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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:36:32 PM

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:39:41 PM

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I already told ya, no nudie pics.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:43:02 PM

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I have brought a single yellow rose for friendship.
But I ask if they like flowers ahead of time.
Even what is their favorite kind of flower.
I look for a big smile.
Usually a good indicator.
I of course give a big smile.
Sometimes a hug if it feels right.
But a kiss...?
Maybe kiss Her hand.
Maybe if everything goes really well and at the end.
I would insist on paying when the bill comes.
I think it is a gentlemanly thing to do.
That is to me the key, is to be a gentleman.
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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:46:30 PM

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I will give someone a hug and a kiss after a scene....but at a first meeting? I shake hands like a polite person, if I am offered a hand, otherwise, I maintain my personal space. And I am Italian!

Pick up the check. Just do it. If she is a lady, she will not order expensive stuff. At least, that's how I was brought up! :) Beware the dreaded "ma'am"--I am fine with it, many are NOT. It's okay to ask her how she wants to be addressed, it will make you look SMART, and when you FOLLOW DIRECTIONS think of the points you will earn.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/27/2008 9:46:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

Having met the OP, I'd suggest not turning up over an hour late because you got lost, not going on and on about your CB3000 and not telling her about all the things that you DON'T want to do.

Oh yeah LOL! Sorry Miss M, sounds like a bummer meet! I've had a few like that Myself!
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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 1/28/2008 5:30:00 AM

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I'm going to be snippy here and say that if you don't know what she'd want, then you haven't talked enough before this face-to-face meeting to have it.

Doing something generic like bringing flowers or calling her "ma'am" or anything like that is what it is: generic.

If you want this meeting to turn into a relationship you have to treat her like she is unique and she should do the same for you.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 2/1/2008 9:23:36 AM

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Different strokes for different folks.
By the time I meet a potential sub we know one another fairly well.
For a start we know neither would let the other down.
He will already know what I like to be called.
He will be meeting a friend.
After the first meeting we will then decide how we want to proceed.
It's impossible to know what sort of relationship we will want until after we have met.
There are lots of different sorts of D/s relationships.
Eventually I want a lover type relationship but that takes time and the right person and I'm not necessarily going to know that at a first meeting and neither is he.
Friends in the lifestyle are important as well.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 2/1/2008 6:57:20 PM

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Anyone that enters my personal space without being invited, is in for a rude awakening.

Agreed. That is one of the quickest ways to get on my bad side.

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 2/1/2008 9:11:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Anyone that enters my personal space without being invited, is in for a rude awakening.

Agreed. That is one of the quickest ways to get on my bad side.

Ditto!

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 2/8/2008 1:28:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

Having met the OP, I'd suggest not turning up over an hour late because you got lost, not going on and on about your CB3000 and not telling her about all the things that you DON'T want to do.

so sad

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RE: greeting a Mistress for the first time - 2/8/2008 6:34:01 AM

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Follow her lead.

She holds out her hand - you shake it

She leans in for a kiss on the cheek - you kiss it

She holds her hand out palm down - you pick it up and kiss the back of it

She smiles with her hands by her sides - you smile, DON'T TOUCH HER and watch to see what she wants you to do next. Sit down? Take her bags? Pull out her chair?

I had a blind date once with a guy who insisted on grabbing my hands. It was horrible. And he kissed me hello and goodbye. He was Italian

Being German, I bloody hated it and never called him back. I am not tactile at the best of times and never with strangers. I prefer people not to touch me.

But another Mistress might love the whole kissy kissy thing and think you are a cold fish if you don't kiss her hello.

So take your cues from the Mistress. Follow her lead.

I agree completely with MsC. I'm a big fan of chiverly, but at the same time I don't like to be touched especially by someone who is pretty much a stranger. Your best bet is to ask her how she would like to be initially greeted and follow her lead. Pay attention to body language and detail. Not enough men do that.

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