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sunshinemiss -> RE: Does "On your knees, Bitch!" EVER work in a first e-mail? (1/26/2008 6:58:46 AM)
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Well, I hope people still respect me after I write this, *haven't read the whole thread btw*... but I do undertstand those people who want that "down on your knees bitch" thing. I've been guilty of that a couple of times not because it is what I wanted, I DON'T, but because it was the only thing available. You see, sub frenzy can be incredibly powerful even to an experienced submissive/slave. There is a strong pull to serve for some of us or a need for humiliation or pain, and if there is no outlet, it's like being a caged animal....
Imagine no one to talk to, no movies with sexual inuendo or tension, no magazine ads that even hint at anything like this.... there is nothing... not even a place to ask the question. Noone even looks you in the eye. Noone sees you as a human or as a sexual or passionate being. Who you are is completely denied for ages and ages, and you are sinking into despair, desperate for any little scrap of acknowledgement for what your soul yearns for. What to do? When you are starving, you will eat dirt.
Where I live there is no community whatsoever, so we are easy targets for trolls. There are people around the world who travel hours and hours just to meet others that do the thing we do. There are people who could be arrested for this. There are people who cannot say anything because they will lose their families or friends or livelihood. These are not the typical USA types of people... these are people who live on islands in the Pacific, or in a conservative country like here, in South Korea, or people who are wheelchair dependent and can't move about as easily as others, or those in small farming communities in the middle of nowhere. Or they are people who are new or un-educated about this way of being. Yes, it is true that there are people who have absolutely no access to anything remotely like wiitwd, at least not safely.
Yes, I have answered an email like that a time or two - because there was NOTHING else.. and truly I mean NOTHING else for months (let's see that would be... 8 months I think). Now, after a few emails, and a little steam being blown off, I've come to my senses and luckily never been harmed or anything - although I have had to block some people from my email - or in one case from my phone.... but those of us who are seriously self-confident aren't going to tolerate that behavior for long (IMHO). In real life, the difference between abuse and BDSM generally is the consensuality of it. Same is true in emails. In real life, if there is no Dom / me around, one might be attracted to an abuser. That quickly can lose its appeal, though. Same is true for these types of emails.
So, that is my experience. I'm sure there are others. But you asked for someone who understood... this is my little slice of understanding.
peace.
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