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Disabilities - 1/29/2008 5:27:01 AM   
LadyHathor


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Status: offline 		I write this, hmmm to bring into focus what once was and what may soon be again--Once Domina's grew old or became disabled--I knew and know of more than a few wheelchair bound--surrounded by adoring boys---many of US--the baby boomer Dominas will face infirmities, limited mobility, maybe wheel chairs, maybe other disabilities---there will be no stilettos, leather too hot or too small, hands and fingers unable to manage chains--yet the regal Dominance still exists--the love, the affection, the ability to crack the whip so to speak---
 
Dominas: will you hide away?
 
Subs/Slaves: are you really going to seek the young lusting nubiles??
 
Speak up all, I am curious.

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 5:36:28 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I won't hide away and I hope that my sub stays with me so we can finish out our lives together. I think its really a sad thing how some people see the elderly (or infirmed)as a waste of air.  There is so much to be learned from many of these people and many of them have touched the lives of other people in a positive way. I can only hope that my sub views things in this way, I do believe that he does. Because the body does age and fade, but the devotion that binds us usually does not.

~Lashra


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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 6:13:38 AM   
subtreat4u


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LadyHathor, Lashra

  While getting old is a fact, and the mind, and or body starts to give up, i feel that there are many that
will, and or would cherish their Mistress, Domina, through the infirmities of old age.
  This may only be my belief, but truly feel, love, devotion, loyality, and the bond is to strong for this (old age)
to break

jim

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 6:47:49 AM   
pixelslave


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Status: offline 		Lady Hathor,
I think this is going to largely be a matter of the kind of bond that's formed between the Domina and her sub.  From what I see posted and in profiles, it's obvious there are those who aren't seeking 24/7 loving relationships where a long term commitment is the goal.  For those that are, I'd like to believe they could count on growing old with their submissive partner who'd be devoted to them regardless of what came their way.  Speaking only for myself, that's what I'd want to see happen on either side of the coin. 
 
For those in less committed relationships, their decision not to form those kinds of deep relationships with their subs and establish those bonds may leave them regretting those decisions later on.  If a sub is treated as disposable now, would it be reasonable to expect a different kind of loyalty from him or her later on than what's being given to them now by the Domme?  
 
 - pixel


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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 6:52:54 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		It's a good question.  One that I actually asked Myself a while back.

While running this little thought in My head, I was kind of wondering at what age I would 'give it up'.  Would it be when I hit 40?  Perhaps when I hit 50?  What would be appropriate for Me?

I never really did come up with an answer.  I couldn't come up with a scenerio that would in all ways make Me useless in this lifestyle.  Sure, I may get to the point where I stop wearing the corset and the tight leather skirt, but that doesn't mean that there won't be someone out there who won't find Me beautiful in their eyes.  I may stop swinging a flogger, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't still be able to teach technique.  There will always be different expressions at different phases of life.  I'd like to hang right in there with them.


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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 6:58:14 AM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		There are young lusting nubiles here????????

(Hikes up pants, spit combs hair)

"Well nubiles, I'll be with ya as soon as I take care of the one that matters."

(Oils chair wheels, prepares breakfast, rests head on her lap)

"Cause that's just the way it's gonna be"

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 7:10:01 AM   
pixelslave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Perhaps when I hit 50? 


Hey!  That's a bit too close to home for some of us, youngster!!! 
 
And FWIW, I know of at least one Domme who is very active in the scene from her wheelchair!
 
 - pixel
 


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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 7:18:31 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pixelslave

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Perhaps when I hit 50? 


Hey!  That's a bit too close to home for some of us, youngster!!! 
 
And FWIW, I know of at least one Domme who is very active in the scene from her wheelchair!
 
 - pixel
 


Don't ask Me why, but that made Me laugh.


