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When Did You Realize You Were Into Domination? - 1/31/2008 3:42:54 PM

hapki68

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Hi Mistresses,

I just joined this site and am pretty psyched about it. I've been majorly turned on by guys getting dominated, humiliated, abused and tortured since I was a kid. I used to get a hardon watch batman, superman and spiderman tied down imagining them stripped naked (masks left on) and bodies put through the ringer -- especially by or in front of females. Today, I'm a bi Dom and really get off on Dommes dominating guys.

I think some of this may have started for me when I was about 14. My buddy and I were messing around tying each other up outside. When I had him tied tightly against a tree, a neighbor girl from up the street came over unexpectedly. Out of the blue, she pulled his shorts and underwear down and studied his cock and balls. He went ballistic, thrashing like crazy, which made his meat just swing all over the place. I was shocked and immediately noticed what a thrill it seemed to be for her, probably seeing her first live "set" and maybe by humiliating a stronger, more muscular person in the process. She took off running after about 10 seconds. I let him go, of course, and he was pissed beyond belief. I said I was sorry about that but beat off like crazy remembering her looking at his bouncing meat while holding the waistband down just below his nuts.

So how about the Dommes here? How old were you when you first realized you were into dominating guys? Do you remember the first time you saw a guy naked? What did you think of what you saw? How about the first time you dominated or humiliated one? What did you do to him? What was it like for you? Do you have a preference for the age and look of guys you're into?

Sorry to ask so many questions, but I'm really curious. Hope to hear from you.

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RE: When Did You Realize You Were Into Domination? - 2/24/2008 1:54:04 AM

kalimachild

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<<How old were you when you first realized you were into dominating guys? >>
I have always been dominant in my relationships whether the other person was male for female. I dislike losing control because I was taught that control was what people should never give up. I have since learned that while I may not like to give up control, it is a very beautiful thing to see happen.

<<Do you remember the first time you saw a guy naked?>>
Like many people, I first saw a guy naked when I was a kid. When I first understood it in an asexual, but adult context was when I was raped at 13. When I viewed it in a healthy way, I was in college.

<<What did you think of what you saw?>>
As a kid, it was just another way that I was different then most of my friends. When I was raped, I saw it as being used to control me. When I was in college I learned that it was there for my pleasure and could be used to control another.

<<How about the first time you dominated or humiliated one?>>
When I finally became sexually active, I was always in control of my relationships with men. During my first time dominating a man overtly, I coasted on such as cloud for three days that I thought I could do everything that I wanted. I know now that at the time I was in "Dom Space" from the experience, but at the time it was like the world had just become sharper and more focused.

<<What did you do to him?>>
Just a little orgasm control, bondage and flogging.

<<Do you have a preference for the age and look of guys you're into?>>
I prefer a guy close to my own age because I would like to be close in similar background. As for his look, that does not matter much since deciding what turns me on has much to do with his intelligence and his outward appearence does.

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RE: When Did You Realize You Were Into Domination? - 2/24/2008 4:35:44 AM

LaTigresse

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I am probably a bit of a weirdo in that physical acts of domination were never that important to me. I've got off on the mental, emotional and psychological aspects of domination. Luring them in and taking over. More than a little of the sadistic puppet master in me. I always did it without alot of concious thought to what I was doing. I just always feel the need to be in control wether it is in your face, or more subtle.

A few years ago the more concious and physical aspects came into play with a woman really submitted to me. She had explored BDSM and power exchange relationships and brought it to my attention. For me it was like "WOW!!! there are actually people that enjoy the flipside of what I do?!?!?" It was a fantastic rush of freedom for me. It is also much healthier I think.

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