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shavedandready -> First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 10:26:49 AM)
I'm nervous about meeting my Dom. He is all the gentelman, but some part of me just makes me nervous. Is this normal/ First time subs out there, tell me I'm normal. My anxiety level is pretty high.

daddysblondie -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 10:48:07 AM)
I suppose my first question would be, what are you nervous about? When Daddy and I met for the first time I was very nervous, but then I've always been prone to having first-date jitters anyway. Once we met, it all fell away and I ended up having brunch with a beautiful person that I found I wanted to spend more time with. I still found myself "nervous" for the first few months when I would see him because I wasn't sure what to expect. It took a little while, but it went away. Now I just look forward to spending time with someone I adore. Whatever he decides to do to me while I'm with him is just fine with me. I'd say you're "normal". [;)]

Maya2001 -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 10:51:01 AM)
is it a public meet just to talk further for example at a coffee shop to see if there is a connection or is play expected ? if the latter you do have a reason to be very nervous

Siona -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 10:55:35 AM)
Yes, a very normal reaction. When it was time to meet mine, I was a total wreck! (We are no longer) It wasn't long before he put me at ease. He was very gentle,kind and very much a gentleman. You'll be fine! Enjoy! Good luck.

fullofgrace69 -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 11:00:20 AM)
i always get nervous and try and cancel about six times before the date, my friend has to talk me down each and every time and im a wreck right up til the moment i see him and we do the little cuddle thing u do at the start of dates.........than it goes ok i seem to be having a lot of first dates at the moment i think im just too picky lol:) but nervousness is normal and so long as u dont let urself cancel ur gonna be fine........ive worked oout i like dates jst hate getting ready for them lol x

DominaRapport -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 12:36:29 PM)
The nervousness comes from expectation and a desire to be pleasing. Just make sure you take the proper safety precautions in case something does go amiss. Public place, make sure someone knows where you're going with who, and why. Have an assigned return time, and if possible (if you have a cell) have someone call you and 'check in' at an appointed time. Or you can use the excuse you were suppose to check on someone at a certain time and use a payphone. Then if you aren't doing well you can use the call as an excuse to end the meeting, and if all is going well you can tell your friend that you want to extend your outting or whatnot. Otherwise be your charming self and try to have fun.

swtnsparkling -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 1:22:11 PM)
Normal

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 1:28:59 PM)
Oh yes it's quite normal to be nervous. As long as it's in a good way. i was a little nervous, but he saw me and took me in his arms and he still hasn't let go. Initial nervousness should be expected. Some might say that if you weren't a little bit nervous that would not be normal. :)

Vampyrefledgling -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 2:07:39 PM)
It is completely normal! It's a first date with someone you have all these expectations about; you want to impress him, please him and want to know that you haven't made a big mistake in giving yourself to this person. Of course you're nervous! Enjoy the nerves. When I met my Dom I told him how nervous I was, he smiled and took it as a compliment. Good luck! Be careful, and be yourself. (Trite, I know, but true) ~Fledgling

subantionette -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 2:43:00 PM)
First date jitters are normal in any first meeting be it a first date or a job interview or metting your Dom/me. [:)] I would say its pretty darn normal

slavegirljoy -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 3:30:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shavedandready I'm nervous about meeting my Dom. He is all the gentelman, but some part of me just makes me nervous. Is this normal/ First time subs out there, tell me I'm normal. My anxiety level is pretty high. Normal? i don't know what's normal for you or anyone else, only what's normal for me. Every submissive, who is, or has been in a D/s relationship, has been a 'first time sub', at some point. And, since every new relationship is different, being a submissive in a new D/s relationship will be a first, for that relationship. Any time you meet someone for the first time and you want it to go well and you want to make a good impression and you want it to be all that you have hoped it would be, it's natural to feel some anxiety and nervousness. But, since i have only ever met with men who i have already spent a considerable amount of time getting to know by talking to them on the phone several times and emailing and chatting online and, i have always met with them in an open and public place and i have never called any of them "my Dom" or made that sort of commitment with them, until after meeting with them in person and both of us deciding that was what we wanted, for me, the anxiety was not very high. At least, no more than what i would feel for any 'first date', which is really a mixture of nervousness and excitement. If i were feeling very nervous about meeting someone, that would be a signal to me that perhaps there was a good reason not to meet that person. That would make me wonder if the 'little voice inside' was trying to tell me that i should probably postpone it, at least until i could find out what was causing the uncertainty and could feel more sure about meeting him. *Any* way, that's how i am and, like i said, i only know what's normal for me. The little voice inside has never failed me and i always listen to what it's telling me. joy Owned servant of Master David

sweetsub1986 -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 3:42:45 PM)
I was very nervous about my first face-to-face with Giz. I'd say it's normal.