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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 7:36:47 AM   
MistressVnus


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Status: offline 		 I'm going to be 51 next week and they haven't shut me down yet.
The good news is there are subs/slaves/bottoms...(whatever you want to call yourself) that grow older too!!!
And, I have to tell you, I'm amazed at the younger fellows who "prefer" an older Mistress.  I'm getting hit with requests from 35 and younger on  a daily basis.  Im just now sending one off to war that is 30....(be still my heart).
I am having a difficult time adjusting to some of the "younger" slaves only because I'm a bit more practical and dont want them wiping my ass in 15 more years.  It is not what I seek for a LTR.  However, they sure are fun to play with and train and I shall embrace the moments while I still can.  They keep me feeling younger (not that I'm old...just "older').   I just have to keep from getting too attached to the younger ones and maintain certain emotional boundaries, for us both.  It sure is hard somtimes.
But, there are plenty of men out there my age seeking someone to get "older" with in this lifestyle and that is my ultimate goal, as well.
I'm going to crack my whip as long as the powers that be let my elbow move...*chuckle*

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 9:04:05 AM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

I write this, hmmm to bring into focus what once was and what may soon be again--Once Domina's grew old or became disabled--I knew and know of more than a few wheelchair bound--surrounded by adoring boys---many of US--the baby boomer Dominas will face infirmities, limited mobility, maybe wheel chairs, maybe other disabilities---there will be no stilettos, leather too hot or too small, hands and fingers unable to manage chains--yet the regal Dominance still exists--the love, the affection, the ability to crack the whip so to speak---
 
Dominas: will you hide away?
 
Subs/Slaves: are you really going to seek the young lusting nubiles??
 
Speak up all, I am curious.


Well, I'm one of those of which you speak. I walk like an old woman (I know someone will peruse my profile and see I'm 54 and say "well, hell yes..because you ARE old!.  Is 47 old?  That's when this started.) and primarily use a power chair to get around. 
 
Nope, I never felt the need to "hide away".. I've tried, but more than a few bring me out of "retirement".  I no longer can stand to play and there is an upside to this.  It's showed me what dominance truly is.  It's an aura without even saying a word.  It's personality.  It's taking care of yourself and not letting yourself  "go". Actually, I forget I'm IN a power chair (power chairs are basally  motorized miniature lazy-boys :)  I incorporated it as part of me..the total package of me.
 
You can still wear stilettos, you just do it sitting down.  You are at the proper height to do CBT.  You have slowed down enough to enjoy a slave initiated pedicure :) 
 
I can see how well a job I did on training my slave all these years.  I never have to ask for a thing..he just KNOWS what I need and when.  I've tried to push him away a few times but he ignores me!  (thank god he realizes when I'm being prideful).  He also knows when to listen..and just how to be a friend. (didn't train him to be this way, this is his nature. What I did do was be open and communicated to him how I think.  A benefit of dropping the domme gig and just being a person)
 
While I may not be a young as I once was, I'm not as old as I'm going to  be.  So to the OP, if D/s is all about playing to you..you are going to have a problem..but if it is just your nature and submissives are drawn to you, you don't loose that :)  The power remains.

< Message edited by LotusSong -- 1/29/2008 9:21:16 AM >

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 9:16:31 AM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pixelslave

Lady Hathor,
I think this is going to largely be a matter of the kind of bond that's formed between the Domina and her sub.  From what I see posted and in profiles, it's obvious there are those who aren't seeking 24/7 loving relationships where a long term commitment is the goal.  For those that are, I'd like to believe they could count on growing old with their submissive partner who'd be devoted to them regardless of what came their way.  Speaking only for myself, that's what I'd want to see happen on either side of the coin.  
 
 - pixel



Pixel,
 
It does happen.  The other day, slave and I stood in front of a mirror.. he behind me hugging me.  As we looked into the mirror, I saw my physical flaws.. I looked at him and noted his changes over the years.. I broke the silence, knowing that was going through his mind also (we are both very self-critical and one does not see the other as we see ourselves)  I sighed and said "Slave, we've gotten old together".  There was a comfort in that thought.
 
I met him when he was 53 and I was 44.. he is now 63 and I, 54. 

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 9:25:45 AM   
LadyHathor


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Status: offline 		How Beautifully stated LotusSongm that POV is exactly one of the ones I was looking for, Dominance to many is a persona, a state of being, not merely a mask that appears and disappears.
 
Thank You for sharing.

