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What am I? - 1/28/2008 8:55:17 AM

unhumansub

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I have struggled all my life to understand what I am. After some research I learned of the whole "forced fem" and "sissy" fetishes and worked myself in there somewhere.
However, it's not really forced if I enjoy it, but then again, I don't enjoy doing it on my own. I need the aspect of having someone tell me to do it.
Is this a common thing?
This is only the beginning of my questions. I've considered therapy on this, but I think that is an extreme...not to mention I don't think I could tell someone face to face about this!

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RE: What am I? - 1/28/2008 9:01:48 AM

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Wanting to be guided into feminization is not the same as wanting to be forced. I really don't believe in the concept of something being "forced" if it's wanted. So... You want a strong dominant woman to guide you through the process, yes?

I'll call it Guided Feminization.

You know what you want. Your dominant will know what you want. You'll, ideally, pursue it together. Yes, it's quite common, from what I can tell. There are hundreds of submissives on this site who love varying degrees of feminization. However, there are a lot of people on this site more knowledgable than myself.

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RE: What am I? - 1/28/2008 9:08:25 AM

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Seeing that you already know how to use this site then use it to find people in your area with the same interest. Drop them a line a say hello. Whats hard about that.

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RE: What am I? - 1/28/2008 9:42:48 AM

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either you are chopped liver or you are animal, vegetable, or mineral.

You might need therapy for some aspect of your life, as I don't know you....

but what you have talked about here is so common as to be mundane---now that might in and of itself send you flying for Dr. Niles Crane's office, in that you might feel too mundane, too commonplace or two insignificant.

Hey!!!! You are so NOT alone.....

revel and be wanton in it, find yourself a girl (or boy (I haven't looked) but assuming from where you are posting, I am thinking girl that shares some common interests, where the two of you can have sinergy in more than the sexual areas of your life, and by god, sonny----YOU GO TO IT.

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RE: What am I? - 1/28/2008 10:11:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail
... but what you have talked about here is so common as to be mundane---now that might in and of itself send you flying for Dr. Niles Crane's office, in that you might feel too mundane, too commonplace or two insignificant....

*panics* ... what makes you think I'd see Niles and not Frasier? Am I not good enough for the star of the show?
:-)

Seriously though, thanks for the advice/support. I'll keep plugging away.

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RE: What am I? - 1/28/2008 10:28:42 AM

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In general, a want to be forced to crossdress can stem from one of or a sum of multiple reasons and I cannot know what all drives your interest. However, one of these reasons is that being forced to do something becomes an expression of dominance and submission. I think it is entirely possible to want to be forced or ordered to do something and still say it is forced.

An example I use to convey this idea is that a man might enjoy being forced to lick the floor. I wager that it is not that he enjoys licking the floor itself but that being forced to lick the floor represents an act of D/s or SM, which is what he enjoys.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: What am I? - 1/28/2008 10:43:48 AM

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I found, knowing what I am, wasn’t nearly as important as knowing where I wanted to go, or at least in what direction.

There is no need to define one’s self, when being one’s self, is self defining.

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I need the aspect of having someone tell me to do it.
Is this a common thing?

For me, it’s about liberating myself from the conditioning I've placed on myself, as a result of societies influence.

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RE: What am I? - 1/28/2008 10:51:16 AM

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*panics* ... what makes you think I'd see Niles and not Frasier? Am I not good enough for the star of the show?
:-)

Frasier is kind of an emotional nutcase. Niles may have his own problems, but he is at least healthy enough to be in a solid relationship with Daphne (who is just damn cute) and had a previous marriage. Frasier is constantly getting dumped because he's a nutbar. Who do you want giving you counseling?

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