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abcbsex -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/2/2008 7:58:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Reform

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ORIGINAL: candystripper
I might, if it was his real desire -- if he found me more attractive with short hair. I only care about being attractive to him.

But if it was to humiliate or isolate me, no. Anymore than I'd accept any other kind of permament mark for that purpose.

candystripper


I was shorn this week, and during the process I felt completely humiliated. I trusted him to do it correctly, of course, but in the time it took for my hair to be shaved off I was terrified. I cried after in the shower and wondered to myself why he'd do this to me, etc. The look on his face when he saw me getting out of the shower made me melt. I was sorry I was afraid, that I didn't trust his intentions, everything. He was so pleased with me, that I was brave, that I hid my shame from him and overcame it quickly.

It wasn't about being *more* attractive, it was about trust. It was a lesson (so to speak) in the fact that he'd find me attractive no matter what I did to my appearence.

Would I do it again? Absolutely.


Before Alpha and I were into bdsm, I shaved my head (act of defiance against a bitchy hairstylist) and found that he thought I was just as sexy as any other time, which I was afraid of after the fact. It really opened my eyes and helped me know for sure that he loves me no matter what. Now I feel comfortable enough to grow my hair out for him, knowing that it's just a preference, not something that will make me more "valuable" than the girl with 1/4th inch long hair.




littlewolfe -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/2/2008 8:35:20 AM)

yes this one would cut her hair if tolded to do so   it is just hair and will grow back  and it might grow back to look even better  repectfully littlewolfe




pinkwind -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/2/2008 5:18:20 PM)

The length of my hair on my profile pic is as long as i go, in fact i prefer a buzz cut, it feels nice to me.

Having had varying lengths of hair what i do now know is that someone grasping very short hair between knuckles and tugging and twisting hurts like nothing else, a surprise to me when it happened the first time i went really short after moving in with Andy.

Yes, with longer hair you can get a better purchase, but you can also damage and pull out more than was intended, whereas with really short hair it's just plain root torture!





Bloodrose88 -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/2/2008 5:59:06 PM)

I have no problem with cutting or coloring my hair to my dominant's wish.  Whim?  Probably not, but if I knew my Domme preferred short hair on me, of course I would cut it.  I am fortunate to be one of those women that look good with any length, color or cut, so long as you don't give me a mullet or something hideous.
I've been blonde, I've been raven-haired, I've had flame red hair, I've had buzzed head, chin-lengthed bob, long hair.  Its just an accesory to me.  I experiment with different makeup, of course I will experiment with different hair styles.
Definitely not a hard limit for me, nor is it one I understand in others, but to each their own.




Sabella -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/3/2008 7:22:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sabirah

I find this amazing, that you don't wash your hair but once every 7-10 days.
I must wash my hair daily or it looks greasy and very unattractive. Sometimes if I am home for the weekend and not doing any errands or seeing any friends or family, I will let my hair go with out a washing.

Healthy Hair



Good hygiene is important for healthy hair. This includes brushing the hair properly and washing it with a mild shampoo. Good nutrition (a well - balanced diet of fresh foods and lots of water) not only helps one to have beautiful - looking hair but also improves it's texture.

Wash your hair daily or every other day. The extra circulation provided by the shampoo /message stimulates the oil glands to work more efficiently and brings natural oils into the hair. This applies to all types of hair.

Use shampoo that is pH balanced and that is designed specially for you hair type (dry, oily, etc.). Ask your hair specialist to assist you in selecting the right shampoo for your hair type. Always rinse with cool (not hot) clean water for extra shine. Allow your hair to air dry naturally whenever possible. Never brush soaking - wet hair, as the hair is quite elastic at this time and can be pulled and stretched to the breaking point. A wide - toothed comb is best for wet hair.

Give your hair a good brushing before bed. This should be done by bending forward from the waist, head down, brushing from the back to front. Brush at least fifty to one hundred strokes. This will help remove dirt, pollutants and damaging particles from the hair in addition to stimulate circulation which will increase natural oils for added sheen and oxygen to the hair and scalp.

Once a week massage jojoba oil with one to two drops of rosemary oil for dry or oily hair and tea tree for hair that show signs of dandruff into the scalp. Leave on over night, wash out the next day.
Frankly, 90% of this is utter bullshit. Because of advertisement (read: companies wanting our money) almost everyone has been brainwashed into shampooing, washing, scrubbing, exfoliating daily which in turn requires conditioning, lotioning and oiling daily to offset the damage done by stripping away the natural oils our body produces.

Circulation is good. You can provide natural circulation to your scalp without even getting it wet. Just give yourself a massage. In the shower while bathing a gentle massage helps distribute the oils. "Shampooing" with a gentle conditioner - no shampoo ever - is a very effective cleanser all by itself. Just massage well into the scalp and rinse very well, no "leave in" conditioner required. Cool water IS great for the hair's appearance, it helps close the hair shaft which in turn reflects light better - ergo making it appear shinier. Air drying is always best, dryers and hot rollers just damage the hair. For really beautiful hair it's best to work with what you got rather than try to change it.

The 100 strokes before bed can be skipped since we now have conditioner, unless you have straight hair and you just really like brushing your hair. People did this way back when because their soaps were very harsh and brushing the hair helped distribute the oils along the fragile and dryer length. They certainly didn't wash their hair daily either. If you have curly hair and try this, be prepared for a bushy afro which will start tangling before you can flip your head back up. Gentle finger combing is best for curly hair.

Dry, flaky and dandruffy scalps are most often caused by product residues (shampoo, conditioner, hairspray, gels) that are built up on the scalp. While rosemary IS an excellent remedy because of it's antiseptic properties, resolving the problem is a better solution.

