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Two Questions about pampering - 1/23/2008 8:01:47 PM

JoyfulMistress

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evening all,
I have a few questions this evening.
What do you do to *pamper* your proper One .,those little things that let them feel extra special by you ?
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What does your proper One do that makes you feel extra special,cherished and *pampered*?

I look forward to hearing you answers and hope everyone has a great evening finding many reasons to smile
Mistress Joy

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/23/2008 8:03:18 PM

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"Pampering"

You are going to get SO many off color comments for that choice of wording.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/23/2008 9:06:51 PM

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Well yesterday when I was still fairly sick from a stomach bug, he went to the store to get me more ginger ale and also added a bouquet of flowers.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/23/2008 9:47:51 PM

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Every evening, I dress My Beautiful for bed and brush out her hair. During these cold days of winter, early in the evening, I put her PJs on the radiator to warm for bedtime. When time and life permits, I also dress her for the day or change her clothes for her when returns from work.

At least once a week, I clean the bathtub and draw her a warm bath. I put bath salts in the water and light candles in the bathroom and select some calm music. Then I undress her and help her into the bath. I wash her head to toe and shave her legs and underarms. Then I just gently pour warm water over her until she is ready to get out. Before all this, I will have boiled a large pot of water to make sure I can keep her bath warm for as long as she wants. Needless to say, after I massage warmed lotion onto her body.

I am also reading Violet Blue's book on cunnilingus. Can anyone suggest a better way to pamper a Mistress?

What does she do for me? Maybe once a month or so, she will have me lay down and she will rub body salts all over my body. Since I have psoriasis, this is especially a treat. She then will bath me and then lotion me. But through all this, she is still in charge. She tells me when to change position or when to get in or out of the bath. As she reminds me, I am her property and she wants to take proper care of her property. I never ask for or expect such treatment. But she understands my needs and knows when I need just a little attention.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/23/2008 10:05:23 PM

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As for pampering my Master, I do a number of things .. I love to have lunch/waters/snacks available during the time we are together if it's a long session. I like to take his coat off and hang it for him when he arrives. Tantric massage is something we've been exploring and i've been studying. I think Saturday he will allow me to pamper him with a long, lovely massage.

Master makes me feel special all the time. Through emails, text messages, phone calls ... we stay in touch constantly throughout our busy days and let each other know that we're thinking of the other. He has purchased the most gorgeous toys for us to explore with. And his aftercare is all that I could have dreamed of.

So yeah, I feel pretty special with Master and try to pamper him often to show my affection and appreciation and love.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/24/2008 5:37:31 AM

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this is a fun one in the good sense of it.

the reason i say that is because i caught my Lord's cold and too top it off i had to go in for oral surgery yesterday.since my Lord was away due to work, my Mistress,His wife, stayed home with me yesterday and came with me to have this done.

She "pampered" me by getting me two pints of good old Ben and Jerry's and had me come downstairs with Her last night and let me lay back in Her lap watching a movie untill going to sleep last night.

and hen She or my Lord is not feeling well or just had a long week i pay extra detail to what i do for them,make warm wonderful meals and have a roaring fire waiting for them.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/24/2008 8:27:46 AM

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evening all,
I have a few questions this evening.
What do you do to *pamper* your proper One .,those little things that let them feel extra special by you ?
And
What does your proper One do that makes you feel extra special,cherished and *pampered*?

I look forward to hearing you answers and hope everyone has a great evening finding many reasons to smile
Mistress Joy

I don't feel that m'Lord pampers me so much as he indulges. It's hard to articulate persicely, but he just has a way of allowing me personalized pleasures that express to me how important my happiness and comfort is to him.

I'm not sure I have any gradious acts of pampering, but I focus on details that revolve around him so that he can feel the same comfort and happiness that he bestows on me. I do my best to listen to what he says so that I can become more intune with his wants, needs and desires so that I may provide for him before he has to ask.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/24/2008 10:32:44 AM

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I pamper Master by giving him back rubs and baking him treats (or buying them if i don't have time to bake). He pampers me all the time. One time i remember i had taken a really nasty fall and i sprained my ankle. He got me a bag of ice had me put my foot on his lap and iced my ankle. His pants got wet from the ice, he did not care he wanted to make me feel better. He is the best.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/24/2008 10:40:40 AM

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What??????? You mean we're supposed to pamper them now? When will it ever end?

