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proudsub -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 1:10:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: neveralone he wants me to strip and things on cam, something that when trust is built i dont mind but i just dont like or trust this guy. he is a member of CM so other girls may end up in the same situation Don't do it, he can capture the cam shots and will have more material to threaten you with. Also you won't know if he has friends in the room out of view of his cam also watching you without your knowledge.

PanthersMom -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 1:11:18 PM)
never let anyone push you into something you don't want. period. if they cared about you they wouldn't push it on you. they only care about what they want. not a good thing in a relationship with anyone. PM

domiguy -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 1:17:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 I'd tell him to fuck off. I'd remind him that he looks like an immature ass who is just pissed he was turned down. Then I'd never respond to him again. But then again that's what I'd do. You may not like that advice. You wouldn't ever do this...You are a fucking liar! You know how I know this....Beeeyatch? Because you would never find yourself in this situation. You possess some sort of a compass that informs you when you are pointing towards an idiot or some motherfucker. Personally I think it is wise for the op to proceed and meet the demands of "her man." I'm sure there is much more to the conversations than were exhibited within this thread. I think they were meant for each other. She chose poorly. He's an ass...eharmony couldn't have done better in putting these two together. Do you think that her behavior will improve by telling this guy to go away? She should follow his every command. It will probably end tragically. I can live with the outcome. It's just the thought of having to gaze at all of her future posts that will cause my eyes to bleed that I find intolerable. Stand by your man.

dryfsys -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 2:23:19 PM)
just dont react any more and block him...you can change your id too if you like . there will always be some bastards out on the net, just ignore them Will

ExSteelAgain -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 2:25:09 PM)
Folks, this is blackmail, a major crime, pure and simple. She is in the UK; look at what the penanlty for it can be in the UK. Up to life in prison. To the OP, for goodness sakes, go to the police and let them tell you what to do. Your pics are going to keep making the rounds until this is stopped by law enforcement. Don't keep coming up with ways to let the guy off easily. Just go to the police. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blackmail

neveralone -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 2:41:33 PM)
thankyou again for all the advice i have it all logged and i have a friend coming to the station with me on monday afternoon to see what i should do thnkyou

juliaoceania -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 3:18:52 PM)
I will say this, if you give yourself in real life to this person to do whatever he wants to with you, that is crazy. He could rape and murder you and stick your body in a drum. No amount of embarassment or professional credibility you could lose would be worth that. He has already proven he is a sick little fucking freak.

Prinsexx -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 5:07:06 PM)
Do I know this guy by any chance? I ONLY ASK BECAUSE HIS PATHETIC SCRIPT IS SO FAMILIAR. See my thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1521753/tm.htm It's really sad when a so-called dominant hasn't any other 'tricks' than the threat of outing you or indeed outing your pics. I've actually had this done to me and yes the pics, taken during secens, and taken of him and myself all in good faith that they were for his private use only, were sent to my employer and my publisher and posted god knows where on the internet. But guess what: he edited himself out though. Anyway most of my pics were on alt so anyone one who recognised me would have been perving on there anyway BUT this is not to say that the constant threats from him, the costant other manipulations (emotional amd psychological) did not give me the nearest thing to a breakdown that i believe it's possible for me to have. More recently a so-called Dominant blackmailed me and used slander in email form and semt that to my employer and phoned others also. What the hell did these gys think: that I was more likely to submit to them after they showed themselves as manipulative abusers too sad to have any sense of protocol or any other redeemng qualities or indeed were even attractive to me in the first place? i took the best advice from those friend I have here as well as those R/T friends who said to me: look it's very simple. He only has as much power over you as you allow him to have. Srop contact as someone like this is most likely to think of your refusals as a natural part of your on-going relationship with him. And if it happens to me again remind me to read my own posts.

tigerstyle -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 5:16:44 PM)
Nothing like being threatened by an illiterate. Jesus.

KaylinSilverfurr -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 5:24:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tigerstyle Nothing like being threatened by an illiterate. Jesus. Please don't get me started. chuckles softly ~Kaylin

MistressOfGa -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 5:34:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHathor *Ok so I ask, why in the world would you send nude pics to someone you don't know??? and what did you hope to gain from posting the chat?? helloooo* anytime you do ANYTHING on the internet, it is subject to be made major public--first of all, he writes like a teen and he has horrible spelling--all that aside, you gave it over, you have to take it back--next time, use your common sense. *and next time, grow up and use your head.* edited for typo due to long nails, smiles She made a mistake, let's try something constructive instead of just beating her up over it. I would like to know at what point in time, did it become mandatory for people to use kid gloves here? Yes, she made a mistake, but us not telling her that is a disservice to her as well as anyone else who comes along and makes the same mistakes. I agree with my good Friend Mistress Hathor. Sometimes the best thing we can do for a person on here is use a little tough love. I don't see MH beating her up, I see someone who honestly cares enough to shine a mirror up to her. I don't see anyone being beat up, I do, however see a lot of people who care and want to help.

tigerlilly34 -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 5:40:25 PM)
A true Dom would never threaten to do anything of the sort. Sounds to me like he is a whiney little boy who does not like it when he can't have his way. A real Dom would respect you for your decision and let it go at that and move on in a mature manner.

