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BlackPhx -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (1/26/2008 6:14:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience

Many cross my path, few can live an absolute slaves life like my kali has.
To me total and complete ownership means you do what you are ordered to do. Most of the time you want to obey anyways. However sometimes you do not want to follow orders. It is that defining moment(s) that a true slaves heart surfaces. FEW REALLY HAVE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! A true and developed slave obeys and is happy to comply nomatter the command, finding satisfaction in the doing of something that she did not want to do. Yes there some limits, but few.

Who else out there really lives a 24/7/365 total slave life or aspires for that?      


A bit of snipping but I would like to reply to this. I live 24/7/365 slavery to my Master. This means, what he wants, when he wants and how he wants all the time. It does not mean I am a doormat. I can buck, sunfish and bitch to the cows come home, it still is what he wants, when he wants, how he wants. He values my brain, my spirit (refuses to crush it), my tenacity, experience and loyalty. We don't always agree, but his word is law. We can disagree about something example: I called something a waterbug, he called it a roach. We checked the net, both were right due to regional semantics, we now call it a roach. Either way still icky but we use his term for it, he is Master.  50 some odd years of semantics down the tubes..It's a roach. I have some autonomy for business, cooking, cleaning schedules, etc. They are based on his schedules and my being available to him when he wants, where he wants, how he wants. He calls, I drop what I am doing and go to where he wants or needs me.

I look at your nom-du-net and suspect you are a lot more flexible than you present. Few people are micromanaged. Even within a 24/7/365, that would drive most Dominants insane in a short period of time as someone begged for everything they did, wanted or needed for 16 hours a day. Every drink of water, morsel of food, thing they cooked, time they went out doors, indoors, to market, wanted to buy something, pee and all the other minutia of the day. Instead we have basic guidelines, rules, that we follow. No matter how well trained the dog, even they don't dote on your every whim and beg for permission to do everything they do during a day. Call them to heel, and they will finish voiding their bowels before racing over. Tell them to sit and they will finish mating before doing so. Tell them to lie down and they will finish chasing that flea, then lie down. If they are doing none of the things mentioned, they will obey immediately. If they are already occupied, you will wait, no matter how well trained.

It is the same for slaves. Master sure isn't going to enjoy that command for oral relief if I race to do it with a hot pan of lasagna in my hands. Either his lap is going to be unhappy, or his belly as the food hits the floor instead. He prefers, that I take the food from the oven if it is done, place it where it is safe, turn off the stove, THEN come and pleasure him. Your Mileage May Vary.

poenkitten




collaredncontent -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (1/26/2008 9:22:20 AM)

It was very refreshing to read that, BlackPhx. Both my Master and I are pretty young and completely new to this so to see someone who shares the same ideas as we've developed is refreshing. I'm not saying that everyone else out there who does it differently is wrong or that I wouldn't want to see their interpretations, not at all. It is just nice to know our thoughts on the matter match up with someone with much more experience. I don't really believe that there is any right or wrong way to live the lifestyle, what works for one couple might very well fail with another.

And yes...I think Jack would start ripping his hair out if I called to ask if I could use the restroom or make lunch or do any of the number of things I do during the day. His expectation is that I take care of myself even if he is not there to enforce it, I have bad habits of forgetting to eat since I lost my sense of hunger, and that I can do so without him having to look over my shoulder. Being a pet/slave doesn't make you incompetent and then again I know there are certain things I DO have to ask for. It all comes down to what he has deemed is appropriate and inappropriate and I follow his views on the matter completely.

-Brian.




littlebitxxx -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (1/26/2008 11:46:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

As I was reading the OP post I was thinking what he is describing is not all the uncommon.  Unless of course I missing something.  I grew up in the house he describes my Father was the boss and mom and the kids did whatever there were told like it or not.  Nor did you backtalk to either of my parents.  We were allowed to voice our opinions or concerns.  However my Father had the final say.  We did as were we told or else.....

My ex wife and UM lived in that same "type" of household.  I suspect it happens more than one might think.

