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LockedMike -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (8/29/2008 10:18:36 PM)
I am a male locked in chastity, and from my experience I can say that I'm much more attentive to my partner when I'm denied orgasm. The feelings I get after a few days of denial are actually addicting and when I finally get an orgasm it is VERY intense. I used to masterbate a lot and mostly from stress or boredom and neglecting my partner and housework. The orgasm would bring relief but it got to where there was no pleasure. I now have more time and energy because I stay focused on things other than sex. When i'm with my partner all my energy is focused on getting him off. I've always been one to make sure my partner gets off first and then satisfy myself afterward. I've talked to him about keeping me locked up longer if not permanent; right now I only stay locked for week to week and a half at a time. I'm also very much more submissive when i'm denied and can be made to do things i normally don't do when i'm in a bondage scene with someone. Mike

AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (8/30/2008 8:33:16 PM)
Hi. We get lots of men into orgasm control, orgasm denial, and chastity. They like being made to refrain from orgasm, and the reason varies depending on the guy. Some like to focus more on pleasing the women and to stop being selfish and having their penis control them, and some like being commanded by a Mistress to orgasm when she tells him too and to do it the way she tells him. All the guys we do this to say they love it.

sillyslaveboy -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (8/31/2008 9:13:51 AM)
Mm... like i already mentioned, although i can be pretty 'active' on demand, i often don't have orgasms on longer periods. And the word 'denial' is kind of too hard for what actually happens. i am a TS MtF, who didn't went through transition yet. For me is enough to start feeling Female-ish. Be it the way i think in the given moment, the way i walk, the gestures i make, the music i listen or yes, the clothes i wear. When i enter that waters, i have difficulty to even realize i have a cock. Whatever i do, it doesn't get hard, as long as the feeling lasts. What is an male-ish orgasm there? Yes, a male-ish thing, no thanks. My orgasms are quite mental, as i touch my breast. And this 'trance' can last for several weeks. I leave it just to give release to the male-ish body but only because of knowledge a realease should be given. Not because of a need. Although this place was first shown to me under hypnosis, i don't consider it to be (totally) result of brainwash. Rather a mind state in which i feel much better than else. i enter there whenever i want and i can be there in my everyday. i just need to keep on mind that being addressed to or treated like a male should not insult me or make me wonder, which was happening and will happen. i am a biological male in the end.

tightropes -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (8/31/2008 9:50:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: feralcat As for the "higher" line of thinking ,I agree completely. The "orgasm control" keeps a man "high",and he is more willing to "stay" submissive,keeps his focus.Many men will tell you that once they cum, the "desire" to be submissive or the "feelings" of submission fade. I liken this to the vanilla,"shot my load ,now I am no longer romantic" syndrome the vanilla women experience. I know plenty of men who are not into chastity,but enjoy the "high" of being denie,even if it is just with a spoken word,no device.Saving one's self for Mistress,better than flowers in my book! just my two cents.....Ms Feral So very true, Ms Feral, at least for me. Apres orgasm my feelings of submissiveness, my need to surrender, be controlled and disciplined, dissipate. Admittedly they return. But orgasm denial for lengthy periods of time tends to assure that my submissive wiring remains front and center. It also underscores my captivity. I wouldn't say I "like" orgasm denial, but it is something that assures my continued obedience. While some might say men like me aren't 'truly' submissive, I'd say we each have our own wiring.

CuriousGeorge -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (8/31/2008 9:59:44 PM)
For me, the appeal of denial comes in three phases. The first is the tension and excitement of giving up control, during this time I also feel a bit selfish too, because attention will be given to my orgasms, even though their being ignored, it's actively being ignored. The next phase I enjoy is the teasing and building of horny-ness, this coupled making a lady proud is the height of enjoyment. A fog of sexual tension begins to build in my head. I will have involuntarily erections trough the coming days, and my mind is never far from my predicament. Then the release, the sweet sweet release, the intensity of the the orgasm can exhausting, and extremely enjoyable. Now the fog lifts, I don't feel less submissive, but I do feel more aware of things and it's easy to be turned off by things I normally enjoy during this time. It takes a bit to feel, back? (I've never been in a cage and never gone longer then a few weeks, I can't picture how some go months or years)

MalachiteBoy -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (8/31/2008 10:05:59 PM)
When I'm in sub mode, it's because I really want to feel like I'm doing things for HER, and if I get an orgasm out of it I find my devotion and my selflessness fading. Probably just means I'm not cut out for being a sub though.

colouredin -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (9/1/2008 2:43:08 AM)
ahhh i dont get anything out of it really but thats because not many people have the ability to make me cum so really its just 'fake' denial and thats easy cos faking it can be so tiring, I get it but it depends on its application, During a LDR my ex would tell me when i could masterbate (knowing that im an insomniac and it was part of my routine) he would mostly say no and that just pissed me off to be honest because he wasnt there and it didnt really make a differance to him expect for him exerting hoe wonderfully dominant he was but surely he would only need to do it once to do that and tbh it showed a disregard for me that fucked me off

skeletoncrew -> RE: Why Men 'Like' Orgasm Denial (9/1/2008 12:56:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDolly To quote a male who enjoys submission: "I agree with you completely. Before I met my wife/owner I masturbated alot. Sometimes 3 to 4 times a day. At one point, I stopped just to see what would happen. My energy levels went through the roof and I was able to focus more on what I was doing. However, I was weak and started up again. Now married, my wife keeps me chaste and totally controls my orgasms. I'm more attentive and more focused on her and her needs." i don't engage in this practice, but i think it may have something to do with a kundalini type concept and/or energy... http://www.ramalila.org/BuddhistQuestions/Kundalini.html some form of this was reportedly utilized by Hitler of all people to focus and direct his "submission" to the German people, Providence, or what have you... from the 1943 OSS report/book A Psychological Analysis of Adolf Hitler: His Life and Legend: "Like every good leader, he must be an efficient follower. He makes himself the humblest disciple of himself, the severest of all disciplinarians with himself. In fact, Hitler is a modern monk, with the three knots of Poverty, Chastity, and Obedience tied in his invisible girdle. " Walter C. Langer (emphasis mine)

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