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venusinblu -> Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 1:55:28 AM)

Curious to know because my relationship with my Master is veering more and more towards that dynamic.  It appears to have blossomed once our feelings for each other became established - it was never discussed, it just evolved.

Perhaps it was something we both craved and never before had an outlet for?  As a consequence of this relationship metamorphasis, i am more content, feel more loved, feel safe .. in a way i have never felt before. He admits to being changed by it too. 

Perhaps it is one of the attractions of D/s or BDSM, relationships are allow to develop more organically due to their emotional and sexual honesty .. but then again, maybe i am seaching too deeply for a Tuesday morning!

So, i am interested to know, did you start out with your Daddy as your Daddy or did your relationship bring the Daddy out in Him and the little girl out in you?



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 2:01:36 AM)

We started out D/lg right from the start.

I identified as inner child long before James and I got together, and he was somewhat grossed out by a partner wanting to call him Daddy cause he didn't understand it wasn't about the desire to fuck or be sexy with our bio Dad but the need to be safe and nurtured. He's now quite naturally refering to himself as Daddy often.



venusinblu -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 2:09:04 AM)

Thanks for your answer, YourhandMyass, it was very self aware of you to know that your inner child was a driving force in you - i think that is something you should be proud of. i think i have been in serious denial about my inner child for a long, long time.

My Master/Daddy 'started' it, as it were, He was the brave one and lifted the lid on that little box in my soul and encouraged my inner child to come out - and now out, He loves her too much to let her hide again. i have never been happier.  



YourhandMyAss -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 2:33:16 AM)

Glad to hear you're much happier now. It's so often freeing and liberating to have someone else know and love the littler parts of the big person. Daddy buys me stuffed toys and helps me "care "for them, it's pretty cute, he calls them the babies, and when he comes over he says hi babies, and gives them all kisses as he gets them out of his spot so he can lay down. and when we get off the phone at night, he gives them all infant kiss formula* cause most of them are under a year old* and the ones that are older than a year, get geriatric kiss formula hehe. One  of my babies are well into senior hood and one of them is a teenager.  Spike was given to me when I was 17 an I am 25 now, and huggie bear I've had since I was 2. And when I get new ones he meets them and talks to them gets introduced to them when he comes over, if I didn't get them with him.  And he thinks it's cutewhen I talk baby talk, like breadstickies instead of breadsticks lol. It's very freeing and a happy thing to be his baby.



breatheasone -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 3:18:54 AM)

Master and I did not start out Daddy/little girl. We are currently exploring it. Apparently its a need I didn't even know i had. Although on some level my heart must have know, because my Master is able to meet my needs.



Littlepita -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 5:30:15 AM)

We met online and at first we were only dominant and submissive, but quickly discovered that the D/lg roles fit us perfectly. Now, almost three years later we are working on becoming more M/s, although I will always be my Daddy's gurl. [:)]



adoracat -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 7:35:42 AM)

when i first put out my ad, i *thought* i wanted a Master.  after talking to a few dominants, it became clearer and clearer that what i need is a Daddy.  and i was fortunate enough to find one who is absolutely perfect for me!

i'm Daddy's lil slave girl as he calls it....i'm content to say "his".

kitten



juliaoceania -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 8:40:53 AM)

My Daddy is a daddy dom. He was a Daddy before I met him. He knew that was what he wanted when I came into his life. There are many girls out there that seek Daddies. I knew there was a thing called a "daddy dom", but I thought them to be rather rare, and I wasn't looking for that.

Even though I have always called him "Daddy" since the first day we physically met, it has been a growing process for me. The dynamic has had some very positive aspects and healing ones in my life that I do not think would be possible with any other sort of dynamic. I lost my father suddenly when I was 13, and part of me froze there emotionally. I developed PTSD later on in life because I lost not only my father, we lost our family home, my sister moved, I lost my dog, and my best friend moved within the course of the year following my father's death. My mom and I were alone, and she was half crazy from grief... I had to "take care of her". So I never got to cry in that year, I never was allowed to grieve, and this stunted something spiritually for me.

