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Dnomyar -> RE: I Stop (2/1/2008 9:42:13 AM)
Reading thru these I think that Dari probably got it right.

PanthersMom -> RE: I Stop (2/1/2008 10:04:00 AM)
i don't bother because i've found mine. i have my boy, love him to bits and couldn't care less who's out there. now if i found an interesting young lady i might look twice. maybe even be interested in making a friend. PM

ElanSubdued -> RE: I Stop (2/1/2008 10:37:48 AM)
MsCfromMelbourne, quote: Grab the good looking new arrivals before the competition and corrupt them first. Same as you would at a BDSM club. If a guy has been on collarme for months or years, there is probably good reason he is still supposedly single. He has been checked out and passed over. Or he just likes pretending to be available. Or he plays around. Something smells fishy. Are all new arrivals a good catch? Of course not. But the ratio of "keepers" to duds is better amongst the new (and naive :-). To a large extent, I disagree with this line of thinking. I'm sure some of the "new arrivals" are a great catch. However, someone with experience is often an equally great catch and sometimes an even better catch. As far as being around Collar Me is concerned, I can only speak for myself. Just as there are submissives with unrealistic and/or incompatible expectations, so (too) are there many Dominas the same. I'm choosey about my partners and certainly there are many things above looks appearing at the top of my compatibility list. My dating approach emphasizes quality over quantity. With this in mind, I like to take reasonable time getting to know someone and hence why I've been on Collar Me for a while. Seemingly, in the Internet dating domain as a whole, there are many more people looking for quick hookups than those willing to put in time getting to know someone. Elan.

pixelslave -> RE: I Stop (2/1/2008 9:20:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne If a guy has been on collarme for months or years, there is probably good reason he is still supposedly single. He has been checked out and passed over. Or he just likes pretending to be available. Or he plays around. Something smells fishy Ms C, At first I was a bit offended by by the statement quoted above, but then I remembered that I was "snatched up" early on for a period of time after joining CM. To the best of my knowledge, I don't play around and I don't smell like fish either. [;)] What occurred to me more than anything is that the same could be said of all the Dommes who have been on CM for more than a few months. Some of us subs aren't going to give our submission to the first woman with a whip that comes along and says "come serve me" or especially the ones that say "on your knees worm!" If it's not a match where compatibility of interests exists (both vanilla & BDSM) along with similar philosophies regarding the type of power exchange we'd both like to have, it's just not going to work for me. It's probably no surprise, but just as Dommes have choices, so do subs. I don't intend to jump into another relationship with the first Domme to come along that expresses an interest in me without her taking the time to genuinely get to know me as a person and a man before we ever get into discussing entering a power exchange. [&:] In part, my problem with the OP is that it implies subs are a commodity and that all are pretty much the same. Trouble is, we're *not* all the same and you'll get in return from most of us that have have something to offer a woman, who tend to feel about things as I do, exactly what you take the time of yourself to invest in developing a relationship with me. If you don't want a relationship with a sub, then I can understand why a Domme might just "stop". Relationships of any kind take time and energy. A Domme, just like a sub, has to do her part too! [8\|] - pixel ...sharing a few thoughts from the flip side of the D/s coin.

pixelslave -> RE: I Stop (2/1/2008 9:30:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dari ...I just don't get their particular fetish or interests, even if some of them match my own. Sorry, but I don't quite get this attitude. To me, there's lots of room for flexibility and I don't expect a perfect match. I'd hate to pass up what might be a really great relationship because one or two kinks weren't exactly in sync. I like to think of myself as being flexible and realistic, not rigid (well, not in this regard [;)] ) or inflexible. Until one talks with the other, and gets clarification on some of these things, they don't really know what they often mean or exactly how important they are to the other. [&:] Makes me wonder how many ships have passed in the night... [8\|] - pixel

MisPandora -> RE: I Stop (2/1/2008 11:33:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pixelslave quote: ORIGINAL: Dari ...I just don't get their particular fetish or interests, even if some of them match my own. Sorry, but I don't quite get this attitude. To me, there's lots of room for flexibility and I don't expect a perfect match. I'd hate to pass up what might be a really great relationship because one or two kinks weren't exactly in sync. I like to think of myself as being flexible and realistic, not rigid (well, not in this regard [;)] ) or inflexible. Until one talks with the other, and gets clarification on some of these things, they don't really know what they often mean or exactly how important they are to the other. [&:] Makes me wonder how many ships have passed in the night... [8\|] - pixel I agree with Dari's thoughts. I'm unwilling to compromise on a majority of what I want, and I will not allow someone else to compromise what they want. I've a friend who, while we have many things in common, I'd never take on in an LTR because he seeks things that I have no interest in. I also could not let him seek that sort of thing out outside of my control because he'd be surrendering himself to someone other than me. So, he'd never be fulfilled, and he'd not be truly happy. That's not what I want in a partner, lover and submissive.

MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 4:34:04 AM)
Hiya elan and pixel LOL....I knew as soon as I hit the OK button that some "old timers" around here would be offended by the opinion that the quality of newcomers might (as a percentage) be better than the long term and still looking (male or female)..... .....of course there are exceptions and you two are good examples! On topic (I think....I still don't quite grasp the topic!), I had lunch with half a dozen Domme friends today and one (the gorgeous, available, pro-domme one!) said she trolls the profiles with good torso shots. Show her a good body pic and she wants to see if his head looks as good. But one of the other Mistresses has a fake malesub profile (why? long story......) with a yummy torso shot nicked off the internet and a good spiel. Of course the fake profile got trolled by the first Mistress. Did the second Mistress own up it was just her pretending to be a sexy new boy? Not straight away..... So those hot torso shots might work, guys [:D] Do we Mistresses have happy, long terms relationships? Yes we do. Are our consorts kinky, smart and handsome? Yes they are (in our opinion - and whose else's counts when it comes to matters of the heart?). Do we stop looking when we find someone yummy? Yes mostly....if we have been around a while. New Dommes might get "frenzy" and try to collect male and female subs like football cards. But after a few years, most of us have tried the poly thing and realised that one stable, loving D/s relationship in the hand beats 10 potential partners in the bush.

LadyHathor -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 4:44:08 AM)
*Very well stated pixel---yet this:* quote: In part, my problem with the OP is that it implies subs are a commodity and that all are pretty much the same. Trouble is, we're *not* all the same and you'll get in return from most of us that have have something to offer a woman, who tend to feel about things as I do, exactly what you take the time of yourself to invest in developing a relationship with me. If you don't want a relationship with a sub, then I can understand why a Domme might just "stop". Relationships of any kind take time and energy. A Domme, just like a sub, has to do her part too! [8\|] My intent was to demonstrate that most of U/us are not commidities, as you have stated---that the human interaction is extremely important to us and just because we do WIITWD, doesn't change our basic human framework. However, there ARE tons that play 52 pickup--so My lesson here to both Dominants and submissives, is at the end of the day, if you want quality---be discerning--if you want a deck of cards--go buy one. *And from MsCfromMelbourne:* quote: New Dommes might get "frenzy" and try to collect male and female subs like football cards. But after a few years, most of us have tried the poly thing and realised that one stable, loving D/s relationship in the hand beats 10 potential partners in the bush. *Smiles. Yeah what she said.* *I guess the lesson here to all, is be smart, be wary and take some time. Many of us just don't play 52 pickup for a reason.*

pixelslave -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 7:32:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHathor My intent was to demonstrate that most of U/us are not commidities, as you have stated---that the human interaction is extremely important to us and just because we do WIITWD, doesn't change our basic human framework. You're absolutely right Lady Hathor, it doesn't change our basic human framework. At the end of the day, we're all still human beings who want to be loved, accepted and cherished for who and what we are on the inside, not just for our eye candy appeal (never been a problem for me) or what we can do for others. My profile states: "If You want my submission, You'll need to *allow me time to get to know You* first... I think You'll find it's well worth the wait." IMO, that statement goes both ways. [&:] Unfortunately, it seems to me we live in a society where relationships, like most everything else, are viewed as disposable. We live in a society of fast food restaurants, 24 hour convenience stores, Walmarts, instant ordering via the internet, home shopping, etc.; in essence, a society where instant gratification is something we're becoming accustomed to. I can remember when stores closed at Noon on Saturdays if they were open at all, and *everything* was closed on Sundays. Today's younger generation probably has no concept of what I'm talking about. That was long before the days of home delivered pizza or the internet (all said showing my age/experience). [&:] It just seems to me that many approach this lifestyle almost from a backwards approach. If my partner doesn't take the time to get to know me well enough to get inside my mind, how can they possibly know what buttons to push when we reach the point that we're enjoying doing other things together and are ready to establish a D/s dynamic and begin to "play"? The answer in my opinion is that she can't! Similarly, how can I know what will push her buttons? To me, that's what makes it truly an exciting relationship! [8D] quote: However, there ARE tons that play 52 pickup--so My lesson here to both Dominants and submissives, is at the end of the day, if you want quality---be discerning--if you want a deck of cards--go buy one. "52 Card Pick-up" was a suspensful movie, but a messy one too, just as the game is! [;)] quote: *And from MsCfromMelbourne:* quote: New Dommes might get "frenzy" and try to collect male and female subs like football cards. But after a few years, most of us have tried the poly thing and realised that one stable, loving D/s relationship in the hand beats 10 potential partners in the bush. *Smiles. Yeah what she said.* *I guess the lesson here to all, is be smart, be wary and take some time. Many of us just don't play 52 pickup for a reason.* Ditto! [:D] - pixel