DesFIP -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 5:57:30 PM)
I was terrified and stayed that way for the first half hour or so. We met at a mall so we walked around for that half hour. There was no way I could have sat still.

Griswold -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 6:40:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shavedandready I'm nervous about meeting my Dom. He is all the gentelman, but some part of me just makes me nervous. Is this normal/ First time subs out there, tell me I'm normal. My anxiety level is pretty high. Ehhhh....relax...it's all "first date" stuff. First time I met the woman who introduced me to WIIWD...I thought I was gonna shit my pants. Of course, she being the Domme, she had the upper hand and she knew it (or at least I was shaking too much to realize she might have been scared shitless as well) and all I remember of my first sight of her was....angels singing, some kind of bright light coming out of the microwave (or the piano....I wasn't all that highly focused at that particular moment) shining on her hayud....and I remember she smelled like a million roses. And to this day...she's still the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in my life. Relax (easier said than done)...enjoy. Chill. Enjoy all the smells. Soak it up. Breathe it in. Wake up and realize it was never a dream.... And remember one thing (this is vital); When you finish your delicious excursion through your submission, you've expressed your love and devotion to him solely....given him everything you have....willingly....and you finally wake up and decide "Fuck this shit...I'm gonna become a Domme"...remember this one thing from Griswold.... I'm single, and you're the only woman I ever truly loved. [8D]

adoracat -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 9:34:19 PM)
~~fast reply~~ when i met Daddy.... oh gods, he still laughs about it. [:D] we'd been talking non-stop for some weeks (3-4 hours a day in IM) and a week of late night phone calls that lasted an hour or more each time, and the day had finally come to meet in person.... i was a nervous wreck, i could barely look at him. he was smiling, and he got past the two greatest judges of character... the two dogs i had then. they barked as usual, then STOPPED and wagged their tails at him. i knew it was going to be ok.... then he finally said "come here" and held his arms out to me, and when he held me in his arms, i knew everything was going to be fine. kitten, still amused

denika -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 10:25:47 PM)
I didn't know he was going to become my Dom when he and I first met S I found him captivating and wanted to get to know more about this person who was daring enough to run his finger's down the back of my neck when most would rarely touch me ( I was with a Top at the time who was seen as very formal and I have a feeling people made their own assumptions on any protocal between us) He became my friend first, the first time I took the step tho and stood infront of him knowing I was going to submit to him I was alot more nervious. Be yourself, have fun and remember, life is short S think of all the women who said no to the desert tray on the Titanic s I'm sure it will go well as long as you be yourself Wolf's denika

juliaoceania -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/26/2008 10:49:39 PM)
The first time I met my Daddy he was not "my" dom yet, and I was somewhat nervous. I was actually far more nervous after I met him than before I walked through the door. It was very funny, I broke out into a sweat when I looked into his eyes... I have met several people from over the internet, but he is the only one that ever made me feel that way.

girlygurl -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/27/2008 12:57:55 AM)
I'd say it was very "normal". The first time I met Sir I was nervous... but He quickly put me at ease with a soft touch, and a sweet smile sigh I love Him so.[:)] Good luck with your first date, and I hope it's one of many. girly

fullofgrace69 -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/27/2008 6:08:13 AM)
oh and shaved, come the ninth of feb ima gonna be in the exact same boat as you are now:) meeting another Dom, trouble is this time i've been chatting with Him for long enough to know that i really do actually like Him a lot and things look good, so i've started to get nervous already. don't expect too much though because then you won't get that upset if it doesn't work out .......... i need to learn that lesson and fast :) have fun on your date x

CalifChick -> RE: First time meeting your Dom (1/27/2008 2:34:36 PM)
FR Well since he collared her yesterday, I'm thinking the meet happened? Update? Cali

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