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PanthersMom -> RE: How do You let go of obsessions? (1/27/2008 11:13:36 AM)
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your reaction is perfectly normal, been thru it myself after being raped and unfortunately there was nothing i could do but continue my therapy and wait for time to help heal the wounds. i will make one suggestion. write. write it all out, daily, several times a day if you must. write out the rage, they hurt, the fears, everything that this brings up in you. when you think of him, write, write, write! this does two things. first of all, it gives you something to do besides go check out the reports and records. you must do this for your own sanity, you're pouring salt in the wound every day, it's never going to heal. secondly, and this may sound silly but it works, it gets those feelings out of you. you release them to the paper, they are not in your head churning around, giving you stress and anxiety, working on your health like some tiny little monster with a hammer and chisel. this can and will affect your physical well being if you do not find a release for it. trust me, i know. i've been in therapy for six years now and just finally reached a point where all the years of abuse and the final acts that had such a devastating effect on me have finally reached a place in my life where i can put them to rest. unfortunately i have to see the person that hurt me all the time, we have young ones in common, but i've reached a point where i can pity him for who he is and what he's done to himself because of the things he's done. he's a sorry excuse for a human being will never have that hold on me again. take back your power, and take back your life. you have to stop letting this hurt you so badly and turn all that back on him. write it out. when you reach the point where you realize this doesn't affect you anymore, take the papers/journals/whatever out somewhere and burn them. release all that rage to the winds, set it free, as you will be then too. best of luck, my mailbox is open to you anytime.
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