pixelslave -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 8:02:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne Hiya elan and pixel LOL....I knew as soon as I hit the OK button that some "old timers" around here would be offended by the opinion that the quality of newcomers might (as a percentage) be better than the long term and still looking (male or female)..... .....of course there are exceptions and you two are good examples! In that case, you're both forgiven and excused. [sm=lol.gif] [;)] quote: So those hot torso shots might work, guys [:D] Nah, if a woman doesn't want the real me, then I wouldn't want her anyway. I don't expect perfection from her, so I'd hope she wouldn't expect it from me. I've got my share of scars here and there which help make my body all the more interesting than those plain "hot torso shots", and mine looks pretty good for a guy who just turned 50 (have a couple of those shots in the saved file folder ready and waiting for the right woman to view). [;)] This may be the internet, but life is ultimately still about being realistic in terms of expectations regarding yourself and others. [&:] quote: Do we Mistresses have happy, long terms relationships? Yes we do. Are our consorts kinky, smart and handsome? Yes they are (in our opinion - and whose else's counts when it comes to matters of the heart?). Exactly! It's *your* opinion that counts in terms of what is attractive. Beauty is relative to the beholder. The more attractive I find a woman to be on the inside, the more beautiful she seems to become to me on the outside; sometimes to the exclusion of all others. Some of the women whom I've met that appeared to be very attractive at first glance, upon talking with them, suddenly became very unattractive to me. [:'(] quote: Do we stop looking when we find someone yummy? Yes mostly....if we have been around a while. New Dommes might get "frenzy" and try to collect male and female subs like football cards. But after a few years, most of us have tried the poly thing and realised that one stable, loving D/s relationship in the hand beats 10 potential partners in the bush. I'm glad to hear to you say that! When happily involved, I become so oblivious to others that I tend to need to have them pointed out to me. LOL! If anything, I may notice an outfit or article of clothing another woman is wearing and comment how good it would look on my Mistress without really noticing anything else about the woman who was wearing it. I just don't think in those terms anymore. [:D] My fantasies always involve my partner, not some celebrity or "star of the week". But that's just me and the way I'm wired. I can't speak for other submissive males. It's that emotional connection that drives things for me. Perhaps that's what happens with maturity and getting past the peak of the testosterone driven years... [&:] - pixel

thetammyjo -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 8:18:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pixelslave quote: ORIGINAL: Dari ...I just don't get their particular fetish or interests, even if some of them match my own. Sorry, but I don't quite get this attitude. To me, there's lots of room for flexibility and I don't expect a perfect match. I'd hate to pass up what might be a really great relationship because one or two kinks weren't exactly in sync. I like to think of myself as being flexible and realistic, not rigid (well, not in this regard [;)] ) or inflexible. Until one talks with the other, and gets clarification on some of these things, they don't really know what they often mean or exactly how important they are to the other. [&:] Makes me wonder how many ships have passed in the night... [8\|] - pixel I think it honestly depends on what type of desire it is. Is it really just a casual desire, something he can do for himself or with others, or is it something he expects in a dominant. Now someone can say "no, no, it isn't necessary" but I'd been around enough to know that that be either a conscious or an unconscious lie. Sometimes a person will say something isn't important in the hopes of changing the other person -- yeah right. If that doesn't work out well in the vanilla world what makes someone think it will work out here? Sometimes a person is unaware of how important something is. My general rule in terms of activities and fetishes is that if I'm not at least neutral toward it and it isn't something that can be done with others or by self, there isn't enough common ground here. Fox has a rubber fetish. He enjoys the smell and feel, it has to do with him not with others wearing rubber. Therefore he can do that by himself or with others, hell, he can even wear rubber around me but I will never wear it myself. I'm the chick who scenes in bike shorts and tank tops, no way I'm wearing something like rubber or even leather or corsets. He's a furry and I can role play that from time to time but he has a huge online community he's been happy with for years. Sorry, I'm not a furry however so I can't be that if he needed or highly desired to be owned by a "real" catgirl. And so on and so forth.

