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Need a little wisdom.... - 9/2/2005 1:49:53 AM

naughtybadfun05

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I am fairly new to the lifestyle and am in the process of figuring ME out. Please excuse (and correct) Me if I use any incorrect terms. I guess I consider Myself "switch" because, I could see Myself happy, and have tendencies, for D/ or /s [either way]. I'm sure that's somewhat strange in itself, but is also true.

I am, at this time, exploring My Dom side with a nice man that I met on another site. We are in the delicate "beginning" stages of our relationship. My question is, do you think that there is any length of time that a couple should bond before introducing others into the equation? I realize that there are a HUGE number of variables that go along with this question, but do you suggest a kind of general "I've-got-you-broken-in-how-I-want-you" time that you spend with a sub?

What I'm inclined to feel is, life is too short and we are all trying to get to a place with a person that makes us feel good; so, as long as I don't mind and it will make him a happy boy (that matters to Me)....I'm thinking I'll go for it (check my profile to see what you think). Just wanted to touch base with some somewhat like minded ladies for a little advise/networking/help. Let Me know what you think.

Thanks for your time.

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RE: Need a little wisdom.... - 9/2/2005 6:57:20 AM

Nuke718

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There is no universal schedule for things like that, sorry LoL.

It really depends on if you are both into it. Have either or both of you done this kind of thing before? That should make it easier. It sounds like a big fantasy for him to do forced bi, has he ever done it? Fantasy and reality are not always the same, so you need to make sure he is really ready to cross that line. And finally, do YOU want to do it? You are under no obligation to fulfil all your partners desires if you are nto at least interested.

So, I guess in short if you both really wanna do it, do it. Be safe, and have fun!

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RE: Need a little wisdom.... - 9/2/2005 7:20:27 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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ORIGINAL: naughtybadfun05
My question is, do you think that there is any length of time that a couple should bond before introducing others into the equation? I realize that there are a HUGE number of variables that go along with this question, but do you suggest a kind of general "I've-got-you-broken-in-how-I-want-you" time that you spend with a sub?

There's no set time limit or number here of course. The answer is "When everyone involved is happy and secure and FEELS ready to persue others...that's when you persue others"

For an open poly like me, I can be persuing a few different people at once, but none of those are my primary relationships.

Just remember that most people totally mess up their first poly relationship.

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RE: Need a little wisdom.... - 9/2/2005 9:32:52 AM

fastlane

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I like the new pic E.S.
Hey, there's no time like the present, afterall, we all learn from our mistakes, so why wait?

Well, I stand corrected. I keep making the same mistakes, over and over again.

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Just because it hurts, doesn't necessarily make it a bad thing.

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