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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 10:52:12 AM

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how about f/f-m where the f-m is just one person? like me...intersexed.

gotta be hot!

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 11:02:15 AM

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What is defined as "F"? You knew the job was dangerous when you took it!

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 11:26:28 AM

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As for your actual question, there is a massive double standards of female bi-sexuality/homosexuality vs male bi-sexuality/homosexuality. It's silly, but there - most people seem to think f/f sex is hot, m/m sex is repulsive (both males and females, oddly enough).

I think overall that females tend to have more erotic plasticity than males. In my experience, even heterosexual women are able to appreciate the beauty and/or sensuality of other women. Whereas there are a fair number of men that are perfectly willing to acknowledge another man's (or woman's if they're gay) merits/attractiveness, they are equally as likely to be entirely repulsed by any remotely sexual ideas about that person. Whereas some women are very fixed in their gender preference, a fair number are at least lukewarm. Bisexual women are probably not significantly more common than their bisexual male counterparts, however there is a much higher occurance of what I call "barsexual" amongst women. That is, thanks to a common fantasy amongst hetero males, there are plenty of women who are only bisexual when someone is looking!

As for myself, I have a relatively low physical attraction to males. Sexual attraction to a male, for me, is generally something that is built from an existing mental/emotional attraction. Conversely, whereas mental/emotional attraction is important to me with a woman as well, that initial physical attraction drool factor is present, where it generally is not for me with males. M/m sex is neither hot nor repulsive to me, simply uninteresting on a personal level, I have no qualms with a friend or lover that has an interest in that. M/f sex is equally uninteresting (outside of interaction I may have with a male partner), basically the male body just really doesn't interest me that much. Female, however, well, I guess I just overall find the feminine form more pleasing. :)

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Need I remind folks that our lifestyle forefathers happened to be experts on male/male sex?

This is just QFT

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 11:36:14 AM

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If it helps, althought my "Master" seeks another female a.s.a.p since he has strong urges to sleep with another woman

, we are both wanting another male involved in time. We have just been having a harder time finding guys who are willing to just be around another male while certain sexual activities might be going on with everyone. We do not want the Master and the other male to do sexual acts with each other, just do them to me instead.. but most guys we meet are pussies and aren't secure with their sexuality. Plus, we live in a town where there are a lot of "bro's" as I call them, or beef heads, jocks, males who are lacking some brain cells. Not opur cup of tea.

What we would REALLY prefer is another couple, though. That just seems to be the hardest to find since I am new to this lifestyle and need to know that everyone is as equally attracted to each other as we can be. I know that can never be 100% when involving even 1 more other person, but It upsets me greatly if I feel left out in any way. I'm a spoiled brat like that. Haha

So, yes... I would love to have another male involved.. especially one I can be domnant with. I have an itch to give out some pain lately.

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 1:08:32 PM

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TwylightFading,

You should find the post called "Problems finding...." in the Poly forum. PeggyO has a great message about what you and your Master need to consider before having a third or couple join you.

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 1:58:37 PM

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It's common enough, people are just totally inept at going about it.

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 2:56:24 PM

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One girl can be enuff of a pain in the ass.... why in the world would I want another one. are you nucking futs!

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 6:34:57 PM

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In the middle of two males IS hot, hon. And there are times when the hungry hole has worn one out and it's soooo great to be able to holler, "Next!" Haven't done it often, but now and again....

I may yet line me up a stable of subs (both genders is fine, I only need one set of male pheromones to get me going)...yes, a stable. It's going to take more than a few to cover the bases when it comes to satisfying all my skin at one time. Maybe this year at Paradise Unbound....

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/30/2008 11:11:22 PM

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~~arm chair psychology alert!!~~~

All the l-o-l-ing in the OP tells me the author is not amused but irritated….but he gets to point at the L-O-L_ings as proof he is ‘only joking’.

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Edited to add---yes, I should have sat on my hands instead!

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/31/2008 1:20:45 AM

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Fot me if feels that there are a lot more of people who are interested in M/f/f threesome than M/M/f threesome. I've only had one male D-friend who was into M/M/f. And I'm talking about the kind of threesomes where sex is a shared pleasure between everyone.:) From my point of view it's such a shame because it's just so arousing for me to see two guys enjoying each other sexually. :p

I'm not saying it is so, maybe it's just a cultural thing here in Finland, or maybe I've just met all the wrong persons, sigh. :)

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/31/2008 3:47:49 AM

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I think that a straight male dom is understandably more interested in a m/f/f threesome than a m/m/f one.

What isn't understandable is all those straight male 'masters' who are using their slaves solely to hunt for more women they'd normally be unable to get for their harem. That stinks of loser to me.

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/31/2008 4:43:56 AM

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But...so what's wrong with it?

Okay, the guys want to do a threesome or watch two girls go at it. Is that so bad?

