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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:18:04 PM   
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I've even told My slaves that, as torture, I might force them to listen to My bad jokes!! Bwuhahahaha!!!
 
  


Real torture is making your slaves listen to Raffi while you flog them. All the trendy owners are doing it...

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:18:22 PM   
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Yeah, he laughed his head off.  Even more than when I burst out into singing, "It's not easy being green..."



That is awesome. Totally beats my shrimp pasta.


Oh I don't know.  Shrimp pasta is pretty damn funny.

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:20:05 PM   
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So, I went to this party and there were these two pro Dommes there. I was sort of confused by their style. Basically they just flailed a whip around a bunch of times. But there wasn't really much dominant about either of them. They would laugh and joke and talk casually with the sub, who acted kind of the same as the Dommes except that the subs were receiving the whipping.

I have not ever seen other people play before and I found this odd. In my experience, the Dom acts dominant and I act submissive. Or when I Domme, I act strict- you know like, I speak in a cold voice, do some verbal humiliation and stuff. I have normal conversations with subs, but not while scening.

Is this normal though? There are lots masochists that just want to be whapped around- so much so that pro Dommes can do nothing but whack people around and still make decent money?


I would try not matching up your own BDSM stereotypes with other people's play styles.

Edited to Add : Gotta go take my black leather pants, black latex shirt, and black bandanna down from the clothesline before I shave my head and polish my dark shades while applying lotion to my arm tattoos....


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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:21:08 PM   
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Your comment about masochists seems rather derogatory, however.


I just don't get them. Generally I am totally disappointed if I find out that a sub I am interested in is a masochist. I totally do not jive with some of them precisely because sometimes their primary interest is pain and not psychological submission.

I had a great sub who was a masochist once, but sometimes the interests of masochists totally bore me.


You may not get them.  They may bore you.  But do they deserve to be insulted simply because they are not compatible to you?  

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:23:00 PM   
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as a masochist i can honestly tell you that the two are not necessarily mutually exclusive.


Clearly. I am somewhat sadistic but its not my primary interest. I just get bored when its a person's only interest or their primary interest. I have little in common with their kink, really. My major thing is humiliation and control (that do not involve pain).

What exactly makes one proDomme more appealing than the next if you just want a whipping? Is it just about how they look?

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:24:40 PM   
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But do they deserve to be insulted simply because they are not compatible to you?  


Haven't read many of kittties posts, huh?

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:26:16 PM   
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Edited to Add : Gotta go take my black leather pants, black latex shirt, and black bandanna down from the clothesline before I shave my head and polish my dark shades while applying lotion to my arm tattoos....


Well, they did the steryotypical Domme costume thing more than I usually do.


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You may not get them. They may bore you. But do they deserve to be insulted simply because they are not compatible to you?


I didn't insult them. I simply expressed personal boredom. I don't care what they do. Really, I was just asking because I wouldn't mind making a buck this way if all you have to do is flail a flogger around.

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:26:23 PM   
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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:32:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kitttty

So, I went to this party and there were these two pro Dommes there. I was sort of confused by their style. Basically they just flailed a whip around a bunch of times. But there wasn't really much dominant about either of them. They would laugh and joke and talk casually with the sub, who acted kind of the same as the Dommes except that the subs were receiving the whipping.

I have not ever seen other people play before and I found this odd. In my experience, the Dom acts dominant and I act submissive. Or when I Domme, I act strict- you know like, I speak in a cold voice, do some verbal humiliation and stuff. I have normal conversations with subs, but not while scening.

How dare they not do things the way you do.  They should have the Internationsl Sisterhood of Dommes Union take away their membership cards for daring to laugh and have fun instead of sneering and acting menacing.  Don't they know the One True Way??????

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:33:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kitttty

So, I went to this party and there were these two pro Dommes there. I was sort of confused by their style. Basically they just flailed a whip around a bunch of times. But there wasn't really much dominant about either of them. They would laugh and joke and talk casually with the sub, who acted kind of the same as the Dommes except that the subs were receiving the whipping.

I have not ever seen other people play before and I found this odd. In my experience, the Dom acts dominant and I act submissive. Or when I Domme, I act strict- you know like, I speak in a cold voice, do some verbal humiliation and stuff. I have normal conversations with subs, but not while scening.

How dare they not do things the way you do.  They should have the Internationsl Sisterhood of Dommes Union take away their membership cards for daring to laugh and have fun instead of sneering and acting menacing.  Don't they know the One True Way??????

~stef



They are probably just underachievers

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:40:18 PM   
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 with My own slaves, I certainly feel free to joke around (and occasionally even crack a smile, heaven forbid!).   most of the time I enjoy humor as much as the next Dom. 
 I've even told My slaves that, as torture, I might force them to listen to My bad jokes!! Bwuhahahaha!!!
 
