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recovering - 1/25/2008 6:48:31 AM

mhawk

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i just wanted to ask another Mistresses point of view on this,it will be included in this after a small explaination.

over the last couple of weeks i have been dealing with tooth pain taken care of by oral sugery a few days ago and now have a horrendous cold on top of it all.

my Mistress has told me more than once that it's allright for me to be down and out right now,Her biggest concern is that as Her slave i get better. i keep finding myself trying to do my daily duties for Her around the house even though She has told me to take it easy and not worry about the housework.

how as Her slave can i get past this guilt of not being able to preform my tasks for Her as i normally do.i want to please Her and help Her in the mornings and evenings coming and going but i just feel horrible about being down right now..

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 7:09:08 AM

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You have an adoring Mistress that has allowed you to rest and mend. You should feel more guilty about not doing as she asked. The longer it takes you to feel better will be the longer it takes you to be able to serve her in the ways that brings you both joy. Take time off, get well and let go of the guilt you feel.

I'd be more upset if refusing to take care of yourself when you needed to, caused you to become sicker and for a longer period of time.

A hard head makes a soft ass! Or is that what you want?

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 7:12:46 AM

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we were just talking about that last night,She reminded me that when i am better which will hopefully be soon that the next flogging will hurt,but She does truly enjoy the pain She gives me in such sessions . but i'll try to let this pass (on the guilt thing) so i can be better for Her. She is a very dear one.

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 7:13:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mhawk

over the last couple of weeks i have been dealing with tooth pain taken care of by oral sugery a few days ago and now have a horrendous cold on top of it all.

my Mistress has told me more than once that it's allright for me to be down and out right now,Her biggest concern is that as Her slave i get better.

how as Her slave can i get past this guilt of not being able to preform my tasks for Her as i normally do.i want to please Her and help

Be aware that disobedience and stupidity are not good traits in a submissive.

You are exhibiting both here, disobeying her wishes, unintelligent health approach.

Reserve the guilt for when you burn the macaroni and cheese.

For now, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. (whatever the hell that means)

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 7:48:18 AM

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Rather than feel guilty, you should feel lucky that you have such a caring Mistress. Guilt is negative energy, and will get you no where. Whatever her wishes are, you should comply without question. My advice, instead of concentrating on the negative and letting the guilt get in your head, start thinking of something nice you can do to thank her for her compassion, maybe a special dinner, or gift she isn't expecting. Perhaps then you won't feel so bad knowing you have made it up to her for the time you have spent recovering, and she will feel even more justified in her decision to allow you some time "off".

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 8:04:43 AM

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Consider it as this. She has given you a new task to substitute for your other responsibilities until you are well. The task is to take care of yourself. If you consider yourself -hers- then you should be taking every step necessary to repair yourself quickly and efficiently.

If my car breaks, and I give it to my sub to fix (I wish I had a mechanic sub!) I would expect him to do his absolute best to repair it. Not a half assed job, no used parts, and I don't want it being driven until it's fixed! Consider yourself the car, except you're fixing yourself for her.

Vitamins, fluids, rest, steam for the sinuses, whatever things you can think of to bring your body into good repair again for her, should be your self assigned duty. Perhaps in that way you can alleviate the 'guilt' at not doing other things for the time being.
If you simply feel the need to do something more direct for her, research care of the human body and your current ills. Learn something new and write it down, show her you've learned something new while taking the time to put yourself in good health again.

< Message edited by DominaRapport -- 1/25/2008 8:06:13 AM >

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 9:04:33 AM

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You are depriving her of the joy of takeing care of her treasured possession when you disobey her when she tells you to wait until you are " all better" .. it is for her to decide when that is .. not you.
She takes care of all of her possessions to keep them the best condition, why would she do less for you?
How is it your place to decide how she is to take care of you?

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 10:47:26 AM

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Not being able to do the things we normally do is a big downer for most people.

I love to be served but if I'm so sick that I need someone to do the cooking or to take care of me, I absolutely hate every moment of it. It's something I'm working on.

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 11:06:58 AM

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Dear mhawk, Ladies and Gentlemen;

As a Mistress to a few slaves that were down and where they needed some bed-side nursing and care, it was difficult for me to see the very same struggle inside you are feeling. It is a type of torture in of itself to where 'our' (in a general sense) normal is interrupted.

Please do understand, from my point of view, experience and feelings these things. 1. A slave is the most important person in my world. It would be a sad world without you indeed. To have you return in whole, back to the health needed to properly function is best done by the doctor's advice and 'orders.' I see it as their 'command.' 2. My duties/responsiblities and my personal honor, is to tend to the gem in my life --my slave. I have been at the bed of dying slaves and the fact you are to recover is a blessing. The loss of my slaves to disease has been my worst tragedy. I honestly mourn to this day--I cry still, filled with emotions still. I may have lost their service, their love and their physical being however, they have left me with lessons learned, memories of joy and peace. I know of some Masters/Mistresses who have abandoned slaves for a lot less--when things required Dominants to get off their throne and do right by their slaves/submissives. Please understand how upstanding and ethical your Mistress is. I have seen slaves abandon their Masters/Mistresses also --so there is no corner market on such behaviors. 3. On the semi-sweet view of things, consider it invisible bondage. It is torture and perhaps--an extended scene. This may be a way to turn lemons into lemonade. 4. Negative feelings within does not help the body heal. Please do consider taking an opportunity to think, dream, read books and or anything that you may do that will add to your submission later. The last -- 4. Please do get well soon. I am sure all of us will be happy when you have returned full strength.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 11:38:52 AM

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taking a moment while i've got somewhat of a clear head(even i can laugh about that) i am taking all of your points seriously and i do appreciate the advice in this.

in fact we just got off the phone She called just a bit ago to check on me and talked about this a bit.and was reassured as well that it is allright to take the time i need and take care fo myself so i can be better to take care of Her in a few days. i'm really thinking a homade Pad Thai for Her is going to be in order very soon.

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 12:22:06 PM

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The guilt you should be dealing with is not listening to Her specific instructions.

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 12:32:33 PM

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I can't help but to echo Lady Hugs on this. Might I add, some of what was said, I understand all too well.

My submissive has something that I refer to as the first rule. It's has an easy equivilant in M/s. Protect My property. There's a lot tied up in those three words. Too much to go over here, obviously, but it's able to be translated to your current situation. If My sub is sick, protecting what's Mine means that he needs to see that he's well. I want that a lot more than a diet pepsi being served up when I get home. It's about priorities and what is ultimately important.

I'd like to wish you a speedy recovery. I hope you feel better soon.

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RE: recovering - 1/25/2008 4:34:29 PM

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You must obey your Mistress. She has given you an order to get well, not taking care of yourself you will prolong your inability to serve her.

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