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AtlantaMistress -> RE: a new experience (1/30/2008 10:59:57 AM)
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ORIGINAL: dommaster52
ive a problem ive never in 20 years as a Dom experieced the kind of feelings that possess me,im in love with a Domme weve chatted and if i rush in im a fool if i leave it to late im a fool how shall i tell her of my feelings shes on my mind day and night. HELP
I know as a Domme, that I have the power to get inside someone's head, like a drug, and become addicting. The Domme you have been chatting with must have the same effect if you are feeling such strong feelings after such a short time. You have many years of experience - just in life as well as D/s, and I would assume that you know your heart, and what you are really feeling.
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ORIGINAL: MistressFaye1
It really bothers me when folks question someone's love for another simply based on the length of time they've known each other. Are we safe to claim love for someone after a month, two months, a year? Time is not of the essence when it comes to feelings.
With that being said... My advice to you is this. Tell her how you feel because you'll put the ball in her court. If she has feelings for you she will hopefully tell you. The two of you can then begin to know each other better and see if what you feel will continue to grow as the relationship matures. Folks can loose out on a wonderful experience because they hesitate to let their feelings be known.
Call me a romantic, but I have seen love at first sight happen, I know a couple that chatted, felt they were in love, met each other for a five day get away and are now happily married and recently celebrated their first anniversary. Had they not been willing to admit their feelings all of this may not have happened.
I feel it is always best to be open with how you feel. I have actually found myself in a very similar situation - a sub that I met, I told very honestly I was not interested in having a personal "love" relationship with anyone at this time in my life, yet I have found myself falling in love despite my own warnings to him that it was NOT what I wanted. However, you find love when you are not looking for it. I have been through alot and but I cannot allow the past to determine my future. FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real. If you have one foot in the past, and one in the future, you will wind up shitting on the present! I could give you a list of cliches about love (better to have loved and lost, etc, etc)- and why you should go forward and tell her how you feel.
The only words of caution I can add are that I was in a relationship with a Dominant man, and the problems in somewhat of a power struggle. Neither of us was willing to submit, and he could not deal with us as true "equals" - not being secure enough to know I was just as smart (if not smarter) and just as strong (if not stronger). Know that going into it, if she is a naturally Dominant woman, she does command a certain amount of respect, and although she may not care if you actually submit, she will want to feel that you do worship her to some extent - I know I did not need him to submit to me - or be a bottom to play with, but never felt he was really willing to do anything for me, and was not willing to settle for anything less. She also may want to keep submissive men to play with if you do not submit, to fill that part of her life, and you would have to accept that, and vice versa if you feel the need to still have your Dominant needs fulfilled.
My advice - show her enough respect to tell her how you are feeling. What do you really have to lose - a broken heart? You would not be the first, and it will heal. What you have to gain seems to far outweigh that risk - carpe diem!
Good luck to you (and let me know how it turns out [;)] ).
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