth, do my own plastic surgery, and to speak in tongues on command.

edited because i need training in grammar as well.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 5:13:21 PM

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I dont wish to be trained and Sir does not wish to train me. We are both growing in our roles and learning together. I know what pleases him and do all I can to make him happy beauase that in turn brings me joy. But no one taught me that, that is just who I am

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 6:04:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Training is bullshit, the word came out of chatrooms and is an excuse for many to do things they otherwise wouldn't do with people they otherwise wouldn't get involved in.

How can someone else train you to serve anyone other than themselves? Its like learning French so you can go live in Russia.

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ORIGINAL: peppermint

I'm sorry, but i have a real dislike of the term "train" when in context to what i do for him daily. I have a mind and can observe, therefore, i learned, without being trained, how to fix his coffee, how he likes his food cooked, what makes him laugh.

This pretty much sums it up for me.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 6:07:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: txnights05

I should be trained by a 6' 4" ripped hunk with long dark hair that looks like Antonio Banderas... if he dresses like Zorro that is a big plus.

Hot damn! We must have shared the same mental wavelength at some point, lol.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 6:54:41 PM

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i am trained for whatever Master chooses me to be trained for
its what He wants, that is what i wish to be trained for

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:06:37 PM

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I'll admit, "trained" is a bad word for it, maybe "informed" or "taught" is better. Anyway, I must not have worded my question right. I am NOT asking whether or not you are satisfied with your Dom/me's methods. I guess I mean what desires for submissiveness did you bring into your current/past/future relationships? Some answers hinted that there was no expectations other than the Dom/me's expectations, that seems unrealistic to me.

What "limitations" do you expect in D/s or M/s relationships? At what times do you desire to be submissive, and at what times do you wish to be in top space? Where should your freedoms be? How much freedom do you expect in those areas? Do you expect absolute freedom in anything (ex. being allowed to make your own choices and behaviors with no "influences" at work)?

I apologize, my first question was not well thought out. These are closer to what I was looking for.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 7:39:51 PM

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First, how he wants his tea.

Seriously, he isn't about to waste his time trying to change my personality and make me into someone I'm not. If he wanted someone who submitted to everyone, he would have looked for that. In fact he can't train me to feel submissive towards him, but he does inspire it.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 10:14:42 PM

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Snapdragon,

You are in essence asking how to make a D/s relationship work which is a rather big question. There is no "one size fits all answer" but let me pass on a few things that work for me.

I couldn't make D/s work for me till I understood myself and my motivations and instead of forcing myself into other's notions of what a dominant is, I forged my own path of what I wanted.

Second, submission isn't some switch that once on allows you to order someone around and they will enjoy it. Finding someone who gets off on what you order them to do is key. That and understanding that they are going to ebb and flow just like you do, some days they need to be chained down and raped and other times they need to sit in your lap while you brush their hair. However, learn to take care of one, make them happy and the things they will do for you in return will curl your toes.

The trick is knowing what things you can be flexible about and still be happy (meaning you can be with someone who needs flexibility) and what things you need to be rigid about. Some women would get off on being controlled at work, others it would piss them the fuck off.

The trap people fall into is thinking they "need" to control this or that issue when in fact, they don't actually care but think their partner will think less of them. I am rambling but your question covers a lot of ground.

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/16/2008 10:33:22 PM

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i am being trained to, please my Owner in every way that is humanly possible. i am learning his wants and desires. He is teaching me protocol, definbitions and meanings. How certain instruments that can be used to cause emmence pain can be used to create great pleasure. He's training me to push my limits and to explore everything he has to offer. The only thing he doesn't have to teach me is to love him and to be submissive,

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RE: How should you be trained? - 1/17/2008 6:22:02 AM

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What "limitations" do you expect in D/s or M/s relationships?

Hmmm

I don't EXPECT a dayum thing.
I don't put limitations on relationships at all.
I don't tell him how it's going to be.
Should I keep going?

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