As was stated earlier, f/f sex is more widely considered hot than m/m sex. I sure get the impression (at least looking at profiles on here) that there are more bisexual women than men. In my personal life, I think they're about 50/50, though.

Besides, organizing a threesome is fairly difficult. You've gotta find a girl that's actually interested in it. They're not that easy to find in normal relationships. If somebody just wants to date and snuggle and raise a family, then munching on some other chick may not be high on her list of priorities for her relationship. So the guys find a girl on here who's open to it, then they're halfway there and why shouldn't they take advantage of it?

Basically, what's the point of the post? Social commentary that there are more bi women than men? Commenting on the fact that guys like to look at naked chicks? Insisting that doms should somehow pretend to be bi and seek out male slaves to make things more fair?

I'm not trying to be argumentative, I just don't really see what there is to discuss. Especially if it's just gonna turn into another "LOL! Loserz!" thread.

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You know what, there is nothing wrong with it. Take a working poly relationship.. M/F/F sex, is the cherry on top of an already great sundae..

Take a working M/F relationship, D/s or vanilla.. add a one time (or once in awhile) female sex partner and it can be fantastic!

But jealousy can become a major issue very quickly and problems arise when the partners in the primary relationship do not do everything they can to make each other feel emotionally"safe"..

Often, men can be clueless idiots when it comes to handling two women in bed because whether you realize it or not, every glance, every kiss, every nuance, every gesture is seen, examined and filed away for later...

But this is all just my opinion..

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/31/2008 5:53:18 AM

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Aww!! I love you too b!!

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/31/2008 6:23:58 AM

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But jealousy can become a major issue very quickly and problems arise when the partners in the primary relationship do not do everything they can to make each other feel emotionally"safe"..

Often, men can be clueless idiots when it comes to handling two women in bed because whether you realize it or not, every glance, every kiss, every nuance, every gesture is seen, examined and filed away for later...

Now that's a very good point!

i guess the flip side of that is, how many men do you need to have in bed with a woman before she starts losing track and one of them has the opportunity to get away with something?

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 1/31/2008 6:38:23 AM

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I don;t think that ths sort of relationship is wrong-but often done for the wrong reasons.

People may decide another toy may be entertaining-but people have a nasty way of needing more than that from others. Perhaps changing perspective to a larger overall picture might help prevent that commonly ocurring poly train wrecks?

And that nasty nasty word.....patience.

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 2/2/2008 5:03:26 AM

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I'm actually baffled by the number of woman who seem to be repulsed by the idea of M/M sex. I'd have thought it a common fantasy, but evidently not (and evidently women here are exceptions, so no need to chime in, thanks).

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 2/2/2008 5:21:07 AM

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i think its kind of amusing that most(literally almost all) 'couples seeking a 3rd' are looking for 'F only' well of course. what guy wouldnt want to add a hot F to the already existing m/f sex?..... LOL.. ok i was kidding but was very close to the mark too ...i also hear that most all females in a 'couple seeking' are much more comfortable with the 'like gender' attributes of f/f sex....gentleness, 100% understanding of female needs-emotions( PMS lol kidding) -subliminal body languge/signals etc. but....now think of all the m subs who are earnestly seeking couples.......not much of a list there......practically none. as a former m sub for years...(over time opening up more and more to straight/bi-curious scenarios) i too at one time was interested in serving a m/f couple. that search didnt last long lol....

was just a thought....something for people in this forum to think about, discuss, agree, disagree.....or...maybe not lol
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Women are more desirable than men in the common world at large and that is reflected here. In a world of half naked women on billboards, TV commercials etc. what else did you ultimately expect society to become moulded into?

Men are also perceived as being more harmful and scary, which also adds to why an additional male is the last thing a couple would look for. People wrongly or rightly think with a female they know what they are getting and a male would be a more destructive influence to the relationship.

It is also supply and demand because more males are seeking than women here. I don't know all of what I've written seems so obvious and hardly worth bothering with.

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 2/2/2008 5:35:09 AM

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My friend Rolland (head of a poly house) summed this up possibly best.
Its easier to run a house with a few women and the occasional other man in it then it ever will be to run a house full of men. Guys get stupid when they are trying to be impressive, and with other women around no matter how submisive a guy is he will eventually be annoying trying to get her attention and see other males as competition. I love guys, I love peace in the house more. So, we have our girls here, and a few guys can visit on occasion.

I tend to get the vibe from most who send their girls out searching that they are looking more for sex and less for relationship. The males or couples where both are actively involved are the ones who are looking for a more long term relationship. Just my observation to ad to the mix.

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RE: couple seeks 'F' only ....lol - 2/2/2008 6:27:44 AM

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I think it is equally divided between couple seeking female or male subs. I miss having a male slave around, and haven't had much luck finding one that meshes with the needs of this family.

I agree that most of the people seeking a femal 3rd are just looking for a 3way partner, all they ever talk about is sex but again to some people all WIITWD is just an excuse for kinky sex.

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