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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 7:44:15 AM

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Anything is possible if you want it badly enough. i also think it depends a great deal on why the love dissolved in the first place. Life gets in the way a lot of the time and people drift apart, i would say if they focus back on the relationship and work at it, love can be renewed. It's all about priorities. Sometimes you don't know how much you value something till you loose it. If two people engage in direspecting each other with lies and deceit where trust is broken it's going to be a hell of a lot harder, and i would wonder why there is an interest in continuing. Some people choose safety and comfortibility with what they know then risk being alone, not able to find love again. They prefer to live quiet comfortable lives of feeding their insecurities rather then risk having something so much more satisfying and fulfilling. Who knows what has brought them there, life can be a difficult journey for some. i wish you luck in your relationship and hope you can rekindle the love you desire and deserve.

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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 1:32:31 PM

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I fell back into love once. With tons of effort, tons of thought and tons of just plain making it happen. Sadly, I learned it takes two to fall back into love. One person cant do it alone. And so for all my efforts, I couldnt make it last. I see no point in trying that one more time. Its easier to put the energy elsewhere.

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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 1:47:17 PM

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Being "in love" is a hormone-induced wank. It's great! For a fortnight...

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actually...it's three months lol. i don't remember who did the study but they found that relationships tend to be the strongest for the first three months because the hormones attempt to set you up for pair bonding and hopefully successful reproduction.

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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 4:27:39 PM

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No.. never deserved my respect to begin with, now he deserves it even less.. Fall back in love.. NO

Not every post is about your ex....

Why not?

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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 4:45:23 PM

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this has never worked for me. my favorite dominant of all time contacted me a few weeks ago and wanted to give it another go, but i just couldn't...my heart can only be broken like that once in a life time and i knew if i were to go back to him it would happen again. in a nutshell, the trust isn't there anymore as much as i want it to be. love isn't enough if there isn't trust to go with it.

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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 5:26:37 PM

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love has a different meaning for all of us but i think too many ppl are afraid to either love or be loved and we spend to much time NOT telling others that we love them or allowing them to love us.

why is it that falling out of love is easier than falling in love again?

love is simple. its the other bullshit that gets in the way

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I concur with this statement mysdimenor, it speaks to me in volumes.

Why thankyou Raechard! I just fell in love with you all over again without falling out of love with you....

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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 7:50:04 PM

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No.. never deserved my respect to begin with, now he deserves it even less.. Fall back in love.. NO

Not every post is about your ex....If nothing else the way you act towards him cannot help one to consider whether it has less to do with him and more to do with you. I don't see him ridiculing you every chance that he gets. Just seems odd.

OMG! You are right! I now see the error of my ways. I shouldn't ridicule him in an anonymous forum. From now on I'll do it in front of friends and family like he does. thanks Domi!

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RE: Can you fall back in love? - 1/28/2008 8:42:46 PM

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That's it...is it possible or does being "in love" just run it's course?

I think that being "in love" as the start of the relationship... everything is new and shiny, no one has made any mistakes yet, and there is nothing to work past yet. This isn't real love to me, it is just the seed that real love springs from.

I view love as something that evolves and changes, and either both people are willing to do what is necessary to evolve and change together or they do not last..

So the answer to your OP, I do not think being "in love" lasts 99% of the time, and I do not think that a love that doesn't progress past that as being one I would really want. In my view one does not know how true their lover's metal is until it is tested by fire. I love my Daddy today, I was "in love" with him for the first year. I love the love we have now, and no amount of infatuated "in love" comes even close. He isn't perfect, I am not perfect, we have both made mistakes... the key is that we had a choice when the testing happened.... do we get past it or move on to "greener pastures". At first the other pastures looked greener, easier to sustain because we could date local people, etc. But no one local was him, and no one nearby him was me. We figured out that we really loved each other, even after the shiny newness had worn away. I cannot tell you what it is like to see love in his eyes for me, it is deeper now than it was when it was new. Last summer I could not see how we could get past all the troubles we were having, and for awhile it didn't look as though we would...

No matter what spawned your OP, I wish you or whomever it was about the best.

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