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LivingForce -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 7:39:26 PM)
I believe I have always had a Dominant nature... but I think that my upbringing was a big influence on it. When I was young even on my baseball teams I had to be the best... throw the fastest.. hit the ball the hardest... I never liked grounders or anything like that.. I was on the football team in middle school and had to be team captain... I never got it but I worked my hind parts off the whole time to become team captain... I just blew my knee out and thats the end of football.. In working situations I always knew I could run and manage people better than most of the managers that I dealt with... I managed my first store when I was 16 years old believe it or not... I went to college and started really learning about myself. About my Dominance and and embracing it. I may be young and did have a dominant feeling about me when I was younger but my upbringing pushed me closer to where I am today just by the way I pushed myself.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 8:05:34 PM)
Well as I like to say- orientation is innate, expression of orientation is learned. http://www.collarchat.com/m_744252/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#744266 Do you think you were "born this way"? http://www.collarchat.com/m_691960/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#691984 naturally Ds? http://www.collarchat.com/m_499963/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#499979 Nature or nurture? http://www.collarchat.com/m_307130/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#307130 Do you feel being a dom/me is innate or can be learned? http://www.collarchat.com/m_461558/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#461558 hard-wired, why why why! http://www.collarchat.com/m_143698/mpage_1/key_born%252Craised/tm.htm#143698 nature versus nurture http://www.collarchat.com/m_760860/mpage_2/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#761518 born to serve? http://www.collarchat.com/m_468650/mpage_1/key_nature%252Cnurture/tm.htm#468650 nature vs nurture http://www.collarchat.com/m_35901/mpage_1/key_learned%252Cborn/tm.htm#35901 born or learned, how we become dom?

sirwankalot -> RE: born into your role? (1/30/2008 11:05:35 PM)
I am not sure that I was born into my role but, I do think I was "trained" for it. I was adopted into a VERY strict christian household where face slapping,hair pulling,screaming,starvation,and severe beating with a 2 foot piece of oak molding was the norm. I remember a number of times where I would wake up and have to peel my under pants off because the scabs had grown over in the night. I have managed to put most of that behind me and not use it as an excuse for failure and I am concidered to be very stable and quite normal but, try as I might, I cannot seem to form any aggressive tendencies and I am quite passive.

Justme696 -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 6:35:31 AM)
I don't know if I was born in it.... Growing up for humans takes a few years. So we can't directly start a thing afther birth..unless some animals..that afther weeks...already matured. But I can understand people feeling like they were "born" into it. Often we look back and look for memories that we see as Dominant or submissive, and then say...I/i was already interested early.

sweetwenchie -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 9:59:09 AM)
~fast reply~ i don't know about anyone else, but when i popped out i had a collar and leash attached, does that mean i was born to be a slave?

thetammyjo -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 10:41:15 AM)
All I know is that my being a dominant sadist is almost the exact opposite of how my family tried to raise me. Thus, for me, there had to be something inside me, something innate, that helped me resist their training and become the opposite. Understand that as you will.

AMaster -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 10:47:46 AM)
I have always been a dominant. My earliest memories are of wanting to be in control. My favorite TV shows were ones where the female was tied up. (I was always disappointed when Superman saved Lois and untied her.)

SweetieSub37 -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 10:50:48 AM)
I agree with thetammyjo - I have been fighting my nature for my whole adult life and finding D/s was almost like a feeling of coming home. It feels more natural than anything for me to be submissive, and like just me said I can look back and see situations in my life that should have given me a clue. I have always been this way - I just didn't acknowledge it.

Justme696 -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:00:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie ~fast reply~ i don't know about anyone else, but when i popped out i had a collar and leash attached, does that mean i was born to be a slave? there is a possability you are a cute puppy

Shawn1066 -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:08:57 AM)
I was definitely born with submissive tendencies.

sweetwenchie -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:11:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 quote: ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie ~fast reply~ i don't know about anyone else, but when i popped out i had a collar and leash attached, does that mean i was born to be a slave? there is a possability you are a cute puppy so this whole time i have been deluding myself? ~sigh~ figures

mnottertail -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:12:31 AM)
and I, only trying to denude you. We each have our born into roles, I suppose. Even on the Meta-level. Ron