ImpGrrl -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 6:00:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: neveralone LadyHathor i accept i was stupid by posting here i was hoping to learn my rights as i have done not be ridiculed for a mistake You can find out your rights by speaking with a lawyer - not a bunch of non-lawyerly kinky folk on a message board. I feel for you - you made a stupid mistake and now want to rectify it - but you've come to the wrong place to ask that question. There are other questions that can be discussed here...but your "rights" are legal, not kink-related.

DesFIP -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 6:09:09 PM)
Call a lawyer. Have the lawyer guide you through the legal process. If he's in a different state, then the FBI can be involved. You want them to come down on him like a ton of bricks. And in the future, please remember that anything put on the internet is public forever. You post a nude pic and your grandchildren could come across it. Remember that.

swtnsparkling -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 6:16:58 PM)
quote: basically i started chatting to a Dom from here on msn. since you sent them to him why worry about him showing others? I mean you started it after all sending nudes to ( a " Dom" stranger)

jbs20001 -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 8:02:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tigerlilly34 A true Dom would never threaten to do anything of the sort. Sounds to me like he is a whiney little boy who does not like it when he can't have his way. A real Dom would respect you for your decision and let it go at that and move on in a mature manner. Sounds to me more like someone in severe need of his bollocks chopping off,,,,

fluffyswitch -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 11:03:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa quote: ORIGINAL: Leatherist quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHathor *Ok so I ask, why in the world would you send nude pics to someone you don't know??? and what did you hope to gain from posting the chat?? helloooo* anytime you do ANYTHING on the internet, it is subject to be made major public--first of all, he writes like a teen and he has horrible spelling--all that aside, you gave it over, you have to take it back--next time, use your common sense. *and next time, grow up and use your head.* edited for typo due to long nails, smiles She made a mistake, let's try something constructive instead of just beating her up over it. I would like to know at what point in time, did it become mandatory for people to use kid gloves here? Yes, she made a mistake, but us not telling her that is a disservice to her as well as anyone else who comes along and makes the same mistakes. I agree with my good Friend Mistress Hathor. Sometimes the best thing we can do for a person on here is use a little tough love. I don't see MH beating her up, I see someone who honestly cares enough to shine a mirror up to her. I don't see anyone being beat up, I do, however see a lot of people who care and want to help. yeah but telling her to grow up? like you've never made a mistake? there's a difference between tough love and just being well rude. and if the intention is to help, tough love doesn't have to be rude.

laurell3 -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/20/2008 11:46:46 PM)
I don't know UK law, but consent given under duress is not consent at all in the United States. I'd point out to the guy that if you did have sex with him you'd then be going to the authorities and filing charges for rape and see how he takes that bit of news. Is he in the UK as well? I sure as hell would never meet this guy. While he seems to be in anarticulate and uneducated bully, you really don't know.

soul2share -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/21/2008 8:58:07 AM)
I agree, sending nude pics is a mistake.....i don't even send photos out of myself to ANYONE!!!!!! Period......if they are shallow enough to demand a pic prior to meeting me, then hell, they need to move on! To be fair, I don't ask for pics either.....i'm more of a "what's on the inside" type. If the guy posts the pics....well, live and learn.....and go after him in any legal way you can. As for contacting MSN to report him, I'm sure folks have alread told you to just use the "Contact Us" icons.....they aren't going to want to be a party to anything that can get them involved in any kind of legal battle. Good luck, I hope you can stop this ass......and please, be CAREFUL in the future! You are the ONLY responsible person when it comes to your privacy and safety. OOPS...sorry, just got that you're in the UK.....so the FBI won't be much help.....but there has to be some sort of Internet crime division to deal with things like this. THe local police should be able to point you in the right direction. And make sure you report him to CM if he's here......I know they won't take any crap! And don't be afraid to hang out here....trust me, I learned plenty from here! And the folks here are pretty nice. One bad apple doesn't make the rest of us idjits!

MariaIsabel -> RE: being pushed into things i dont want...help (1/21/2008 2:53:28 PM)
well hunny just ignore the bastard you giving in will only make it worse to me he sounds like he is a sexually abusive person that needs to be turned in and believe me doing that might make it better for you and who ever the next person is let me know what happens if you do turn him in because i have experience enough that i think i can help you through this just message me we can be friends and ill help you any way i can

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