Ok, seriously, sometimes when he comes over I cook for him, cause he's come strait from work and driven 2 hours after a full day of work to come. And sometimes I have the bed all cleared and ready for him, instead of full of the normal books and papers and craft stuff and junk it normally is full of that we have to shove aside for him to get into bed.. I also rub and scratch his back in the manner and places he likes, and I randomly buy him lots of presents and stuff, sometimes little things, like a stuffed Cthuluh I knew he missed, cause his got lost years ago. Or one time some nice pirate stickers, cause I knew he liked pirate themes. For his birthday this year and christmas I got him a huge king size blankie so he can stay warm at night at his house, and a scarf from polar fleece, again so he can stay warm.

He spoils and pampers me by taking me out to lunch when he comes, and by driving 2 hours after work every week to be here. He also loans me his stuff, like his x box, and he's letting me take over his netflix account and fill it up with my movies since he's not using it. He also rubs my skin endlessly and in the ways I ask for.

Most expesially he lets me be me. All of me. And he accepts all of me. I don't have to hide nothing from him, and I am free to do what comes naturally. If I am cranky he listens to me whine,and tries to sooth me, with things he knowsI find soothing.

The one REALLY above and beyond way he made me feel special, once was to put aside his feelings and objections about playing with others, and togive me cart blanch with someone I'd wanted to play with for a long time, because he couldn't come down for our visit. The guy never showed, so no play happend. However it made me feel so greatful he'd put aside his personal objections and displeasure at the thought of me playing with others. for my happyness. It just filled me with a sense of love, and gratitude, and made me feel special.

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ORIGINAL: JoyfulMistress

evening all,
I have a few questions this evening.
What do you do to *pamper* your proper One .,those little things that let them feel extra special by you ?
And
What does your proper One do that makes you feel extra special,cherished and *pampered*?

I look forward to hearing you answers and hope everyone has a great evening finding many reasons to smile
Mistress Joy

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/25/2008 8:30:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: JoyfulMistress

evening all,
I have a few questions this evening.
What do you do to *pamper* your proper One .,those little things that let them feel extra special by you ?
And
What does your proper One do that makes you feel extra special,cherished and *pampered*?

I look forward to hearing you answers and hope everyone has a great evening finding many reasons to smile
Mistress Joy

Hi Mistress Joy,
I'm a bit slow to respond, but when I had a Mistress, there were many things I'd do to pamper her. Regular foot rubs combined with reflexology are probably my favorite as well as those of the ones I've served. They tend to relax the entire body and rejuvenate the organs and various other systems of the body as well. Plus, I'm a certifiable foot fetishist!

I also give full body massages that are therapeutic mixed with whatever degree of sensuality is desired by a Mistress. To date, I've yet to receive any complaints unless I've worked their muscles too deeply.

All have enjoyed receiving pedicures and manicures from me. I find giving them to be relaxing for me and tend to almost go into subspace when I do.

I enjoy helping a Mistress getting dressed in the Morning, picking out her clothes once we've known each other long enough, or pulling the clothes from her closet which she directs me to, then helping her put them on. It's always nice to touch her body as I dress her and feel the texture of her skin and clothes. This becomes a very intimate ritual over time. If schedules permit, I'll do the same when she returns home from work if she wants to change into more casual clothes. Ditto for bedtime.

Some have had me help them with their make-up in the mornings and removing it at night. Depending on the woman, that meant either handing her what she needed next or applying it myself.

I've also performed more personal and intimate services such as changing pads or bringing new ones during that time of the month. One especially enjoyed having warm water sprayed on her to help cleanse her to feel fresh, then wiped clean and dry afterward. Keeping them shaved regularly according to their schedule, is another as would of course be preparing bubble baths with candles and music while washing backs and such.

I'm sure there are many other things I could think of if I spent more time pondering your question, such as a particular massage movement I discovered that helped relieve menstrual cramps and pressure for one Domme I served or simply making popcorn while we watched a movie on the TV.

