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takenbyjohnr07 -> Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:28:01 PM)

If your Dominant had a hard limit that He/She must pick out all your clothes for you and you had no say. What would you do if he/She had no fashion sense and liked patterns or color's that no human being should wear?



AquaticSub -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:31:44 PM)

Ask them why they are picking those clothes. It's quite possible they want to humilate you by having you wear those clothes. If it's just a case of mismatched fashion tastes (I find the idea that there is something that "no human being should wear" too fashion snobby to possibly agree with), we could try going to a store and seeing if we can find a style that they approve of and I would be happy in.

However, if it's something that they are not willing to bend on, then they probably mention that it is required ahead of time. If that was the case and sub/slave didn't bother to check about what sort of clothes they would required to wear, I'd consider that their own fault to at least some extent.



sexyred1 -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:32:53 PM)

First of all, that would never happen. I would never have no say over anything pertaining to my look. I would never choose anyone who does not appreciate my stylish attributes and taste level.

Also, since I work in the world, I have to look good all the time, so why on earth would I be with someone who would want me to look bad and jeopardize my career or my reputation?

What type of person would ever do something like that?



verysweet -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:37:03 PM)

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What type of person would ever do something like that?


Nobody I'd spend any time with, that's for sure.

Maybe this is the true reason behind so many fashion accidents.



takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:43:21 PM)

Have you ever been in a mall and said "My God! How could anyone wear that? Or have known anyone that does not dress well, but think that they look great? It happens.  Not all women dress like the fahion models do and not all men grace the cover of GQ.

fashion is in the eye of the beholder.



kittengirl8 -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:44:19 PM)

Well, I haven't got the best fashion sense anyway, but I manage to pull together a reasonably non-gaggish look. If it was a requirement of the Dom, I'd have to make sure his style wasn't something I'd hate. (Which is hard, I go from tomboy to girly 5 times in the matter of 4 days. Figure that one out.)

I liked AquaticSub's response though. Of course, then there are Dom's who refuse to go shopping...

That's a whole different conversation, methinks.

Editted for another thought: You know, about 90% of my clothes now are Wal-Mart or a thrift store and I've had them for a while. I think, if the Dom wanted me in different clothes, he'd definitely have to be willing to: A.) Draw the outfit from what I own, or B.) Fork over the cash for the new clothes. I'm not spending my cash! No thank you Mister.

~kitten~

Today I'm feeling: Dressed in all black. Depressed, maybe? Nah, blondes just look good in black.



AquaticSub -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:52:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Have you ever been in a mall and said "My God! How could anyone wear that? Or have known anyone that does not dress well, but think that they look great? It happens.  Not all women dress like the fahion models do and not all men grace the cover of GQ.

fashion is in the eye of the beholder.


Exactly. I frequently pick up fashion mags and go "Eww. Why the hell would any women in her right mind wear this shit, let alone pay that much money for it?". Then I realize that a lot of people like what I think is tacky.

Personally, I'm tempted to send fashion a "Dear John" in favor of Colonial styles. The pockets are more practical and I'd never have to worry about losing my purse again.



utterlybutterfli -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 5:58:28 PM)

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fashion is in the eye of the beholder.


Hmm. No, beauty, style and taste *Might* be in the eye of the beholder but i don't think thats true of fashion. After all, you and I may think that shoulderpads, nylon, stonewash denim, bell bottoms, cuban heels etc are very stylish (and who could argue, eh?), but i doubt you could build a case for them being fashionable.

As far as your question, I think it would be kind of hot - but if he really had no taste at all and still persisted - then I guess I might not be the right sub for him.




Thorns82 -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 6:28:24 PM)

I agree with Aquatic.  If it's something the Dom is unwilling to bend on, it should have been stated up front, and the sub should have checked to see that her styles/fashion sense meshed with his.  If they didn't maybe there would be room to re-negotiate?

Personally I don't mind my Dom picking outfits out for me, or picking out a single item for me to wear and allowing me to build from there.  I like dressing in ways that make him happy.  I have some stuff that is 'play time only' and I would object to wearing that out in public...however sometimes all objecting does is get you a smacked bottom ^.^



kyraofMists -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 6:41:22 PM)

I would ask permission to express my concerns about the choice in clothing, especially if the choices were having a negative impact on my inherent responsibilities (work, family, etc.).  Then I would follow his will, even if he did not make any changes.

