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homedespot -> RE: A Kissing Question (1/18/2008 7:24:11 PM)
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First of all...use proper sentence structure....(paragraphs would also be nice).
(Allow me):
"While I have responded to posts, I have never initiated one, (and) so, with a deep breath, I’ll spit out a situation that has been troubling me; AAkasha’s question entitled; “Limits of Cocksuckers” piqued my curiosity to actually ask a question.
Mistress and I have been together for five years now, and 24/7 for the last two. We love each other deeply and are happy.
Over the last year the nature of our relationship has been evolving. I won’t bore you with details but, suffice it to say that Mistress's expectations have become more demanding, and some degree of emotional distance has crept in. That is not to say we are moving apart, quite the opposite.
It would seem that the “colder” she becomes, the more submissive I become, and (yet) the closer we get. We have weekly “beer and wing(s)” nights where we get a sitter, go out and speak freely of anything and everything.
We make time to communicate, and take it seriously.
My question is this; In these chats, Mistress has remarked that she is finding it more and more inappropriate to kiss me. In her words “it just doesn’t seem right somehow”. I’m referring to "lips to lips" contact, which I relish, and Mistress used to.
Mistress says that her feelings are just as strong toward me as they ever were, indeed, stronger.
It’s just (that) the more she sees me as a slave, the more uncomfortable it gets.
Is this normal?
Have others experienced this?"
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Yes. Of course.
Clearly I...and anyone reading this, has only your vantage point.
A woman I used to date...an attorney...said; "There are 3 sides to every story....yours, hers...and the truth".
You might easily be telling the truth....but it's you're story.
I'm guessing you are telling the truth...but it's still your story.
Here's what I'm hearing (from your vantage point):
She's already interested in someone else.
She's made that clear.
You have several choices....the most important being (from a fellow sub); get out...she's shopping you.
Get out before you're old news.
You're already page 6...she's "better dealing" you.
(Better deal her first).
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Jeepers Creepers!
First: screw off on the writing critique. he wrote from passion and feeling and not for an english class. Secondly he did tell the truth. Not his truth. Not my truth. Perhaps your relationships happen where people aren't honest and talk to each other but ours doesn't. We have been together for 5 years. He isn't going anywhere. I'm not shopping him. And you "fellow sub" are an idi*t.
As for the kissing thing. I have just found that as our relationship in the Domme/sub way deepens my "romantic" feelings lessen. For Me this has been FABULOUS and I'm really enjoying it, and jssubc. But it does also mean that I kiss less. Akasha pointed out that it can be like another form of denial. That is exactly how I think of it. Thank you for putting it so well.. The poor boy isn't going without being kissed ever again but the two hour long necking sessions of 5 years ago aren't around and I do feel that kissing him is a (very enjoyable for Me) reward for him. Reread what he wrote.
The colder I become the more submissive he becomes.
I like it when he is more submissive.
hence...and therefore...etc.
No I am not dumping him, in-fact, as he said our relationship is stronger and deeper then ever. But I don't see him, anymore, as a romantic partner. Sorry. I know that violates all your stupid rules of how things are "supposed" to look. I see him as a slave. My slave. Period. your profile says you are a "plain ole sub" and that (among others) you have a hard limit of shopping. Good. you are a submissive. you get to say "you can do this but you can't do that". He isn't. He's a slave...so to quote your profile.
Deal with it.
And as your eyes glaze over perhaps you might consider the fact that it is just better that way. Go glaze yourself.
J.
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