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BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/17/2008 9:55:19 PM   
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While browsing through the NCSF website, I ran across some recommended 'sound bites' (article linked below) when speaking to others on the subject of BDSM, D/s. It got me to wondering what sort of platform the fora dwellers would speak on if they had their 15 mins of fame on Larry King or some similar show. I've included the topics of the soundbites from the NCSF website just to help kickstart the thread, but feel free to come up with your own. I realize that there will be a lot of people who would not feel comfortable coming out at a national level (or at all) but for those who do, which of these (or something else) are important enough for you to spend your time on if given the chance? What message would you hope to put out there for your chosen topic?

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 8:25:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		If I were to have such an opportunity I would speak on safe words and dispelling other BDSM myths.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 8:37:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks for the reply, Mist. I thought the thread would generate more interest. I guess they can't all be gems! I think dispelling myths about BDSM is a great topic to go on that sort of show. I just noticed that I forgot to mention my own topic, which holds hand very well with BDSM myths and that is one of education. I don't think the vanilla public would be aware of just how many practioners do advocate getting yourself educated whether that's learning human anatomy or how to tie someone up without causing damage. Obviously, that's not a universal advocacy, but it is pretty prevalent from my experience and an important message to get out there to anyone who wants to partake in inherently dangerous activities. I don't think a lot of people would poo poo the idea of getting some education and training under their belt before they jump out an airplane for the first time. :)

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 9:12:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would be like erin and talk about safeword usage, I would talk about the ignorant usage of the words acronym SSC.  Health and safety issues would also be a great topic - I am constantly surprised how little people know about STDs and anatomy in general and  I would particularly like to see a soundbyte of legal issues regarding BDSM and recommendations of what to consider when moving into a full on 24/7 LTR - including insurances, wills, health cover and other future 'covers' particularly when not married or living in poly relationships.
 
What message would I want to put out?  Be informed and be responsible for your own decisions and actions, even if you submit - regardless of your orientation.
 
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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 9:27:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Most of what's been mentioned so far seems a bit, well, earnest. If I had 15 minutes to talk about BDSM, I might spend five of them on health, safety, and dispelling myths, but I think I'd spend the other 10 telling people how much fun - and fulfilling - it all is.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 9:49:49 AM   
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I'd add stuff about healthy Ms relationships vs abusive ones.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 10:07:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		What a timely thread  for me.

Though I have not posted much here I do read the forums several times every day and feel as though I know many of you indirectly through your opinions.

I have been challenging myself over the last 4 years during the filming of a complex documentary that I hope will speak to those who live it in one way or another and those who are on the fringes and beyond.

I believe (in this moment) that if given my 15 minutes of fame on Larry King I would discuss how hard it is to really live within a D/s relationship, how difficult it is to find a partner that compliments you and how much actual responsiblity both partners must take in their respective roles to be successful.

Of course ending it on the positive note that if  both  are willing and able to fight tooth and nail for what they believe in and need D/s is the heaven and hell so many of us desire.

Thank you for this thread ~~smile~~

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 10:28:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd like to watch it; will you let us know about your film, when it is ready?

Public speaking=hard limit! However, I would write to a general "Dummies"-type topic, probably aim for amusing ("It's not your father's slap and tickle...")

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 3:36:11 PM   
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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 3:42:35 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wheldrake

Most of what's been mentioned so far seems a bit, well, earnest. If I had 15 minutes to talk about BDSM, I might spend five of them on health, safety, and dispelling myths, but I think I'd spend the other 10 telling people how much fun - and fulfilling - it all is.


Excellent point, Wheldrake! I think of Larry King and shows like it as being a bit more circumspect, but with a single thought, you've graced the way for a whole new perception to put out to the general public. How could I possibly have forgotten that when I have so much damn fun myself! It's not all hard work, bleeding and sweat .. there's lots of laughter and good times to be found. In fact, it's mostly laughter and good times in the relationship I share with Himself.

Thank you for both the post and the reminder.  

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 3:55:31 PM   
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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 4:37:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble


Safe, Sane and Consensual
RACK
The Need for Educational and Social SM Gatherings
Safe Words
Communication and Negotiation
Sensual, Loving Sexual Expression
Defining SM, Dominance & Submission and Bondage
Statistics of Practitioners
Combat Stereotypes
Discrimination and Violence
SM Practitioners Are Not Sick
 
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I would probably talk about my own personal interests and hobbies. None of the above topics strike me as anything that need to be discussed.

I imagine that Dr Phil would do a pretty good job of discussing sensual, loving expression, communication and negotiation.

Everything else on the list is simply a matter of interpretation and if I tried to defend any or all of them, all someone would have to do is read a few threads out here and they could easily prove me wrong.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 5:49:04 PM   
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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 6:18:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd talk about the fact that submission doesn't equal weak doormat, it takes strength of character to submit. And that it takes a different kind of strength and good decision-making skills to be Dominant. But mostly, I'd try to show that it can be a full, loving relationship and heaps of fun! With that, I'd try to mention subspace, endorphins and the fact that a lot of pain and other play is intended to take you there.

In My second 15 minutes LOL ... I'd probably talk about punishment and play, different ways people build their relationships ... and poly. Yep, I'm brave or silly LOL!

Great topic Celeste
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Edited to add ... and safe calls ... and their possible benefit to the vanilla world too!

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 6:39:50 PM   
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I'm just peeking in to say I don't think there is anything I could possibly say in just 15 minutes. 


Ha ha, I was thinking ‘I only get 15 minutes?’ but you beat me to it (does that make you a sadist?)
 

I think if I were presenting to a vanilla audience I would want to explain that for many of us it includes so much more than sex.  I would try to describe how D/s is the meal, sex the dessert and sometimes one can be so sated that dessert becomes superfluous.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 6:40:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		If I was ever going to speak publically about this, I would most likely like to expound upon the misconceptions about BDSM, i.e. how sick we all are, how subs/slaves must have low self esteem, how people involved in BDSM must have gone there because of some abuse issues, or inabilities to function in "normal" society, etc.

I would also speak about the level of passion that accompanies being in such relationships and how it is a level not reached in vanilla; I would try to paint as vivid a picture with my words as possible.  This I could do, since my forte is my speaking ability, I get paid for it.

Everything else there would be far better experts to speak for.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 6:49:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I'm just peeking in to say I don't think there is anything I could possibly say in just 15 minutes. 


Ha ha, I was thinking ‘I only get 15 minutes?’ but you beat me to it (does that make you a sadist?)
 


Mmmm, uh huh.  Only if I beat you hard.  Real hard.

OK if I only had 15 minutes I'd have to talk really fast, but I'd go with saying that living this way is not a sign of mental illness.  Not for everyone, anyway, heh. 


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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 7:35:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not sure talking about the myths/stereotypes in general would have much effect if anything would.  I suppose if I were to do this I would talk about a prior relationship and how healthy it really was for me as a sub to give an example. 

Then again, odds are if I was asked I would actually pass.  I'm not sure convincing those not in the ls of anything is really any type of goal of mine or even an attainable goal for anyone personally.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 8:32:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

I'm just peeking in to say I don't think there is anything I could possibly say in just 15 minutes. 


* looking for napkin  to clean my monitor after i spit ice tea on it"

You say something in 15 minutes * cough cough*  Yeah right.  Maybe 2 hours and 15 minutes.

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RE: BDSM: Platforms & 15 mins of fame - 1/18/2008 8:34:39 PM   
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