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 9:55:40 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		nobody i know is in a wheel chair.  my parents are 65-dad and 64-mom
mom has amphezema (spelled wrong) she smokes more than a chimney.

dad is as healthy as a 30 yr old.

i on the other hand wont make it to their age.  maybe not even much past 50.
i have what is called tetralogy of falot.  it is a congenital heart disease caused by 22q a broken chromosome.  supposed to have my 5th surgery within the next 3-5 years.  my pacemaker will need to be changed within 2.  funny part is i can take alot of physical abuse in bdsm scening...and not pass out or lose circulation...but when i go outside in the environment...poof..breathing issues big time.

my brother had severe epilepsy.  now toned down with pot.



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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 10:13:39 AM   
mindwarp


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Status: offline 		hello everyone, from someone who has just recently started particpating in posts on here and chatrooms, something i never thought would happen, my wording can sometimes be a bit not good, but from someone with a disability (epilepsy) but not had any reoccurence for 18 years now, but has many side affects with this being alienated by peers, shunned upon, called thick and stupid, but makes you serious minded also so the idea of fun doesnt exist for me, i am 39 and too old change my nature and ways it is so deep rooted into my nature, however i love bdsm and been into into for 5 years now i am a collared slave, but the need for a partnership does get to me you see people whom you have known got married have children, this all gets me to me, its  a fundamental flaw with me i am single and never had a partner, and not good at socializing i prefer a more sedate life and privacy in bdsm vanilla world with no outside involvement, like going to a fetish club just going for me no play one on one talking  i dont want come across as sounding im needy but that is not me i always have had giving attitude putting others first before myself, have always considered it a curse to me, just wish people would accept me for who i am and i dont want this post to sound very i am feeling sorry for myself because i dont, im just open and honest and maybe too honest at times and and talking to bdsm  people whether mistress or sub i feel apart of a extended part of my life, a family so to speak many thanks
                                        mindwarp

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 10:21:55 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I dont worry about having a group of young subs to attend to my needs. AS I grow older, I will have one of my boys for sure, possibly both as things work themselves out. I have never been in perfect physical health from the day they started with me. The fact that this might degenerate sooner than later has never been an issue. Our physical activities are secondary to our mental connection, and that doesnt change when the body decided not to play nice.
I have never hidden before, I have been through a full-torso back brace anddecided it gave me a lovely waistline rather than the fact that it was hideous. I was wheelchair bound for a time becasue of recurring hip problems, and was happy for the chance to build my upper body strength getting myself around. I have arthritis in my hips and back, and it isnt going to get better as I get older, but I am also never going to let IT tell ME how to live. I should have been wheelchair bound permanently at age 25 becuase the deterioration in my hips and spine is so bad. Every doctor I saw prepared me for it. Instead, I got my black belt in karate at age 26. 
I will eventually be old andpossibly infirm. But I will still be me. My boys are with me becasue I am who I am, not becasue I do what I do.

DV


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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 12:01:23 PM   
Politesub53


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor
 
Subs/Slaves: are you really going to seek the young lusting nubiles??
 
Speak up all, I am curious.


Hi Ma`am, we get older too

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 12:04:23 PM   
Shawn1066


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Status: offline 		I'll be with my Owner no matter what.  I love her far more than I love what she does to me.  If she couldn't lift a finger of her own, I'd still be there for her.

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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 12:13:46 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Hey, Shawn......

I know your Owner is already going to tell you this, but that was beautiful.


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RE: Disabilities - 1/29/2008 12:18:45 PM   
mindwarp


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Status: offline 		and i wish to second that and wish it could happen to me also mindwarp

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Dommes & Disabilities - 2/12/2008 2:05:50 AM   
subtreat4u


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Status: offline 		LadyHathor
write this, hmmm to bring into focus what once was and what may soon be again--Once Domina's grew old or became disabled--I knew and know of more than a few wheelchair bound--surrounded by adoring boys---many of US--the baby boomer Dominas will face infirmities, limited mobility, maybe wheel chairs, maybe other disabilities-

   Ladies

   i just found out last night that one of the Ladys i have been talking to has
(2)  DR  appts (Mon - Tue), then goes in for MIR/MAR tests later,
somthing could be seriuosly wrong, then it may be minimal',

i sent Her, and several other ladies a valentines card Hope
Hope You all enjoy them!

i told the lady i will not run because of her health,
could be serious, and i'm wanting to help her.





Shoud i just tell her i need to move there too so
i can care for her take her around?


Any cards missed

jim



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