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The time has come... - 1/28/2008 12:52:56 PM   
OmegaG


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Status: offline 		As I knew it probably would.  I had a confession of a mistake that I made and was instructed to come up with ideas for punishment.  The guidelines are to come up with something that he will enjoy but I'd rather not do.  If my ideas don't cut it, he has some of his own.

I have a couple of ideas (I think) so this isn't a cheat to get others to think for me.

But I was wondering, my parents tried this tactic when I was a kid and I'd honestly draw a blank at coming up with suitable punishments for myself.  Part of it is that I'd never think of something I'd absolutley abhore.  Are other people able to more efficeintly come up wiht punishment ideas for themselves then I am?

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 12:58:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Seems to me that no one but you and him know what you would not like and he would.  So how can you look for answers here.  And yes I think it's cheating.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 12:59:52 PM   
OmegaG


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Seems to me that no one but you and him know what you would not like and he would.  So how can you look for answers here.  And yes I think it's cheating.

Mike




Were I looking for answers, I'd agree-- I'm wondering if others have an easier time thinking of suitible punishments for themselves.

ETA-- mental block-- that was what I was looking for-- does anyone else have a mental block when asked to do this.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 1:02:37 PM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		You are right I mis-read you are not looking for suggestions.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 1:05:26 PM   
OmegaG


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You are right I mis-read you are not looking for suggestions.

Mike




Thank you.  You did make me re-read to make sure I hadn't conveyed the wrong thoughts.  Not a bad thing to keep me honest (considering my degree is in PoliSci )

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 1:12:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thinking up punishments for myself would be extremely difficult. That said, Master is usually very frustrated, when I mess up I punish me far harsher than he does before he even gets the chance. I can be very harsh on myself mentally and emotionally though I would never dare to take into my hands self inflicted corporal punishment. I am also far slower to forgive myself. You should have seen how I punished myself for Krakatoa and the Peliponisian (sp) war. Yep I am one of those, it's always my fault. Master steps in it, forgets someting, whatever? My fault.  

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 1:17:12 PM   
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Thinking up punishments for myself would be extremely difficult. That said, Master is usually very frustrated, when I mess up I punish me far harsher than he does before he even gets the chance. I can be very harsh on myself mentally and emotionally though I would never dare to take into my hands self inflicted corporal punishment. I am also far slower to forgive myself. You should have seen how I punished myself for Krakatoa and the Peliponisian (sp) war. Yep I am one of those, it's always my fault. Master steps in it, forgets someting, whatever? My fault.  

poenkitten


Ahh, I wondered who was behind Krakatoa, were you to blame for the fall of Troy too?

I am at the other end of the spectrum and I really have to stop saying "not my fault" before my ass goes on strike.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 1:47:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		i get yelled at for apologising too much but im rubbish at thinking up punishments for me. i am good tho and im honest if someone wants to punish me with something i love i do tell them how much i like it rather than take an easy punishment so i feel i get points for that lol:D

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 1:54:53 PM   
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i get yelled at for apologising too much but im rubbish at thinking up punishments for me. i am good tho and im honest if someone wants to punish me with something i love i do tell them how much i like it rather than take an easy punishment so i feel i get points for that lol:D


Far more points then I get.  He says I'm too smart for my own good, and he knows me too well, he knew when I said I had a confession to make what it was AND he double checked to see if it was truly an accident of if I sort of did it knowing it was wrong but wanted to anyway.  (it was truly an accident, this time)

Would I tell him that I like something more then he thought I did........I'm not sure.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 3:05:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

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ORIGINAL: BlackPhx

Thinking up punishments for myself would be extremely difficult. That said, Master is usually very frustrated, when I mess up I punish me far harsher than he does before he even gets the chance. I can be very harsh on myself mentally and emotionally though I would never dare to take into my hands self inflicted corporal punishment. I am also far slower to forgive myself. You should have seen how I punished myself for Krakatoa and the Peliponisian (sp) war. Yep I am one of those, it's always my fault. Master steps in it, forgets someting, whatever? My fault.  

poenkitten


Ahh, I wondered who was behind Krakatoa, were you to blame for the fall of Troy too?

I am at the other end of the spectrum and I really have to stop saying "not my fault" before my ass goes on strike.


According to Sir I am responsible for both World Wars, the fall of Rome and the French Revolution.  

He's even looking for a T shirt for me that says "It's ALL my fault".

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 5:43:22 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		I'm good at thinking up appropriate punishments to the crime, but, it's only because I'm a mommy.
But I can turn it around on myself if asked.
(I'm hardly ever asked.)

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 6:36:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		I feel that it is the dominant's job to know you and himself well enough that he can be creative with punishment and make it something he would enjoy and you would rather not do.  I guess asking you to come up with a punishment is to teach you something?  Or his way of telling you he isn't up to the task?