Hope this gives you some ideas for your pet. Feel free to write me on the other side for more details or to answer more questions if you like.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/25/2008 9:00:56 AM

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I like to think little things mean alot in this area. For my previous owners, I have enjoyed buying gifts, giving massages, caressing or petting, foot rubs, pedicures, writing something special for him on my body, cooking his favorite meals, reading to him, and of course running my fingers through his body hair. I find these things are soothing to me and attentive whereas he's concerned.

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/25/2008 10:06:59 AM

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What do you do to *pamper* your proper One .,those little things that let them feel extra special by you ?

Well, as we have limited face to face time; mostly it's limited to doing the dishes and making certain Her drink is full. Sometimes She asks me to do the laundry while the rest of the house is asleep (i don't sleep much), and sometimes i've even asked Her if i could. When we're physically together, i think the most important thing is to have the coffee ready in the morning.

When we can't be together in person, it can be alot more fun for me (hey, i'll be honest; i don't like housework, even if i'll happily do it for Her). I try to make certain i tell Her each day how much i love Her and She means to me; even some of my posts here on collarme are done with that intent. Every now and then i'll send Her a deluge of i love You's in every medium that i can possibly contact Her in.

New Years Eve was the funniest, i had all kinds of New Year's wishes going to Her all ready to send at 11:59 pm. i set all that off and dial Her phone; figuring She was either in bed or at a play party so i could leave a (well prepared) voicemail. It turned out that She was at the Lair with Her Daddy/Husband and She actually answers the phone (i think it was because i call Her so little and that i never call that late that She might have wondered if it was an emergency).

So there i am, She answers the phone and my planned statement goes out the window. i tell Her "happy new year" and "i love you" and abruptly excuse myself because it's the actual moment of the New Year and i'm sure Her owner would like His kiss.

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What does your proper One do that makes you feel extra special,cherished and *pampered*?

Never really pampered, it's just not my thing. But She'll send me emails, tell me She loves me whenever we speak or are in contact somehow. She sends me little things that let me know She's thinking of me.

She play with my hair and scratch my head. neck, back and shoulders; or offer me a playful (and sometimes hard) swat on the knee or ass or wherever She can reach. She gives me my room when i ask it, and does all She can to accomadate me when i work up the nerve to express a need to Her (i'm so timid about asking for things that when i do, She knows it really is a need).

She will sometimes come to me when She needs to talk, when She's bored, wants to be comforted or just to vent. She asks for my help because She understands that No matter who is Dominant and who is submissive; we are still friends and i have a deep seeded hunger to be needed.

She has given me an incredibly loving family and goes out of Her way to let me know that i no longer have to be alone, what more could She do to make me feel safe and special?

Oh yeah, how can i forget? She makes me chocolate and peanut-butter brownies!!! :D

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RE: Two Questions about pampering - 1/26/2008 4:07:43 PM

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What do you do to *pamper* your proper One .,those little things that let them feel extra special by you ?

Oh the things i try to do to pamper Her. i constantly try to express to Her how much i love Her, how much i cherish Her, and how thankful i am each and every day to be with Her. i try to give Her massages, rubbing Her feet, and washing Her in the bath.

One way i try to let Her know She is extra special is by getting some of Her favorite foods, and introducing her to new ones i think She might like. Lettucse wraps and Chick`Fil`A. *smiles* i bring Her some flowers, or ask Her to put on my collar. When i can, i try my best to do some of the housework, its a learning process and hopefully bit by bit, i am getting slightly better at it.

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What does your proper One do that makes you feel extra special,cherished and *pampered*?

She sends me messages on my phone expressing how much She adores and cherishes me. She helps me with my dogs and cats, she cooks such wonderful meals. The very way she smiles and tells me i am a good boy, letting me sleep with her next to bed. SNUGGLING. i can't express how happy i was today, i was slowly drifting into a nap-like state and She held me and kissed my forehead. It was true.. uncondiontial love at that moment that i felt. The sudden impromptu frisky encounters We've had around the home.

Each and every day, She goes out of Her way to express how much i mean to Her. Even through these rough times, i love Her with all of my heart, every single bit and inch is devoted to her and seeing her happy.

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