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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: atursvcMaam

one of my aquaintaces claimed that he had a reasonable amount of success approaching girls with "wanna f**k?"

I'm not going to wade back through 8 pages to see if I've said this already (yeah, I'm getting old)...

It always worked when I used it on a guy.

Cali

Hahaha.  Me too.  Guys are such sluts.

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ORIGINAL: untrainedKajira

in All Honesty i do like a Dom to assert Himself immediately, because although i do know Men like to be a "gentlemen"
things like that just dont take my fancy.
its my preference to be abused, called names and what not. yes i know it doesnt work for everyone, but it works for me

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I would never "sir" a stranger on-line.  I don't understand why anyone would automatically "sir" someone just because he calls himself a dominant/master.  

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ORIGINAL: AlterEgo69

As  a straight dom, when I make first contact with a sub in the personals I always write a personal e-mail, generally behaving like a gentleman, and composing my message in a tone identical to what I would use to introduce myself to someone in the vanilla world. I make the assumption that we all know what we are here for, and that subs presumably want to be treated like full fledged human beings, at least until they choose to offer me their submission. I assume they already know I am capable of taking a much more commanding tone with them, else I wouldn't be here, and I assume they would only want to be exposed to my dominant energy after they have gotten to know me.

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When I began hearing from many different subs that they frequently receive e-mails along the lines of "Hey you stupid worthless slut whore, get down on your slut knees before you read the rest of this message, you cheap slut bitch...", my first reaction was "Oh, those are just loser Dom-wannabes who don't understand what BDSM is really about". But I was recently told that many subs PREFER to be degraded this way in a FIRST e-mail communication, and that there is actually a subculture of subs who make a policy of not responding to e-mail UNLESS the Dom asserts himself in a very aggressive, degrading way in that first communication.

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I am absolutely not judging anyone here! But I am completely fascinated and confused by this. It seems to me that subs' biggest complaint is usually that they meet pseudo-doms who aren't really into BDSM, and are just looking for easy sex. I would think that regardless of whether you are turned on by this kind of talk, responding to FIRST e-mails in which you are treated that way would just be asking for trouble.

Am I missing something? Is this really the preference of a significant population (subs wanting this sort of initial contact), or was my first instinct (that these are just ignorant loser dom-wannabes) correct?

Curiously yours,

A.E.

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ORIGINAL: babygirlblue
I have gotten some of those including a guy who makes multiple accounts to use racial slurs against me.

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ORIGINAL: AlterEgo69

As  a straight dom, when I make first contact with a sub in the personals I always write a personal e-mail, generally behaving like a gentleman, and composing my message in a tone identical to what I would use to introduce myself to someone in the vanilla world. I make the assumption that we all know what we are here for, and that subs presumably want to be treated like full fledged human beings, at least until they choose to offer me their submission. I assume they already know I am capable of taking a much more commanding tone with them, else I wouldn't be here, and I assume they would only want to be exposed to my dominant energy after they have gotten to know me.

When I began hearing from many different subs that they frequently receive e-mails along the lines of "Hey you stupid worthless slut whore, get down on your slut knees before you read the rest of this message, you cheap slut bitch...", my first reaction was "Oh, those are just loser Dom-wannabes who don't understand what BDSM is really about". But I was recently told that many subs PREFER to be degraded this way in a FIRST e-mail communication, and that there is actually a subculture of subs who make a policy of not responding to e-mail UNLESS the Dom asserts himself in a very aggressive, degrading way in that first communication.

I am absolutely not judging anyone here! But I am completely fascinated and confused by this. It seems to me that subs' biggest complaint is usually that they meet pseudo-doms who aren't really into BDSM, and are just looking for easy sex. I would think that regardless of whether you are turned on by this kind of talk, responding to FIRST e-mails in which you are treated that way would just be asking for trouble.

Am I missing something? Is this really the preference of a significant population (subs wanting this sort of initial contact), or was my first instinct (that these are just ignorant loser dom-wannabes) correct?

Curiously yours,

A.E.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

AE, I don't think you're going to find too many of those here amongst the regular posters.  Well, except Kali.  We all know how she is.   

Edited to say... I have yet to receive one of those types of emails.  Well, except from Jeff, but I just laughed.

Cali

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner
Er ... hey slut, get on your knees NOW! (As long as it's convenient and there isn't anyone in the room with you. And try to do it in a way that you can still read the rest of my email).

(major snippage of some really funny shit) 

There. I bet that's got you turned on.