BadOne


I was thinking the same thing.  What the OP is looking for sounds almost like the "normal typical" vanilla type old style marriage with some kink thrown in.  Being a "slave to love", ie a married working mom, comes across to some folk almost as slavery.  She gets the family up and out the door, goes to work, picks up whatever on her way home, cooks supper, cleans the kitchen, helps with homework, does some housework, puts ums to bed, then still has the energy to devote to The Man seeing to his needs and wants.  In amongst all this she takes care of bills, coaches soccer,  makes sure there are groceries, keeps the house clean, attends school functions, picks up the dry cleaning, does the laundry, tends the garden, maybe even has a hobby.  Then still has the energy to devote to The Man seeing to his wants and needs...see also the threads on "bathing" and "blowjobs" and "what little things you do for" and "how do you pamper" and and and and.

Methinks slavery is only a label to describe a typical "day in the life of...."  with some added kink thrown in.  One difference as I see it is if the Woman wants something for herself (a bath, a spanking, some play) she only needs to make it known.  If a slave wants something for herself, she asks and then waits for a decision.  Then is accused of topping from the bottom or being un-twue.

Absolutely no offense intended by my little snark of the day.  It's just the way I see it, sans caffeine and all.




DesFIP -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (1/26/2008 5:14:38 PM)

We do live 24/7. But that doesn't mean I still don't go to the grocery store or pick my son up from school, or go to the post office or do laundry. And the fact that I don't need him to beat me with a crop to do these things, nor do I wear a posture collar and a corset while driving doesn't negate our relationship dynamic.

Is she kneeling on the floor licking your boots while asleep? Does she wash the kitchen floor when it's sticky? Does she take out the garbage? Because these are ordinary things that come under the requirements of daily life and get done with or without the trappings of twue slavery.




CzechBiSubSlave -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/4/2008 5:00:45 AM)

I do and have been looking for a long time!




TheMistressBlue -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/11/2008 10:15:41 AM)

I need complete and absolute ownership 24/7/365. I need to Dominate 24/7/365. It is so much a part of my nature, I need it like air. My slave also needs to be owned and Dominated 24/7/365. It is the air he breathes.




charlotte12 -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/11/2008 10:58:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PanthersMom

no thanks, i like someone with a mind of their own, someone i can talk with, who will challenge my intellect and bring another viewpoint to light.  i couldn't stand a 24/7/365. 

PM 


This slave lives 24/7.   Master listens to his slaves opinions and thoughts, encourages her to express differing ideas and says he has learned from her viewpoints.   Of course he expects these opinions to be expressed in a respectful and pleasing way.  This slave is grateful for these expectations as it has been teaching her to be much more communicative in  many areas of her life and thus much more able to actually stand up for herself in an effective manner should she need to at work or with friends or family. 

This is not to say that there aren't some slaves who end up as doormats.  Just that 24/7 does not have to imply a slave is incapable of her own intelligent thoughts and opinions. This slave believes that the women who are doormats in slavery would be doormats outside of it as well.  The condition they choose to live in (slaver) should not be blamed for the way they chose to live it doormatish[;)]).  Meaning, one can probably find just as many people with low self-esteem and dependency issues in the vanilla world as in the realm of D/s. 

respectfully,
charlotte




giveeverything -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/11/2008 11:01:18 AM)

Personally, I'm not looking for 24/7 -- and I'm up-front about that.  I haven't figured out where or how I fit in.  Not everyone holds 24/7 as the dream and not all subs will become slaves. 




SlaveSubtoserve -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/11/2008 5:32:26 PM)

It is for this s. also--- but so important to be the right match in the normal vanilla aspects of day to day life.......as without the right match it can be hellish as one might expect...




dogobedience -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/11/2008 7:20:02 PM)

charlotte12, you views refect my ideas of 24/7/365. 
Often a doormat is a doormat in any situation, the BDSM lifestyle just magnifies it. 




slavesunshine -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/11/2008 7:53:28 PM)

I live with my Master I am his 24/7 slave. I would not have it any other way.


sunshine




charlotte12 -> RE: Do you really want 24/7/365? (2/12/2008 9:48:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: dogobedience
Often a doormat is a doormat in any situation, the BDSM lifestyle just magnifies it. 


Exactly. :)

charlotte




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