giveeverything -> RE: The BDSM continuum... (2/1/2008 6:27:18 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs Dear yrstocollar, Ladies and Gentlemen; It is my personal belief that there is a sexual 'slide ruler' per se, that an individual will go through life and experiences, self discovery to which in time is what will be the defining moment of who a person is sexually. I don't believe it is exclusive to BDSM but, life in general. I find myself steadfastly 'straight' and fond of gentlemen regardless of the sexual preferences. For me, sexuality and preference is just one aspect of the total person. I am drawn more by the total sum of a person's character. I also feel that I have no submissive bone in my body anymore. I think the only thing that causes my passive and civil state is duty to family and or blood relatives. For all others--I wouldn't be happy in any other capacity other than Dominant. That said, as a Master/Mistress -- slaves are slaves, so I could consider females as slaves to me. I would have to take steps as to feed their sexual needs/desires as I would not be the one inclined to participate beyond foreplay and sensual arrousal. To completion, it would have to be another individual who is comfortable in completing sexual rapture. You fee like that there is a sexual "slide ruler"..."per se"...But you make it quite clear that it has never applied to your sexual attractions because you have always viewed yourself as "steadfastly straight." Therefore, it would seem that you actuall live your life in direct contrast to what the op has stated. I think what the op has failed to realize is that you might get some sub to interact with someone of the same sex...Or when people have beein incarcerated they have been known to practice homosexual relationships....However, in each one of these cases the people would still probably identify themselves as being "straight." It actually is rather insultive to think that people slide up and down the "gay" continuum...It suggests that someone can choose their sexual preferences depending upon where they are on the scale at any given moment in time. It would give the conservative straightees all the information they need to deem those Homos as being sick in the head...After all, it is just a matter of choice. Actually this is a debate currently going on in the Queer community -- the idea of choice. It's an underground discussion because of the political implications of it. Personally, for many women I know (and I consider myself Queer, having been in relationships with both men and women), I think the idea of choice does enter in (I won't comment on gay men because I haven't engaged this discussion with many). I think, at some point, with some experience under their belt, some women make a choice. Then that choice becomes more cemented within the confines of a community and shared sense of identity. And for other people, there never was a choice, they really were born into the sexual orientation they embody. I see it as fluid. It's a hard political tactic (in fact, it's a shitty tactic and should not be attempted at this time). The next move is to decide that a homo choice is a legitamate choice. my very unpopular thoughts on the matter. oh.. and fight the power.
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