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softness -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 3:35:03 PM)
kind unsolicted opinions are always welcome ... if you had said i had an ass the size of Wales ... that would be a different matter!

Honsoku -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 4:20:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness [:D] ... bite me quote: bite me as well ....[:D]... what kind of candy?? No wonder you get patronizing comments, you keep topping from the bottom! The doms will bite you when and if they feel like it! [8D] Be careful about asking me to do the same, as I've been known to take requests... [:D]

AquaticSub -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 4:53:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness and so from what you say ... its ok for them to be patronising because i have that picture up? I wouldn't say that. But my general advice is that if you want to avoid the stupid, take the picture down.

CalifChick -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 5:09:14 PM)
Sorry about the age thing... I was helping an 18 yr old with their profile and I had that on the brain. Other than that, ditto what Aqua said. It's never OKAY for someone to be patronizing... just don't be surprised. Cali

slaveluci -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 5:39:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: softness so how do you deal with being patronised by Dominants purely on the basis that as a submissive they can pat you on the head and say "never mind" The same way I'd deal with anyone who thought they could "pat" me "on the head" and patronize me and say "never mind" to my thoughts - I'd dismiss them from my life and move along to people worth conversing with..........luci

salilus -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 7:47:50 PM)
While I actually really like someone patronising me, I'd probably get offended if it was a complete stranger on the internet that did it. Daddy can do it and it just makes me blush and get all soft and there are friends of ours, that we've known for a while, that can do it and I just blush and get 'enjoyably' humiliated. I do remember, when I was single, being treated like that on occasion. I usually ignored it, I think, because I don't remember how I 'handled' it! lol

Kana -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 8:35:05 PM)
A nice piece of chocolate or some bubble gum

Leatherist -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 9:34:13 PM)
It's just what happens when you let the small head direct the course of the big one. [;)] Ask them to go jerk off, and write you again ten minutes later.

sexyred1 -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 9:34:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: softness and so from what you say ... its ok for them to be patronising because i have that picture up? I wouldn't say that. But my general advice is that if you want to avoid the stupid, take the picture down. Taking her photo down will not avoid the stupid. Why should she have to do that? Stupid will be there waiting around regardless of photos.

AquaticSub -> RE: on patronising subs (1/19/2008 10:11:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Taking her photo down will not avoid the stupid. Why should she have to do that? Stupid will be there waiting around regardless of photos. It's been my experience that taking the picture down greatly reduces the stupid. If you want to avoid it and having the picture up doesn't matter to you shrugs

RCdc -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 4:48:04 AM)
Because of stupid people, we(generic) cannot put up the images or dress the way we want because it attracts the wrong type of attention? So in other words, we now really do have to take care about what we wear and say and what photos we have up because it might attract the 'stupid'. How utterly dull and takes away a persons right to be who they are and instead be who we are supposed to be, just so stupidity isn't given an open door? I will go out dressed as a nun tomorrow. the.dark.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 4:55:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub quote: ORIGINAL: softness and so from what you say ... its ok for them to be patronising because i have that picture up? I wouldn't say that. But my general advice is that if you want to avoid the stupid, take the picture down. Taking her photo down will not avoid the stupid. Why should she have to do that? Stupid will be there waiting around regardless of photos. perhaps they have a picture up because they want an actual chance of finding a Master? Men are visual creatures. It may be fine for you, but you already have your Master. My advice is to use your delete and block buttons. Just dont let the stupid ones bug you. There are everywhere.

softness -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 6:19:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark Because of stupid people, we(generic) cannot put up the images or dress the way we want because it attracts the wrong type of attention? So in other words, we now really do have to take care about what we wear and say and what photos we have up because it might attract the 'stupid'. How utterly dull and takes away a persons right to be who they are and instead be who we are supposed to be, just so stupidity isn't given an open door? I will go out dressed as a nun tomorrow. the.dark. my sentiments exactly

lauren0221 -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 6:30:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Taking her photo down will not avoid the stupid. Why should she have to do that? Stupid will be there waiting around regardless of photos. I think I got a message from Stupid just yesterday:) And if a picture brings out the Stupid, then probably ahead of the game to know sooner rather than later?

dawntreader -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 6:39:20 AM)
Greetings softness :-) While it is unfortunate that you have been patronized by these individuals, i would remind you of the type site we are on. It is a kink, alternative lifestyle, BDSM site available worldwide. We have every right to post a picture, a post and a journal entry... just as the stupid and clueless have every right to cmail and comment. We cannot change them, only how we react to them. Let it blow right over you ~ j p.s. And take the candy[:)]

HalloweenWhite -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 10:47:44 AM)
Being patronising is never excuseable be it from a vanilla or lifestyle person, I'm surprised you were calm-if you'd said you were pissed off with what they'd said they'd think twice about it and wouldn't have dismissed it the way they seem to.

AquaticSub -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 10:52:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark Because of stupid people, we(generic) cannot put up the images or dress the way we want because it attracts the wrong type of attention? So in other words, we now really do have to take care about what we wear and say and what photos we have up because it might attract the 'stupid'. How utterly dull and takes away a persons right to be who they are and instead be who we are supposed to be, just so stupidity isn't given an open door? I will go out dressed as a nun tomorrow. the.dark. No. That isn't what I'm saying at all. It was a suggestion, the same as you might suggest someone who has complained that they got a lot stupid e-mails about their breasts to choose a picture that doesn't have full frontal nudity. As I said, I've found it to greatly reduce the stupid and if you don't feel like dealing with the stupid, taking the picture down is one option.

RCdc -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 11:02:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub It was a suggestion, the same as you might suggest someone who has complained that they got a lot stupid e-mails about their breasts to choose a picture that doesn't have full frontal nudity. As I said, I've found it to greatly reduce the stupid and if you don't feel like dealing with the stupid, taking the picture down is one option. ME? - I would not suggest someone should take down a picture of their breasts or no full frontal nudity to avoid stupid emails. I would say, ignore the stupid emails and concentrate on the not stupid ones. Getting worked up over something like that feeds and is giving them power over you. Yes an image does bring out the stupid people, but it does allow you to sift them out much earlier. I believe it much worse to pretend to be something you are not and if it makes her happy to have such a gorgeous photo up, then she rocks for doing it. Frankly, it isn't just dominants that patronise submissives and submissives aren;t the only people patronised. Its just the crazy world we inhabit hey. the.dark.

AquaticSub -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 11:07:09 AM)
Shrugs You wouldn't, others would. Personally, I find it easier to not have to hit block and delete because they aren't in my inbox. Like I said, it's one option that I wanted to suggest in case it appealed. I'm not trying to preach the "one twue way" of avoiding the stupid. Some people don't care about having their photo up regardless if they are looking or not and I'm not a mind-reader.

Kana -> RE: on patronising subs (1/20/2008 11:09:40 AM)
Candy from Kana That just sounds kinky Or like a bad rap song. Thanks DT.

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