Have you ever heard that we get what we need when we are ready to receive it? Well that is how I feel about my Daddy. It is almost 2 years later in the stream of time, and we have had ups and downs along the way. I can tell you over the last few months I have had some very "girlish" feelings about how I dress, how I act at times, and I believe this to be related to our relationship. It is not age play in that we set out to have me "revert' back to an earlier age, but there are aspects of that coming through with my Daddy. These are spontaneous things.





daddysprop247 -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 8:56:59 AM)

Daddy has been Daddy almost since the very beginning, when he was only my friend and mentor. i had never called him by name  (just never seemed appropriate or natural), and one day while on the phone "Daddy" just slipped out...and it truly was a slip, as i certainly wasn't looking for a "DaddyDom" and he would never describe himself that way. but rather than ignore it, i looked within and realized that he was playing a paternal role in my life...caring for me, protecting me, nurturing me, etc...much the way my natural Father (who died when i was 13) had. also, eerily, he would use the same unusual nickname for me that my Father had used. it truly felt like this Man was sent to me by my Father, because he knew that i still needed a Dad.

our dynamic is not really the typical Daddy/lg one though. first, him being Daddy and Father is something entirely separate from the D/s dynamic. second, he is Master, Owner, and while he would be the first to say that i am his precious little girl, i am also his property and he treats me as such. this is just what came naturally for us.



BabyKittyKat -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 10:24:53 AM)

We didn`t start as a Daddy and lil girl. First it was falling in love. Then it was Master and submissive. Then it evolved into age play, and it`s becoming even more important. I have always identified as a little girl, we always had a little bit of the dynamics, but we never oficially discussed it before. For me age play needs a lot more trust in each other than anything else, so it was a fairly natural thing the way things evolved.



MollyTroubletail -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (1/22/2008 10:34:13 AM)

We were an odd couple because I started out being a little girl looking for a Daddy, and he started out never having been exposed to this sort of relationship before. Luckily his natural personality fits being a Daddy very well, and my child-self brought it out in him. I hope that he continues to evolve in his interest in age play, because although we are now very much Daddy & little girl in our everyday interactions, he hasn't done any specific ageplay during a scene with me.



mypain56 -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/16/2008 1:31:15 AM)

ummm,  i my self, am so happy with  the Daddy/lg dynamic, 2 weeks ago we were just talking online, playing around as usual. And then I turned the conversation in too a sort of question and answer type situation. asking Him several questions ( which were permitted) by the way.. He said I could ask Him anything. So with that said, i ask if he was ever in the Armed forces and He said yes the Marines, and i am like cool, because my Father bless his heart was in the Navy and so was my brother and they looked so good in there uniforms, and of course i ask him what he looked like in his uniform only to know what the answer would be (good) yummy, anyway i started about my Father in several different ways in reference to my growing up like how close we were and that he always wanted a redhaired daughter and when i was born it's was an instant bond with us forever. But as i was talking to Him things started evolving in my mind, nothing weird mind you but just thinking about how much i missed the days with my Father he was a wonderful man, responsible, familyoriented, loving, kind,warm and generous. And i had the utmost respect for Him. So i ask if any of His ex-submissives or slaves ever called Him Daddy, and that in alot of positive ways He reminded me of my Father, big strong,powerful presense, in control,wise, knowledgable, loving doesn't drink or smoke a family man and a wonderful man. And i ask Him if i could start calling Him Daddy and i could tell that he was quite impressed by the way i ask and He said yes i would love it if you called me daddy if  i mean that much to you. But of course i was adament about it not being about any thing sexual in regards to Him or my Father it's just how they make me feel, secure, safe, wanted and loved and protected. Now i call Him Daddy and he calls me baby girl. Even though i am two years older than He,that doesn't matter in our hearts, it goes so much deeper than that very intense. But i have to add today before we hung up from talking i mentioned that i love you and after 7 months He replied i love you back, it changed something in the two of us it deepened our dynamic so very much. He knows that He is the center of my universe, i surrendered today. i hope this little story gives submissives and the like to not be afraid of communication because if you know in your heart that He's special tell Him how you feel, and if it doesn't happen the way you planned it just be patient like i was and he'll eventually come around.  Good luck to all the future Daddy/dom/lg's out there it's really worth discussing...                Melly/ daddy's little girl



RavenMuse -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/16/2008 3:34:55 AM)

There has been a paternalistic element in most of My Dynamics, usualy low key and specific to when My girl is upset or hurt.