I suppose that if I was in "public", I would act more "Dom-my", but My self-assurance (which is required for humor) is born of true Dominance.  I'd suggest that those who always act cold, with the "frown / And wrinkled lip and sneer of cold command"...might be trying just a bit too hard.    


Thank you for saying exactly what I was thinking and articulating it so well.
Why in the heck do people have to act a part?
When HoneyMaster is in control, he may be laughing or serious, but he IS in control.
Sounds to me like someone looking for a certain something and that is it...

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:41:46 PM   
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They are probably just underachievers


That's funny. They probably are since their only jobs are Domming (they said).

I saw another Domme there and she was my kind- she was sensual and built up sexual tension psychologically. Basically she said she was into "an intelligent person's domination". Appropriately, her real job is being a neuroscientist.

Hey. Be lazy. Be a hooker. I don't say their should be a law, but I reserve my right to be bored and disappointed with those who I am free to call underachievers.

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:41:50 PM   
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Real torture is making your slaves listen to Raffi while you flog them. All the trendy owners are doing it...


I must be a hard core masochist then, since I have fond memories of Raffi's Christmas music. When I go home for the holidays I try to sneak in the CD while we decorate the tree. Everyone thinks I'm sick and twisted.



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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:43:49 PM   
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What exactly makes one proDomme more appealing than the next if you just want a whipping? Is it just about how they look?


I don't why that was in response to me since the quote wasn't mine but hey...

Skill, whip type, and style probably. A whipping isn't just a whipping after all.

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:45:30 PM   
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Hey. Be lazy. Be a hooker. I don't say their should be a law, but I reserve my right to be bored and disappointed with those who I am free to call underachievers.


If you think having sex for money is lazy, I really don't want to share a bed with you. Sex worth paying for requires energy, talent and creativity.

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 5:54:58 PM   
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How dare they not do things the way you do.  They should have the Internationsl Sisterhood of Dommes Union take away their membership cards for daring to laugh and have fun instead of sneering and acting menacing.  Don't they know the One True Way??????

~stef



Damn, I'll have my membership revoked now, because I actually shared a joke or two with one of my Boys last night, and there wasn't a sneer anywhere to be found, and to act menacing I'd have to put my six inch heels on, but then I'd probably fall over, and that wouldn't be very Domme(y) at all... Lets face it, I fail!!

DJ



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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 7:38:58 PM   
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..., but I reserve my right to be bored and disappointed with those who I am free to call underachievers.


Were you paying to see a show?  If so, I missed that part.  Why else would you be concerned about your right to be bored and disappointed??

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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 7:49:38 PM   
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LOL that's cute.  The last time Mr. Wonderful put me in severe pain, I did the sign of the cross (with wrists bound) and mumbled, "Bless me Father, for I have sinned."

No clue why.


That's wonderful!

I like to have Valyraen watch when people play with me because I speak what is affectionately refered to as "Simish" (ever played the Sims?) when I get to sub space. Sometimes I'll say things that sound like I want the scene to stop but I actually don't so he has to translate.


I can relate to that.. I don't know about "Simish".. but I have been told I have the coherency of a Furby when teetering on subspace.


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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 9:26:45 PM   
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RE: That's Domming? - 1/21/2008 10:53:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kitttty

So, I went to this party and there were these two pro Dommes there. I was sort of confused by their style. Basically they just flailed a whip around a bunch of times. But there wasn't really much dominant about either of them. They would laugh and joke and talk casually with the sub, who acted kind of the same as the Dommes except that the subs were receiving the whipping.

I have not ever seen other people play before and I found this odd. In my experience, the Dom acts dominant and I act submissive. Or when I Domme, I act strict- you know like, I speak in a cold voice, do some verbal humiliation and stuff. I have normal conversations with subs, but not while scening.

How dare they not do things the way you do.  They should have the Internationsl Sisterhood of Dommes Union take away their membership cards for daring to laugh and have fun instead of sneering and acting menacing.  Don't they know the One True Way??????

~stef



LOL.  Exactly.  Kittty, the answer is they are people not roles.  When you learn to truly let go of the dogma you are hiding behind and give of yourself and have confidence in yourself as a person, you might get it.  Personally no one that has to be "cold" and "act dominant" is ever coming anywhere near me and although I'm a masochist, I'd be hard pressed to think someone would actually attach to you and desire to serve you and not be "boring" with your attitude.  Leading ain't about playing a game of "being dominant", it's partially about inspiring people to be their best and allowing them to see you so they can trust you. It's incredibly clear from your posts that the underachiever here in life is you.  You're so afraid to be you and find out who you are that you have to be "better" and never really see other people.  It's rather tragic how transparent you are.

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