pixelslave -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 9:13:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MisPandora quote: ORIGINAL: pixelslave quote: ORIGINAL: Dari ...I just don't get their particular fetish or interests, even if some of them match my own. Sorry, but I don't quite get this attitude. To me, there's lots of room for flexibility and I don't expect a perfect match. I'd hate to pass up what might be a really great relationship because one or two kinks weren't exactly in sync. I like to think of myself as being flexible and realistic, not rigid (well, not in this regard [;)] ) or inflexible. Until one talks with the other, and gets clarification on some of these things, they don't really know what they often mean or exactly how important they are to the other. [&:] Makes me wonder how many ships have passed in the night... [8\|] - pixel I agree with Dari's thoughts. I'm unwilling to compromise on a majority of what I want, and I will not allow someone else to compromise what they want. I've a friend who, while we have many things in common, I'd never take on in an LTR because he seeks things that I have no interest in. I also could not let him seek that sort of thing out outside of my control because he'd be surrendering himself to someone other than me. So, he'd never be fulfilled, and he'd not be truly happy. That's not what I want in a partner, lover and submissive. There are some things which I enjoy, but could live without, while there others which are very important to me. That was the context in which my post above was written. Things which I may enjoy, but aren't essential to my happiness, I'd readily forego for the right relationship. I wouldn't expect to seek them outside the relationship, nor would I expect my partner to give up a "deal breaker" in order to have a relationship with me. I think you interpreted my post a bit too literally. There may be kinks listed in my profile which I've listed as "likes" or "loves", but they may be things I could live without if everything else were right. I'm also open to trying many new things which I've not experienced before and in fact desire to explore a number of things. Thus, I feel as though I'm very flexible and not rigid in my expectations. Just because something isn't on my list or is on mine, but not hers, doesn't mean we still wouldn't make a good match. That was the point I was trying to make. [:D] - pixel

MiladyElaine -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 10:02:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyLolly Ok. are we also assumiing we've also gotten past the Mistress, I want to eat your poo and I will service your dogs too... and the laundry list of how they will "get off" by serving - mostly involving that lil pecker of thiers that they are still under the ilusion that we envy and cannot live without.... and how they want to own thier very own dommie wommie, err want to be owned by Looks aren't all that. Sure I admire a pretty face or a taunt tush as much as the next person - but dosen't mean I'm going to enjoy thier company once they open thier mouth...... There's terms to come to terms with. Goals, objectives, needs, parameters to examine. Character, sincerity, level of understanding to get comfortable with. All kinds of compatibility factors to consider. Are they likely to enhance my life with thier presence enough to offset the investment of time and effort on my part? Will I and do I even want to be fulfilling thier particular needs and wants - really? Are they trainable? Passive agressive? More about the "stuff"/kink than the D/s. Do they really understand what they are asking for - and just what they are liable to get? Bottom line, are they really meeting my criteria and am I really able to fulfil thiers. Yes, LadyLolly said it quiet right! It all boils down to attitude. I also can't stand facial hair of any sort and sometimes their expressions look like they are mad at the world! This has a tendency to give the impression they are convicts. On the other hand you have this sub obviously partying with friends, either male or female, and you get the impression that they are just out for fun and that usually means just them. A happy or satisfied smile would be nice to see. The teeth don't have to show, just SMILE!

