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Termyn8or -> All the hogwash (1/20/2008 12:12:28 PM)
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I've seen alot of profiles, they give you one when you connect to CM, at least they do to me. Basically based on your profile, it is there, and it changes.
What I see again and again is that they are looking for their One, their center, their dream. They have needs, or at least percieved needs.Some openly ask for guidance, spirituality, who knows.
But let's get down to brass tacks.
Let's cut the bullshit, if you are a whole person in the mind you are One. You have a center, and should be able to guide yourself in most circumstances. Unlike most, I think that asking for help is indeed a sign of weakness, but the irony of it is, that to ask for help and expose this weakness is a sign of strength. The devil is in the details on that one.
Even I have been faced with problems that I could not handle alone, many more times than once. There is no shame in showing this weakness, but the context matters.
I want someone who is self sufficient, and if nothing else could get on a bus to come see me. It would be a plus if they had their own living space so I could go visit and play there. I would assume that they at least have a few rooms, a working bathroom and the utilities turned on. They might be in debt, I am, but I will not ask for help on that.
But more importantly I respect someone who is comfortable with themself. I can be amusing, but I do not want it to be a job. Come on over, shack up, that's fine, just don't run up my phone bill or crash my computer. You can be homeless (well up till then) but you need to have your own center. You have to be willing to walk out the door with nowhere to go even in this weather.
Understand this, no friend, even close acquaintence would make you freeze to death. There are plenty of people living together thease days that basically can't stand each other. But they have come to an agreement. This is physical conditions, survival needs.
What I do not need is for someone to need me. To accept that is to owe companionship. Entertainment even. I will not do that.
Guy at work, distincitve ring on his cell. You can tell when his olady calls. A day hasn't gone by that I can remember when she did not call him. I would have to make an exception for when they were in the process of buying a house, but other times. Just what is so important ?
Anyway, before I hijack myself here ........
True love=relationshipXtime. Love at first sight is nothing but lust, and there is nothing more it could ever be, by definition. True love is after you know each other for a while, have figured out how to tolerate each other and really do care, I mean really care. This does not happen at first sight, there is no way it could. So let's cut to the chase.
1. Are our body proportions and looks acceptable to each other ?
2. Do we share any common interests or kinks ?
3. Can we stand, or maybe even like each other's company ?
4. Do you have a place we can have fun or a way to get to my place ?
That about sums it up I think. There are very few people here looking for the idyllic nuclear family. Put up a white picket fence and have a Catholic Wife and 2.6 children, 0.75 dogs and 0.76 cats. Many have already had that life but found they couldn't stand it, many never persued that life.
Anyway, all this about emotion, I think a bunch of it is hogwash. I am not saying this is a meat market, not by any means, but some things are, in reality, a pretense.
I don't know why anyone else is here, but I am here with a profile (that needs some work, maybe today) to limit my contact to people who are kinky or at least kink friendly. I don't mean in all things, but for me to find a mate, a Woman, a playmate, whatever you want to call it, I just do not want vanilla. Not at all. Perhaps my kink is actually a fetish, if you want to split hairs on the definition. Does it really matter ?
But love 'Lord above, now she's trying to trick me into love' (Free, kinda).
Forget about love, have a good time together and if it happens it happens.
Love is built, not bought. Love is reaped but never sown.
Love builds itself, something you will never own.
Love comes from within, and you can't get it back.
It can't be undone, like a heart attack.
What you get in return, someone else must burn.
The love that you gave, they take to the grave.
But you got theirs, and possibly heirs.
They spring from the loins when passion flares.
Don't go copyrighting that behind my back, as soon as I am done with this post I am going to pick up a guitar.
Anyway, I guess what I am saying is to get to the basics, do you drink, smoke, whatever. Can we put up with each other ? Get past that first. Listen to rap or country ? Even though I listen to both (very few rap tunes, but some) for most people the two are diametrically opposed.
Considering fiction, just to make a point. Tim "The toolman" Taylor on the old TV show. At night when they go to bed (the characters mind you) she must think "this guy is a fucking idiot, but I love him". That did not happen overnight.
In life I wonder just how many (or few) young couples are really in love. Some actual statistics would probably make me wonder more.
Now I think it is time to go cause trouble somewhere. I mean that in a good way though. And if you don't like that about me, do not call me, do not become my concubine. If it really irritates you, you need someone else. Good luck.
Be well, tear it up.
T
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