OP: That's a tough one. My first inclination would be /hard limit on cutting my hair. It grows slowly and is curly so it appears shorter than it is. But he loves long hair so I don't see that being a problem coming up anytime soon.






SaraZeal -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/3/2008 1:15:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sabella

quote:

ORIGINAL: sabirah

I find this amazing, that you don't wash your hair but once every 7-10 days.
I must wash my hair daily or it looks greasy and very unattractive. Sometimes if I am home for the weekend and not doing any errands or seeing any friends or family, I will let my hair go with out a washing.

Healthy Hair



Good hygiene is important for healthy hair. This includes brushing the hair properly and washing it with a mild shampoo. Good nutrition (a well - balanced diet of fresh foods and lots of water) not only helps one to have beautiful - looking hair but also improves it's texture.

Wash your hair daily or every other day. The extra circulation provided by the shampoo /message stimulates the oil glands to work more efficiently and brings natural oils into the hair. This applies to all types of hair.

Use shampoo that is pH balanced and that is designed specially for you hair type (dry, oily, etc.). Ask your hair specialist to assist you in selecting the right shampoo for your hair type. Always rinse with cool (not hot) clean water for extra shine. Allow your hair to air dry naturally whenever possible. Never brush soaking - wet hair, as the hair is quite elastic at this time and can be pulled and stretched to the breaking point. A wide - toothed comb is best for wet hair.

Give your hair a good brushing before bed. This should be done by bending forward from the waist, head down, brushing from the back to front. Brush at least fifty to one hundred strokes. This will help remove dirt, pollutants and damaging particles from the hair in addition to stimulate circulation which will increase natural oils for added sheen and oxygen to the hair and scalp.

Once a week massage jojoba oil with one to two drops of rosemary oil for dry or oily hair and tea tree for hair that show signs of dandruff into the scalp. Leave on over night, wash out the next day.
Frankly, 90% of this is utter bullshit. Because of advertisement (read: companies wanting our money) almost everyone has been brainwashed into shampooing, washing, scrubbing, exfoliating daily which in turn requires conditioning, lotioning and oiling daily to offset the damage done by stripping away the natural oils our body produces.

Circulation is good. You can provide natural circulation to your scalp without even getting it wet. Just give yourself a massage. In the shower while bathing a gentle massage helps distribute the oils. "Shampooing" with a gentle conditioner - no shampoo ever - is a very effective cleanser all by itself. Just massage well into the scalp and rinse very well, no "leave in" conditioner required. Cool water IS great for the hair's appearance, it helps close the hair shaft which in turn reflects light better - ergo making it appear shinier. Air drying is always best, dryers and hot rollers just damage the hair. For really beautiful hair it's best to work with what you got rather than try to change it.

The 100 strokes before bed can be skipped since we now have conditioner, unless you have straight hair and you just really like brushing your hair. People did this way back when because their soaps were very harsh and brushing the hair helped distribute the oils along the fragile and dryer length. They certainly didn't wash their hair daily either. If you have curly hair and try this, be prepared for a bushy afro which will start tangling before you can flip your head back up. Gentle finger combing is best for curly hair.

Dry, flaky and dandruffy scalps are most often caused by product residues (shampoo, conditioner, hairspray, gels) that are built up on the scalp. While rosemary IS an excellent remedy because of it's antiseptic properties, resolving the problem is a better solution.

OP: That's a tough one. My first inclination would be /hard limit on cutting my hair. It grows slowly and is curly so it appears shorter than it is. But he loves long hair so I don't see that being a problem coming up anytime soon.





I second what you say about this being bullshit. The natural way is always the best, less damaging way, for hair. Hair drying, no damaging chemicals (any dyes, perms), no extreme heat (flat iron, curling iron), no extreme cold (don't go outside with wet hair when its freezing). Basically try to shelter your hair from the bad influences of the elements (including wind) - don't artificially boost them with man-made heat like hair dryers or irons...

Tying the hair before sleep is ambiguous. I'd say it's better to let it as is, it puts less pressure on the scalp when it's loose than when it's tied in a single, or two single points on the scalp (then the weight is unevenly distributed, resulting in headaches). I can have 'bed hair' and look fine that way, cause bed hair with 32 inch long strands of wavy hair...actually looks good you know (it aint going everywhere, the weight makes it all go down, so it doesn't look bad at all - brushing may temporarily reduce the frizz, but it also reduces the wavyness).




lucern -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/3/2008 3:06:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

What a great post, lucern.
 
Thank you.
 
candystripper


I appreciate that candystripper.  I was afraid I'd gone too academic to be of any help to anyone.




darchChylde -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/3/2008 5:34:11 PM)

you mean this thread is still going? i remember fighting through it when it was still relatively fresh... hehe

*darchChylde flips his hair out of his eyes and wanders off, giggling to himself*




scarlettjinx -> RE: Hair-ed Limits... (7/3/2008 6:25:04 PM)

about a year ago I shaved my head. Not for any kinky reason, I was working as an animal cruelty investigator, and in texas, in the summer, my long thick hair was so hot I was getting blisters on my scalp.  So one night I came home, announced my intentions, and when I was told nobody was gonna stop me, (I guess he thought he was calling my bluff) I went to the bathroom and started hacking away. I looked cute and it did feel much better, but after a few weeks I realized what a huge mistake it was. I was always identified as the sexy little redhead that was really retro. Noone saw me as that anymore. I had to go buy jeans and t shirts because I felt like a fool wearing all my great vintage clothing because while my body was still feminine, I felt like I looked silly because of my hair. And it has taken FOREVER to grow back. It has been a year and it is still very short. I would never cut myhair this short again, because I have mourned for it. I really feel like part of me died the day I lost my hair. It is way too personal.




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