Justme696 -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:12:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shawn1066 I was definitely born with submissive tendencies. but how do you know? (wel in general) People have no memories of the first year mostly...afther that so much happens..perhaps influences from the outside made you as you are. And if we are born like this, we does it take so long that we discover it..and do something with it? Perhaps one day they find a Dom or sub chromosome and then we really know.

sweetwenchie -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:18:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail and I, only trying to denude you. We each have our born into roles, I suppose. Even on the Meta-level. Ron So that would make me what, a denuded deluded puppy wench? [8D]

Shawn1066 -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:18:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 quote: ORIGINAL: Shawn1066 I was definitely born with submissive tendencies. but how do you know? (wel in general) People have no memories of the first year mostly...afther that so much happens..perhaps influences from the outside made you as you are. And if we are born like this, we does it take so long that we discover it..and do something with it? Perhaps one day they find a Dom or sub chromosome and then we really know. It takes a long time? For some, I'm sure it does. I know from speaking with a lot of people, however, that they recognized their needs in early childhood. I did myself. One of my favorite childhood games was to pretend to be a slave. shrugs I, personally, doubt there were really any major outside influences that made this happen. If I happened to be vanilla, nobody would try to psychoanalyze and find what outside influences made me associate that way on a sexual/relationship level. I concede there could full well be something I'm unaware of, but I don't believe there is. I think it's purely something that occurs on a genetic level. I can't even begin to back that up, but it's my theory. But hey, if it turns out seeing something while I was 7 months old somehow snowballed into me desiring to be submissive, then what does it matter? A wise man once said, "I am what I am, and that's all that I am."

mnottertail -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:33:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail and I, only trying to denude you. We each have our born into roles, I suppose. Even on the Meta-level. Ron So that would make me what, a denuded deluded puppy wench? [8D] for the first night, and we could improve upon that if we had to.

sweetwenchie -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:36:15 AM)
my poor little mind boggles at the possible descriptors that could be added[8\|]

thetammyjo -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 11:38:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shawn1066 quote: ORIGINAL: Justme696 quote: ORIGINAL: Shawn1066 I was definitely born with submissive tendencies. but how do you know? (wel in general) People have no memories of the first year mostly...afther that so much happens..perhaps influences from the outside made you as you are. And if we are born like this, we does it take so long that we discover it..and do something with it? Perhaps one day they find a Dom or sub chromosome and then we really know. It takes a long time? For some, I'm sure it does. I know from speaking with a lot of people, however, that they recognized their needs in early childhood. I did myself. One of my favorite childhood games was to pretend to be a slave. shrugs I, personally, doubt there were really any major outside influences that made this happen. If I happened to be vanilla, nobody would try to psychoanalyze and find what outside influences made me associate that way on a sexual/relationship level. I concede there could full well be something I'm unaware of, but I don't believe there is. I think it's purely something that occurs on a genetic level. I can't even begin to back that up, but it's my theory. But hey, if it turns out seeing something while I was 7 months old somehow snowballed into me desiring to be submissive, then what does it matter? A wise man once said, "I am what I am, and that's all that I am." I know that my earliest "kinky" thoughts were about chaining the neighborhood boys inside a shed until they agreed to obey me (I was 4). I was also very much in charge of my nieces and nephews (I had 13 of them) and of any friends who came over to play. My mother always said "don't be so bossy" but I'd just at her like she was crazy. Anyway I'm not going to get to those things on here but let me just say that my dominance was always there regardless of what my family did and I thought it was perfectly natural and they were all crazy.

subtee -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 1:24:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail and I, only trying to denude you. [Emphasis added] We each have our born into roles, I suppose. Even on the Meta-level. Ron Excuse me, wouldn't this indicate that you are trying to clothe her? Technically? (Similar to "delouse" which means to un...louse...) little miss literal

mnottertail -> RE: born into your role? (1/31/2008 2:02:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail and I, only trying to denude you. [Emphasis added] We each have our born into roles, I suppose. Even on the Meta-level. Ron Excuse me, wouldn't this indicate that you are trying to clothe her? Technically? (Similar to "delouse" which means to un...louse...) little miss literal you would think so, but it actually is a french word, not latin. think for example denouement or de galle.........LOL so like so many other things it only has virtual threatening power, nothing happens when de womens are not close at hand. Pierre hold on no mail I know how to spell chuckies name.........it is a joke after all, hes a frog aint he? he aint chuck de gaelic

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