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Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 6:40:21 PM   
jimdandymagnum


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Status: offline 		I sincerely seek opinions from other fem subs/slaves on the topic of humiliation, not sex per se, but humiliating things of a sexual nature.  A recent pet, a lovely 22 year old with alot of self esteem and myself were not quite meshing.  She desired to be trained, "taken roughly" were her words to me.  After about 2 months both she and I felt just the sex thing and hair pulling, slapping, bondage, etc. was not quite the right game.  A mutual friend suggested she was looking more to be humiliated or degraded and suggested more mind fucking than actual.  Scouring my mind for something ideal, it happened that during a particularly rough session with lots of verbal adjuncts, I noticed on the dresser a make up kit.  I took a lip pencil, and wrote stuff all over her telling her what a filthy little fuck toy I was making her.  She confided in me afterward that she was so ashamed, yet at the same time gratified by this form of, for lack of a better word, punishment.
Several days later, while she was dressing for work (she is an interior designer) I wrote "cockslut" on her inner thighs, "cum whore" on her breasts, etc.  I told her that this better still be on her when she gets back from her appointment.  The next few hours when thoughts of her sitting helping some rich puritains decorate their new dining room with this stuff written all over her, known only to her started getting by heart racing.  I became excited over the thought "If the Hawgwamps could only see under her clothing!!!"  What would they say?  She got home that afternoon and most of the writing was intact, she was steaming, wet and in need of immediate release.  It got her that hot.  I soon took it a step further, I wrote the nastiest things I could think of all over her but....I wrote them backwards so she could read them in a mirror when naked later on.  She went off to her morning appointment, came back late afternoon.  I took her into the master bath that had a little alcove I placed a bench in beforehand.  I watched her undress in front of the big mirror, and the look of shame on her face was so profound as she looked at her reflection.  I was rock hard just watching this.  That hasn't happened in years!  I saw tears well up in her eyes as she stared into the glass.......

Has anyone else out there used slut writing as a technique?  Would you subs or slaves feel this is a humiliation practice you would enjoy if your Master liked it?  Why did I like it so much?  Maybe her shame was a turn on?  Can I franchise this idea or is it old hat?  Your thoughts are most welcome.


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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 6:48:44 PM   
jasmine2008


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Status: offline 		hey i whish my domme would do somthing like that to me i think its cool veryrewarding not a punishment

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 6:57:41 PM   
BlackKnight


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Bravo! Bravo!

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 7:26:05 PM   
fairerthanshe


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Status: offline 		Well done indeed!

SJ sent me to a Domina friend of ours a couple of weekends back to give her a pedicure.  After I had finished with her toes, she pulled up my skirt and wrote nasty and wonderful things on my thighs and tummy.  She wouldn't allow me to look at it until I got back to SJ's place.  It was an awesome reward!

well wishes ~ fairer


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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 8:10:13 PM   
jasmine2008


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Status: offline 		to my new owner mrs princess can u please do this to me thanks

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 8:31:17 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		A friend of mine used to do that to his girl... but with sharpie permanent marker on her ass.  Lasts longer, takes more planning on her part so that no one else saw it (showers at the gym and all).

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 8:56:55 PM   
Statepalace


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Status: offline 		We've done that. It works for me like it did for your girl. I would give a longer explanation but the whole subject is a little too personal. Yeah, like I said, it really works for me.

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 9:13:39 PM   
Willowmoon


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Status: offline 		I have had four different relationships in this lifestyle, in each of these relationships the Dom/Master did this to me. At first I felt ashamed looking in the mirror and hated it, hated myself but as they kept using it that feeling went away until now i don't have any reaction to it. However if someone was to write something on me where anyone could see that would humilate me. Just wearing a ring that says slave on it every day can get humilating when vanilla people question me on it, after wearing the ring for a year i still dont know what to say when asked.

What I am trying to say i guess is too something too much and it tends to lose its impact. Do it every now and again and it remains a powerful thing. Do something is public that you would usualy only do in private or scene friendly places and it adds a whole new level to it.

Willow

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 9:15:56 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Sighs....had that done right before I said good bye forever to my ex. It was hot, but he was toxic, but the act was as you described.

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 10:39:58 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Writing can be hot, I have a Chinese caligraphy set I keep meaning to try but the last thing I did in this vein was biting a giant "M" into her back, lasted for a long time too.

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 10:45:55 PM   
Emperor1956


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Status: offline 		If you are interested at all in using writing on a partner erotically, watch The Pillow Book.   It pretty much says it all.

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/23/2008 11:07:08 PM   
girlygurl


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

A friend of mine used to do that to his girl... but with sharpie permanent marker on her ass.  Lasts longer, takes more planning on her part so that no one else saw it (showers at the gym and all).

Cali



My Sir's initials were placed on my bum with a black sharpie permanent marker.... bigggggggg letters too!

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/24/2008 10:48:07 AM   
BabyKittyKat


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Status: offline 		I remember once, whiled I was all tied up, my Daddy took a silvergrey marker and wrote on my breasts "Slut". After He cum, He untied me. So I got dressed, ready for going out. I put on my blouse, with a very low neckline.. And He stairs at me and starts laughing! I forgot to rub off the marker and I almost got out like this! It was more humiliating than anyithing I can imagine...

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/24/2008 1:07:37 PM   
ItalianSMistress


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Status: offline 		I have done this a few times, to different slaves.  Sometimes I will write one thing, or all over.  I have one pic of a boy I had once, just covered, from neck down, in black marker.  It took like a week to come off, and he had to cover up well, and then I still had the pics to blackmail him with, lol.  I have also carved things, like My name into a slaves ass or lower ab, with a small blade. 

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/24/2008 1:14:50 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Off topic, how do you know her clients were puritanical. Maybe they're just professional in their business dealings.

More important question, if she was distracted during the client meeting, was she capable of doing her job with full attention? Because if she was distracted, clients could decide that she isn't professional and they don't want to hire her. How would you feel if she lost a job and needed income because of your actions? Would you accept your responsibility and pay her the income you probably lost her?

Because it seems to me that a more competent dominant would care more about her long term success than his short term erection. YMMV.

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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/24/2008 1:33:36 PM   
charlotte12


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Off topic, how do you know her clients were puritanical. Maybe they're just professional in their business dealings.

More important question, if she was distracted during the client meeting, was she capable of doing her job with full attention? Because if she was distracted, clients could decide that she isn't professional and they don't want to hire her. How would you feel if she lost a job and needed income because of your actions? Would you accept your responsibility and pay her the income you probably lost her?

Because it seems to me that a more competent dominant would care more about her long term success than his short term erection. YMMV.


It doesn't seem to me as though he cared more about his erection than her job. I appreciate that he knew something wasn't working and went about trying to find some new ways to spice up their lives. Sounds like it made them both happy and usually when someone is more fulfilled in their personal lives they are much more able to focus on work.

To the OP that sounds really hot and kudos to you for being creative and trying your best to find things that will make your submissive hot and happy. I love it when I see two people communicating and finding ways to grow even more in a relationship. I would imagine you liked it so much because of the reaction it elicted in her. You spent more time describing how she responded to it than to your own reaction which suggests that you found her shame and arousal to be very exciting for you as well. Nothing wrong there.

charlotte


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RE: Gratifying form of humiliation? - 1/24/2008 3:51:13 PM   
jimdandymagnum


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Status: offline 		charlotte -
I thank you from the bottom of my sadistic heart, well said!!  To all of you who replied with your thoughts, I thank you also :)

DesFIP I have an answer for every on of your questions.  By invitation I will gladly send them via message to you.

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