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LadyEllen -> bicurious/bisexual sub crossdressers (1/30/2008 5:34:07 AM)
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Hi All
At the risk of starting yet another crossdressing thread, I yet start this one - because I'd really like to get my head around this aspect in particular. Its an aspect I've come across many times now and one which is spread wall to wall across the internet, but still dont fully understand, and given my background I get asked lots of questions on it by concerned or nonplussed wives.
What interests me is the motivation driving some ostensibly heterosexual males who crossdresss to not just take a fantasy interest in but also to seek out and enact sexual relations with other males - other crossdressed males and/or non crossdressed males.
I have several theories;
1) being crossdressed gives "permission" for this type of crossdresser to indulge otherwise suppressed bisexual orientation. Where the partner is also crossdressed, doubly so. The reasoning being that if either partner "is a girl" then its not really the bad thing he's been brought up to believe.
2) the crossdresser is taking the portrayal/experience of being female a step futher than just the clothes and mannerisms, seeking to make their "inner woman" more real through sexual interactions from the female perspective. Or at least what the crossdresser imagines to be the female perspective.
3) where there is also a submissive element in the crossdressing, there is a combination of the above two theories; whereas in everyday life the crossdresser would never submit to another male, he feels permission to do so when crossdressed, whether the other male is crossdressed too, or not. And this submission takes very specific forms in the provision of oral sex and the receipt of anal sex.
4) there could be an element of loneliness, "my wife doesnt understand me" and so on, and the crossdresser would prefer to do his thing with a natural genetic woman but cant for whatever reason - another crossdressed male who appears to be female provides a surrogate for her.
But still, these theories are not satisfactory as far as I'm concerned - and it may be impossible to pin down every explanation, and definitely impossible to come up with a single explanation.
The other element to throw into the pot is the nature of bisexual interest / enactment in this area. Whilst I've come across many crossdressers within this aspect who have an interest in giving oral and/or receiving anal sex in these circumstances (taking a supposedly female role?) there seem to be few interested in the other side of that coin apart from as reciprocation on quid pro quo basis. And also there is the matter of kissing - whilst sexual acts are high on the agenda in this aspect of crossdressing, very few such crossdressers I've come across would even consider kissing another male, whether or not one or both was crossdressed.
So, over to you - and please, I'm not looking for value judgements from anyone on this. We all have our value judgements, and we've heard them ad nauseam on almost every other crossdressing thread already. I'm looking for explanations - which may hopefully help us to understand all this better and maybe, who knows, change our value judgements.
And yes, this concerns an aspect of crossdressing, crossdressers and their motivations and I realise enough to know that the above does not apply to every crossdresser!
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