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RE: The time has come... - 1/28/2008 9:28:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		If he spent as much time and energy on how to train the improper behavior out of you as he does how to punish you for it, this might not be a problem at all.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/29/2008 5:39:52 AM   
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I feel that it is the dominant's job to know you and himself well enough that he can be creative with punishment and make it something he would enjoy and you would rather not do.  I guess asking you to come up with a punishment is to teach you something?  Or his way of telling you he isn't up to the task?


I think he did it to keep me thinking about it.... We talked about it last night and he did indeed come up with a punishment that is far less appealing then any I'd come up with.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/29/2008 5:41:21 AM   
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If he spent as much time and energy on how to train the improper behavior out of you as he does how to punish you for it, this might not be a problem at all.


I think that I can be trained until Hell freezes over and this will be a mistake that will still happen occasionally.  But I will be more careful from this point on.

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Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. Sydney J. Harris

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RE: The time has come... - 1/29/2008 6:24:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

If he spent as much time and energy on how to train the improper behavior out of you as he does how to punish you for it, this might not be a problem at all.


I think that I can be trained until Hell freezes over and this will be a mistake that will still happen occasionally.  But I will be more careful from this point on.


You can only be trained if you want to be and He can only train you if you let him--other wise its like trying to make a car into a bowling ball---it packs one hell of a punch, but the trip down the alley is brutal---
 
I --as with, katylied don't  get the whole " you figure out your punishment" scenario--to Me that is a cop out on the Dominants part--unless the punishment is REALLY the "you figure it out" scenario.

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RE: The time has come... - 1/29/2008 6:34:10 AM   
OmegaG


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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

If he spent as much time and energy on how to train the improper behavior out of you as he does how to punish you for it, this might not be a problem at all.


I think that I can be trained until Hell freezes over and this will be a mistake that will still happen occasionally.  But I will be more careful from this point on.


You can only be trained if you want to be and He can only train you if you let him--other wise its like trying to make a car into a bowling ball---it packs one hell of a punch, but the trip down the alley is brutal---
 
I --as with, katylied don't  get the whole " you figure out your punishment" scenario--to Me that is a cop out on the Dominants part--unless the punishment is REALLY the "you figure it out" scenario.


Well I guess since we are in a transition stage right now I'm a bit more charitible about my judgement of his abilities and energies.

part of me wants to defend him to the nth degree (did you notice above that I stated that he did come up with a punishment all by himself) and part of me knows the futility of such a guesture as people can only make pronouncements based on the limited information given and the filters they read the words through.



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Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. Sydney J. Harris

Sex without pain is like food without taste.
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RE: The time has come... - 1/29/2008 9:58:17 AM   
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As I knew it probably would.  I had a confession of a mistake that I made and was instructed to come up with ideas for punishment.  The guidelines are to come up with something that he will enjoy but I'd rather not do.  If my ideas don't cut it, he has some of his own.

I have a couple of ideas (I think) so this isn't a cheat to get others to think for me.

But I was wondering, my parents tried this tactic when I was a kid and I'd honestly draw a blank at coming up with suitable punishments for myself.  Part of it is that I'd never think of something I'd absolutley abhore.  Are other people able to more efficeintly come up wiht punishment ideas for themselves then I am?


I don't think it's a cheat to ask others.  Has he forbidden you to ask others?  No?  Then it isn't a cheat. 

Asking someone to come up with a punishment is folly, unless the desire is to tailor-make a pleasurable scene for the slave.

I'd pick, let's see, a trip to the ice cream parlor!  Or perhaps a fetish scene I'd really, really like.

Perhaps that's the point?  Then view this as an opportunity to pick a very pleasurable scene for yourself! 

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RE: The time has come... - 1/29/2008 10:37:27 AM   
OmegaG


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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

As I knew it probably would.  I had a confession of a mistake that I made and was instructed to come up with ideas for punishment.  The guidelines are to come up with something that he will enjoy but I'd rather not do.  If my ideas don't cut it, he has some of his own.

I have a couple of ideas (I think) so this isn't a cheat to get others to think for me.

But I was wondering, my parents tried this tactic when I was a kid and I'd honestly draw a blank at coming up with suitable punishments for myself.  Part of it is that I'd never think of something I'd absolutley abhore.  Are other people able to more efficeintly come up wiht punishment ideas for themselves then I am?


I don't think it's a cheat to ask others.  Has he forbidden you to ask others?  No?  Then it isn't a cheat. 

Asking someone to come up with a punishment is folly, unless the desire is to tailor-make a pleasurable scene for the slave.

I'd pick, let's see, a trip to the ice cream parlor!  Or perhaps a fetish scene I'd really, really like.

Perhaps that's the point?  Then view this as an opportunity to pick a very pleasurable scene for yourself! 



hmmm I like the way you think-- and I blew a perfectly good oppurtunity, damn.

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Regret for the things we did can be tempered by time; it is regret for the things we did not do that is inconsolable. Sydney J. Harris

Sex without pain is like food without taste.
- de Sade

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RE: The time has come... - 1/29/2008 11:05:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Him telling me to do this would be punishment. He'd also have to deal with me not being able to find a suitable one and being an emotional wreck.

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