Dari -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 10:37:25 AM)
quote: There are some things which I enjoy, but could live without, while there others which are very important to me. That was the context in which my post above was written. Things which I may enjoy, but aren't essential to my happiness, I'd readily forego for the right relationship. I wouldn't expect to seek them outside the relationship, nor would I expect my partner to give up a "deal breaker" in order to have a relationship with me. I think you interpreted my post a bit too literally. There may be kinks listed in my profile which I've listed as "likes" or "loves", but they may be things I could live without if everything else were right. I'm also open to trying many new things which I've not experienced before and in fact desire to explore a number of things. Thus, I feel as though I'm very flexible and not rigid in my expectations. Just because something isn't on my list or is on mine, but not hers, doesn't mean we still wouldn't make a good match. That was the point I was trying to make. Oh, I absolutely agree, pixel. And taking from one of your other posts a comment about how people seem to think of relationships as disposable, let me clarify my opinion on these things. Five years ago, I was about as down as I could get. I had almost nothing in my life worth anything at all, except for two incredible friends who stuck by me despite major attempts on my part to ruin the relationships we had built over years. I stopped that cycle, and remade my entire life - tossed everything out that didn't work, everything bad, every horrible compromise I had made of my integrity and of myself, and built my life into something worth living. Fast forward five years. I have some incredible relationships (including those beloved two) that are forever. I have a great life - it's busy, it's full of friends and life and happiness and love. I've found myself again, I've strengthened myself more than I ever thought I could be - and it's a good life, this one that I've built. I am happy, and I am complete. I know myself now, and that's something I'll never forget again. That being said - there are four things that I absolutely must have, cannot and will not compromise on as far as a LTR or SO situation goes. Those four things I have identified as being central to my core - and if our interests just don't match there, then we're not compatible at the 24/7 companion level. Now - I have a bunch of other things that I enjoy, and the majority of my friends and loved ones (in the lifestyle or not) tend to enjoy some but not all of those activities. That's fine by me - I can compartmentalize to a point. And if it's on one of those minor things that we disagree - that's fine. As far as BDSM goes - my biggest kink, my favorite "Lives For" is power. I love power. I love manipulation. And if that means exploring your kink under my control? I'll probably enjoy it, even if it's not my own. However, there are a couple of kinks that I just don't get - I don't understand them. And if it's something that's just a random sidebar for you - then yes, we might get along. But if it's one of those things that is central to your core, and I just don't understand it - how would we be compatible? We might be friends, or capable of having some intelligent conversations or debates - but you're not going to end up satisfied if every time I encounter this kink that's central to your enjoyment of something, I make a face and think "eww. Why?" Alternately, if one of your kinks that you really, really like is one of my hard limits - you're not going to feel fulfilled either. At least, not long-term. Personally, I don't play casually. I don't play ONLY with one person though either - but everyone I play with has some interest for me on a mental level, and we've taken time to get to know each other enough that I could call them more than a casual acquaintance. I'm not really interested in single-serving friends, as Tyler Durden so aptly calls them. I get enough of that when I travel for business. So with that in mind, if something is important to you, and I can't get into it, why would I want to become more than friends? Seems like a recipe for frustration to me.

TheLookingGirl -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 11:18:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Evanesce I recently received an email from a VERY attractive submissive male. He had the type of looks that generally make me want to throw him down and do all sorts of nasty, evil things to him. What made me pause, however, was the email itself. In it, he claimed to have read my profile not once, but twice to "make sure he didn't miss anything." Yet, his email mentioned absolutely nothing about how he would fit into my life at all. He wrote a lot of pretty words that meant nothing, and I suspect that same email has been sent to dozens of other dominant women. It was that generic. This is the type of approach that gets an immediate "Thanks, but no thanks," from me. If a submissive can't take the time to tell me about himself and show me something that will give me an indication that he's actually interested in the life I share with the Kaptin, then I'm not wasting my time on him. Pretty sure I got this same guy. I've had a few that start out with something about my profile and then reference to it throughout the whole thing (very vaugly of course...just to tell me I seem to "know what I want" ). Just fuels my I-hate-lazy-people fire. For me, it dosen't matter how attractive he is...if we don't mesh (he wants me to use him as my own personal toilet, or "blackmail" him) then looks mean nothing more than "that's a shame..." I'm not that desperate for an attractive face that I will compromise a steak on the grill cooked just right with a beer for some elaborate visually appealing and trendy sushi dinner (I HATE fish). One may be "prettier" than the other, but can you stomach it? Which brings up bragging dosent it? Say you manage to land that super tasty looking sub. Do you pass around his picture and say "Looky what I got!" even though it's blatantly obvious he is the living breathing form of your hard limits? <edited for my unique spelling of Visually...as viuslaly...> <Edited AGAIN because I realized I clicked quote on the wrong message...I think I should give it a break for awhile....>