As a note, he does sometimes require me to wear things that I feel uncomfortable with and think are not appropriate.  It isn't often, but it appeals to the sadist within him, to make me do something that I don't like.

Knight's Kyra



mbes -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 8:45:12 PM)

My clothing has a strong affect on the way I feel. Dress me up a certain way, and you are going to inspire certain responses from that alone.
I suppose done carefully, that could be a good thing, but feeling always unattractive wouldn't promote harmony overall, I think.



SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Being dressed (1/31/2008 9:30:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

If your Dominant had a hard limit that He/She must pick out all your clothes for you and you had no say. What would you do if he/She had no fashion sense and liked patterns or color's that no human being should wear?


Write to Stacy and Clinton for the What Not To Wear D/s Episode. Think it's to be aired during the May sweeps....

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Plaid Kink)



littleone35 -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 11:36:35 AM)

I would say fine Master. Show him my closet say here are my clothes what would you like me to wear?  That is the only way i would let him pick out my clothes if it was from my current clothes.

Matt's littleone



OmegaG -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 11:42:21 AM)

after a near miss with a gentleman who expressed a desire to dress me and who felt that I should never wear a bra (I'm not loosing that fight with gravity, thank you) I would not be with someone who I either didn't shatre fashion tastes with or wouldn't let me express my own.



domahpet -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 11:44:41 AM)

~~~ What would you do if he/She had no fashion sense and liked patterns or color's that no human being should wear?~~~

that was great taken!
after i got over my laughing fit, i think id try suggesting that that outfit just wouldnt work for me because im too tall, too busty, too cold, or too whatever would work.

thanks for the giggle taken, cool thread



rubberpet -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 12:46:46 PM)

Luckily for me, Mistress will probably keep me in rubber most of the time...lol.  That way She can play Her favorite game..."Catch the Shiny Tushy!"  [:D]



BlackPhx -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 1:11:27 PM)

Do what I have already done, educate [:D] a style may look horrid in one pattern or material but fantastic in another. Cotton T's bleh, silk T's in jewel tones..yum! Master loved trashy styles, short mini skirts, blouses that plunged to the pubic line, etc. when we first got together. He has discovered the joys of the peek-a-boo skirt and harem (?) pants (the ones where the legs are basically nothing more than over lapping panels, usually made out of cotton or linen) and blouses that frame not drip breasts. He has a lot more fun with my clothing now and loves running his hands over it and me and discovering what is hidden beneath. sigh, we do have to keep replacing them though, for some reason they keep getting ripped.

poenkitten



tigerstyle -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 2:28:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

First of all, that would never happen. I would never have no say over anything pertaining to my look. I would never choose anyone who does not appreciate my stylish attributes and taste level.

Also, since I work in the world, I have to look good all the time, so why on earth would I be with someone who would want me to look bad and jeopardize my career or my reputation?

What type of person would ever do something like that?


I believe that the OP is an attempted reductio ad absurdum of the notion of clothing determination. "What if your dom had a hard limit that he was allowed to beat your bottom when you were bad and he always used a 2x4". What indeed.



christine1 -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 2:51:38 PM)

sometimes it might be okay, but what about those days when you are feeling a little puffy because aunt flo is visiting and you just want to be in your comfy pants?  or when you just want to hang around in a t shirt and jeans? or what if you want to just wear your fuzzy slippers and a pair of dangly earrings and nothing else?  and what if you wanted to wear a dress and heels?  nah, i guess it wouldn't work very well for me..maybe something like mutual agreement could work though.



kittengirl8 -> RE: Being dressed (2/1/2008 3:08:26 PM)

So very applicable to me too, christine.  I dress on how I feel in the morning. I think I would cry if I had a Dom who didn't like his girls in jeans or windpants.

And then I would probably say, "Let me dress as I wish, or in a way we're both comfortable with, or we really need to have a talk." Or maybe something less calm.

"Who the heck doesn't like the sight of an ass in tight jeans?" Heh. (Partially an inside joke, but still being serious here!)

~kitten~



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