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One dimensional - 1/28/2008 6:56:49 AM   
LadyHathor


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Status: offline 		An education, IMHO--
 
To say, you are submissive with no depth is like saying one is French, or Italian-in fact, that has more depth than--"i am a submissive--period."
 
Do you expect that by simply saying, i am a subnissive--that says all, tells all, and makes you "secureable"--why that's like saying, I am a man and expecting the women to line up like shoppers at a meat market...well ok there are some like that--yet there are, I believe, more of us who want to know the makeup of the person wel before and beyond the list of fetishes and that one liner----
 
 
 
 

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 6:59:56 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I consider being a submissive one part of me.  There are many more that are equally important.  If someone was interested in me only because I call myself submissive, what a disappointment that would be.  People have many facets, it's fun that way.  Narrowing someone down to their list of limits and likes/dislikes, while important, is only part of the puzzle.

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 7:01:28 AM   
Shawn1066


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Status: offline 		You mean there's more I can offer than simply being a willing body?  Madness. :-p

Seriously, though.  I agree with what you say 100%.  We're people first and everything else second.  Especially in regards to submissives, I think you need a whole lot more than simply being a willing submissive to find what you want.  After all, from what I've seen, there are a great many more submissives than dominants to begin with.  You must always remember you're more likely to succeed if you have a wide variety of qualities.  Being willing might get you past hello...

DV's Fox



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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 7:04:13 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I am sort of like a submissive version of the Twilight Zone. I am multi-dimensional.

If someone focuses on only one thing, they are bound to get lost and never be able to return.

(said in my best Rod Serling voice).

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 7:39:01 AM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		Well, I for one am unique, a pain in the ass, but a unique pain in the ass.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 7:40:50 AM   
beargonewild


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Status: offline 		From my thoughts, I believe a greater emphasis needs to be focused on the person behind the submissiveness. I do stress that I am much more then another submissive man, I am also intelligent, somewhat foolish in nature, a bit outspoken. I am also a brother, an uncle, someone's adult child and much much more. I am all of these and more, where each facet of my being is a partial glimpse as to how I am as a person. In many cases this seems to be either forgotten or ignored. It is a shame that their isn't more emphasis placed on more of a person's qualities instead of just their submissiveness.


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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 8:42:23 AM   
LadyHathor


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Status: offline 		how beautifully stated "bear"--and I agree completely, I get so hmmm irritated when one is asked for the person behind the profile and One gets a list of fetishes, or " you tell me then I will tell you"--or "what else is there to say"...I really hope this thread grows and helps other see that one dimensional for most, doesnt cut it---
 
Chia, you ARE a scream--or is that how DO you scream?? LMAO.

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 10:33:39 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		My profile states how I feel about myself, I contain multitudes...

I am curious about what spawned this thread, are one dimensional submissives a big problem?


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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 11:11:29 AM   
BlackPhx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

My profile states how I feel about myself, I contain multitudes...

I am curious about what spawned this thread, are one dimensional submissives a big problem?



I suspect far too often people try to classify themselves on these boards and forget that those here for the most part are looking for a relationship, not just a grocery shopping list of traits. Go to a ProDomina and say I am a cross dressing, submissive male, I like paddles, have a shoe fetish and occasional infantilism and you are negotiating the whole of the relationship. Here is my Tribute for those services, I can book you for Thursdays at 5 PM. They don't need to know what your favorite book is, meet the parents, what movies you like. It is a pigeonholded relationship from the get go. Not to say they don't occasionally grow to more, but that is the exception that proves the rule.

Here most of us are looking at the whole person. I will never identify myself as a submissive even though I am a slave. Any who have seen any of my posts in the past on the net know I am an Alpha Female, a SAM, have a breadth and depth of experiences, an author (not published save on the net), a mother, a wife and that the man who holds my heart and chain had to be pretty darned special to grab it up, meet the challenges on a daily basis and stick the bronc.  Heheh..I am not easy. I am far from just one thing or another and the same goes for many here. BUT and I suspect the Domina get it far more than the Doms, many submissive males are unsure HOW to approach a Domina without it sounding like they are trying to book a session. So they go for the one dimensional approach and hope. Then again i have seen somes Doms make that approach towards submissive females and males as well.

It's almost as if they have lost hope of finding the full person interested in them without that first notice/incentive.

poenkitten (whose depths have depths) 

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 11:22:56 AM   
patwi


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Status: offline 		I am a submissive. I suppose that makes me one dimentional :D because - I don't know you all well enough to give the in-depth details which would flesh me out in your eyes.

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 11:39:02 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I don't think anyone is one-dimensional, be they submissive, dominant, neither, both, whatever.  Humans are multi-faceted, whether or not they have yet  to discover all their facets.  The human spirit is not reduced to just one function or path. 

Now, if someone wants to focus on only one path in a particular exchange with someone is a different story.  Some people are only looking for one thing in a relationship.  A bottom may just wish to enjoy spankings now and again without emotional involvement or commitment.  A top may just wish to enjoy giving spankings now and again wihtout emotional involvement or commitment.  People in book clubs may only wish to discuss books with each other.  Chess clubs focus on chess...and so on.  It's all about what people are looking for with each other, and if two or more people find it together or not.  If not...keep goin'. 


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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 11:57:10 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		I like to think being a slave is only one part of me. Like some have said there is a person behind the label slave and I am a multidimensional.

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 2:41:01 PM   
Sabella


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Status: offline 		This thread just reminded me of the Demotivators poster Individuality

Always remember that you are unique. Just like everybody else.

Well of course you are, and so is everyone else. But people complain about long wordy profiles, short to the point ones, too few pics, too many, too many interests listed, not enough, and that's before they even talk via IM, on the phone or meet! One thing is for sure - there's no pleasing anybody


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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 5:46:13 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Hmmm...

I am French, and submissive.
My Honey is Italian and dominant.

But, we're European, so, you know...kind of shallow and stuff...

(plus we live in Kentucky, so...)

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RE: One dimensional - 1/28/2008 6:42:13 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		When I first acknowledged and accepted that I wanted to be the submissive partner in a relationship and that pain turned me on, it was a very consuming feeling.  I was highly motivated to learn as much as I could about being submissive and a bottom.  My free time was focused on this. 

Once I met my Lord, my desire for knowledge and information intensified.  As he explained once, he was the first person who went to the most secret and special part of me and wanted to learn about it.  He was the first person to touch that core and I was consumed by it. 

Did I appear one-dimensional during that time?  Maybe, but I am far from one-dimensional. 

Another aspect about myself is that I do not share easily with others.  Generic questions will not gain much information about me.  I offer more information when the questions are specific.  "Tell me about yourself" will gain a person little information beyond the superficial. 

If someone appears one-dimensional in answering questions, then maybe the best questions for them are not being asked.

Knight's Kyra

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