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sunkstar -> Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 6:19:51 PM)
I showed an interest on fisting, now he is going to work on it from next session. I didnt know it would be this soon, I dont even have many sex experience. Although he assured me he would take it slowly and there would be no injury, and he has exp on fisting, I still feel scared, but I told him I would be obedient and I don't want to quit now. What bothers me the most is Im not sure if it will affect my sex life in the future, bcos he said there will be a lot of stretching. Also, how long does it take to suceed on fisting usually?

decstorm37 -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 6:25:07 PM)
Even though there is stretching it will go back to normal. As for the time frame it all depends each person is diff. Just relax and enjoy it.

GreedyTop -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 6:30:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: decstorm37 Even though there is stretching it will go back to normal. As for the time frame it all depends each person is diff. Just relax and enjoy it. and use LOTS AND LOTS of lube....there is no such thing as too much lube, when fisting! :)

Archer -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 6:46:14 PM)
Hopefully he will begin you with a whole lot mre educaton about fisting than you currently have before he starts because there are alot of things the bottom kinda has to know to do during. Instead of spending time here maybe a bit of online reading on the subject. Nothing reduces fear and better than educating yourself.

daddyncherry -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 6:48:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Archer Hopefully he will begin you with a whole lot mre educaton about fisting than you currently have before he starts because there are alot of things the bottom kinda has to know to do during. Instead of spending time here maybe a bit of online reading on the subject. Nothing reduces fear and better than educating yourself. Really? Such as? Inquiring minds want to know please[:)]

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 7:02:24 PM)
My first question is WHAT experiance do they have, what kind of trainig and can they prove it to you. There is a lot more to fisting then lube and a fist. People can say anything to anyone, and for someone to get ahold of a virgin hole... they most definately will say anything... I suggest postpone it and watch a few fistings first

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 8:25:50 PM)
Wasn't a hand in the bush a book about fisting and supposed to be a pretty good one too?

SimplyMichael -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 9:10:05 PM)
I have that book and it sucks

sexyred1 -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 9:19:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunkstar I showed an interest on fisting, now he is going to work on it from next session. I didnt know it would be this soon, I dont even have many sex experience. Although he assured me he would take it slowly and there would be no injury, and he has exp on fisting, I still feel scared, but I told him I would be obedient and I don't want to quit now. What bothers me the most is Im not sure if it will affect my sex life in the future, bcos he said there will be a lot of stretching. Also, how long does it take to suceed on fisting usually? I think if you do not have much experience in sex in general, then fisting is perhaps putting the cart before the horse.

KnOcala -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 9:25:48 PM)
communicate your concerns and express an interests to delay the initial fisting and greadually work to that point

BoundDown -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 9:29:13 PM)
Fisting, if done right, is amazing. I wouldn't worry about becoming "loose", a babies shoulders are way bigger than a fist, and it's all muscle just keep doing those kegels. of course lube is very importent and I hope you have a good relationship with the "fistor" and trust them to be telling the truth. Now, I am eagerly awaiting the response to what the bottom has to practice to be prepared for fisting because I must have missed class that day.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 9:31:23 PM)
And why is that? quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael I have that book and it sucks

windandfire -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 9:40:17 PM)
On one hand as long as he's watched it done himself he should be okay, make sure you let your feelings known and communicate what's going on. I mean, some people here say that you should demand to know what experience he's had. On the other hand, everyone has to learn sometime. If you happen to be the person he learns on, it doesn't mean the whole thing is doomed to disaster. Just make sure you're with a responsible enough dom, and that you're vocal when it comes to something that could actually injure you. Yeah, like someone above me said. Read up on it yourself. That way you'll know if it just isn't working or if it is. After you've read, trust that they do know what they're doing until they show sings of otherwise not.

girlygurl -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 10:05:39 PM)
I've wondered about fisting but not too sure since my Sir has such big hands.... I experienced it like 20 years ago with someone that had much smaller hands but I don't recall it being incredible. I'm sure it's all in the wrist [:D] girly

breatheasone -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 10:31:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunkstar I showed an interest on fisting, now he is going to work on it from next session. I didnt know it would be this soon, I dont even have many sex experience. Although he assured me he would take it slowly and there would be no injury, and he has exp on fisting, I still feel scared, but I told him I would be obedient and I don't want to quit now. What bothers me the most is Im not sure if it will affect my sex life in the future, bcos he said there will be a lot of stretching. Also, how long does it take to suceed on fisting usually? Daddy and I have been trying on and off since May of last year...and just got it about a week ago....

Archer -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/17/2008 10:59:59 PM)
Well lets see angles of entry (Some possitions make entry easier than others) (additionally considering the amount of time it often takes possitioning can make a difference according to legth of time the encounter may take ie comfortable possition earlier on and adjusting to aan angle that makes completion easier later) , adjustment of the pelvis angle, (a shift of the hips can make some difference) Depending on if you are going to do anal fisting as well dietary adjustments and cleaning, Aftercare for any internal scratches since many times the bottom will have to take the care for themselves the following days. I'd have to go back and re read since I have limited experience. It's not rocket science stuff but considering the absence of knowledge the post indicated to me it's stuff that they might need to know.

Maya2001 -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/18/2008 3:28:30 AM)
The person you need to talk to and say all that you have said here is him, he won't how you feel unless you tell him, that is not the same as being disobedient, because being scared and worried is not the way you want to start out fisting because you need to be relaxed for something like that inorder for your muscles to stretch..

Justme696 -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/18/2008 3:55:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Maya2001 The person you need to talk to and say all that you have said here is him, he won't how you feel unless you tell him, that is not the same as being disobedient, because being scared and worried is not the way you want to start out fisting because you need to be relaxed for something like that inorder for your muscles to stretch.. That is a very wise advise. Communicate to relax else you might get hurt. Perhaps a safety word to start with?

DesFIP -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/18/2008 4:05:38 AM)
So why are you going to be obedient to a play partner who won't even have you in his house? This is a two way street, if you don't feel able to submit to him then why promise to be obedient and take it. Tell him you aren't ready. Tell him you'll think about it and if and when you want him to do this, then you'll tell him. But that it's off limits until then.

Phoenix2raven -> RE: Im so scared about the coming fisting (1/18/2008 7:11:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunkstar I showed an interest on fisting, now he is going to work on it from next session. I didnt know it would be this soon, I dont even have many sex experience. Although he assured me he would take it slowly and there would be no injury, and he has exp on fisting, I still feel scared, but I told him I would be obedient and I don't want to quit now. What bothers me the most is Im not sure if it will affect my sex life in the future, bcos he said there will be a lot of stretching. Also, how long does it take to suceed on fisting usually? kegals are your friend. The first step to fisting is communication. If you can't ask questions of him. He shouldn't be trying to fist you. It takes as long as it takes. Google is your friend as well. Research Phoenix keeper of the kung fu pussy.

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