aidan -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 4:10:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne I do not understand the question either, but I do have an observation about internet dating Grab the good looking new arrivals before the competition and corrupt them first. Same as you would at a BDSM club. If a guy has been on collarme for months or years, there is probably good reason he is still supposedly single. He has been checked out and passed over. Or he just likes pretending to be available. Or he plays around. Something smells fishy Are all new arrivals a good catch? Of course not. But the ratio of "keepers" to duds is better amongst the new (and naive [;)]) Do I sound predatory? Yes. What can I say - I have a good hearted, loyal and handsome sub so I must be doing something right Although beauty is in the eye of the beholder....... I know this thread is asking why Dommes pass over a boy, but I would still like to respond, as this post kind of struck a nerve. It speaks to a deep, deep fear I hold about my place in the BDSM world. I don't have a girlfriend, I don't wear a wedding band. But I am, in a sense, married to my academic career. My needs as a successful student come first, have to come first, if I'm going to do well. This means I have to turn down a lot of people. I don't want to sound conceited, like I'm the Don Juan of submissive men, but I'm not so foolish as to not realize I'm desirable to some women. And I've had a lot of opportunities, talked to and met a lot of women whom I could have built good, strong relationships with. But it would require...what? For me to pack up and move across the seaboard, the continent, the world? Enroll in a school too small or too big for my needs? Leave behind my family? Or I could try to do the long-distance thing, talking on the phone, webcaming, and when I can scrape together my meager earnings flying out to her location maybe once or twice a year, time off from work and school breaks permitting. Neither would be very conducive to my health and happiness, or hers, I warrant. So I bide my time. I say "no thank you", even when everything in me is screaming "she's wonderful, she's brilliant, she's a goddess, she gets you, and dude, she wants you!" But everytime I do, I worry that my shelf-life is wasting away, and by the time I'm finally ready, I can finally give of myself in the way someone special deserves...The shiny new models will be out, and nobody will want that mangy old pup in the window anymore. So. I stop because I don't want to ruin my life, or sell a woman short.

pixelslave -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 4:41:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dari Alternately, if one of your kinks that you really, really like is one of my hard limits - you're not going to feel fulfilled either. At least, not long-term. To me, those are "deal breakers" and weren't at all part of what I was speaking of. To me, there are certain things in which there would have to be some compatibility, and others where there's some flexibility. It's not all a case of "black & white" as might be implicit when reading a person's profile. Without talking to the other to discuss it, one would never know. I'm only suggesting that perhaps some dismiss others without a 2nd glance who might be very compatible with them because they assume there's no flexibility in their kinks or other interests when that might not at all be the case. YMMV. [&:] - pixel

ShaktiSama -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 4:42:43 PM)
What a weird conversation. What stops me from snatching a man in my claws and yelling "mine"? Err, lots of things. They can be summed with "ambivalence"--his or mine or both, doesn't matter. If this was just a thread about why I don't leap on men based on just a cute photo--oy. I'm a photographer. I've seen a lot of men without clothes. I need to strip them down to something deeper than skin to know if I want any man as a possession.

LadyHathor -> RE: I Stop (2/2/2008 6:42:11 PM)
aidan: Actually, the thread asks Dominas what keeps them from playing 52 pick up as so many ahem wannabes do, so your response, like so many entered here speaks to the relationship as the foundation--so see we all aren't gold diggers---smiles and thank you for your response.

stockingluvr54 -> RE: I Stop (2/3/2008 3:15:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aidan I worry that my shelf-life is wasting away, and by the time I'm finally ready, I can finally give of myself in the way someone special deserves...The shiny new models will be out, and nobody will want that mangy old pup in the window anymore. Aidan.... I probably shouldn't be throwing in my 2 cents as I'm not one of the supersubs that hang here. I'm in the "loser" catagory MsCfM reffered to "been checked out and passed over" (5-6yrs and not even a coffee date). But here's my 2 cents anyways...lmao! Don't dick around too long waiting...before you know it you'll be 40...then in the blink of an eye 50! You carreer IS important but a life partner is MORE important. If you find a Domina that you feel you have that connection with....you'd better try your darndest to spend the time and effort to pursue? She very well could be the one? All the material and financial stuff doesn't really mean squat if there is nobody to share it with...... jmo...

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