With metalmiss however, it has became quite a bit more than that. Naturaly developing from a very minor element to one of the centeral aspects of how our relationship expresses itself. It was in no way looked for, in fact it was resisted to, especialy by her, but up bubbled the 'D' word time and time again... Now it is just something We accept, I draw the little girl out in her, I am her Daddy.... as well as her Master and the evil S.o.a.B that makes life quite so interesting [;)]



Daddyslilpookie -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/16/2008 8:55:07 AM)

It didn't start out daddy/littlegirl, it evolved after about 4 years and one seperation after.  He brought the little girl out in me and the Daddy in him, he is so nurturing and loving to me. I love it when I am laying on the couch and he covers me up with my blanket and brings me my koala cuddles when we watch tv I feel so nurtured. He is also my Master, and husband I couldn't be happier[:)]



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/16/2008 10:37:54 AM)

fast reply ...long story but the abridged version

we started off as friends that gradually grew into a Daddy-daughter relationship.  according to Daddy, He was searching over 2yrs for me yet on the flipside, i wasn't really looking for Him until we started chatting. this is not the first Daddy-daughter relationship for Him ...i do have a "sister" but she's not involved within our D/s dynamic.



breatheasone -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/16/2008 6:55:28 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: venusinblu

Curious to know because my relationship with my Master is veering more and more towards that dynamic.  It appears to have blossomed once our feelings for each other became established - it was never discussed, it just evolved.

Perhaps it was something we both craved and never before had an outlet for?  As a consequence of this relationship metamorphasis, i am more content, feel more loved, feel safe .. in a way i have never felt before. He admits to being changed by it too. 

Perhaps it is one of the attractions of D/s or BDSM, relationships are allow to develop more organically due to their emotional and sexual honesty .. but then again, maybe i am seaching too deeply for a Tuesday morning!

So, i am interested to know, did you start out with your Daddy as your Daddy or did your relationship bring the Daddy out in Him and the little girl out in you?


We definitely evolved into it....in fact I used to believe the Daddy/little girl thing was gross....and was shocked to discover that i needed and wanted that. Master/Daddy is very simply everything i need.



TwistedLeather -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/17/2008 2:47:29 PM)

i have the Daddy's girl mentality, and my Owner is indeed older than i am. i can play the school girl routine quite well as i appear very young. And i do give off the impression that i'm sweet and innocent. But to call my Owner Daddy would make both of us bust a gut laughing. We're both aware of the unique dynamics of our relationship, but we don't call it such. It's just part of "us". He makes me feel safe, and secure. Strong, supported and free to just be myself. In any mood that happens to take over me. But i'm more than content when he brushes my face, smiles at me and whispers... "My little kytten."



IvyMorgan -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/17/2008 2:50:37 PM)

None of us will use the word "Daddy".

He calls us "Baby Girl" which we prefer to all his other terms (partly, cos as far as we know, he only uses it for us.)

There are "inner children" in an atypical way, and they feel safe enough with him to pop out at times.

It's not really Daddy/little girl/daughter but I'd guess that's the closest term commonly used that would come close.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/17/2008 2:53:18 PM)

We are Mommy/little girl, but ours definately evolved over time. It was the best fit for our personalities and interactions, but Angel did not want to admit to that at first becasue it was not what he saw as what he wanted. When he realized that was what he wanted, he was afraid I would dismiss him if he told me of that interest, becasue I would find it distasteful. Now, its not only perfectly natural, but far happier than anything else we had attempted in the years we have been together.

DV



happypervert -> RE: Did you start out Daddy/little girl or did it evolve? (4/17/2008 5:08:46 PM)

The relationship with my girl evolved -- we started off as Dom/cunt, and now it's Daddy/cunt. It works for us.



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