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RE: Silence - 2/1/2008 3:30:18 PM

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Most people can't carry on a conversation. Masters/subs/anybody. I've had a few subs I've chitchatted with online who never ask me anything and only respond with one word answers.

In 7th grade, I was in the gifted class. One of our assignments in English class was to write a mock interview with a famous person (living or dead). We then got to pair up and read it to the class. Fun fun fun.

Almost every single person's "interview" consisted of trite questions you could ask anyone and single word responses.
"So, Marilyn Monroe, do you think Pamela Anderson is the new 'you'?"
"Yes"

The teacher chewed everybody out. Now, admittedly, it was just a bunch of middle school children. But it was also supposed to be the best and brightest of the time. Figure they're all my age, so you're probably talking to some of them online now.

But there's no need to single out any one group for sucking at it.

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RE: Silence - 2/1/2008 3:36:50 PM

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Why not skip the IMing and just meet in real life? I really hate trying to type a conversation. It's too much typing. I would much rather meet and talk in person. You may be running into people who feel the same way.

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RE: Silence - 2/1/2008 3:54:05 PM

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On the flip side, I have had brilliant, sparkling conversations with people through IM, but when we talked on the phone or met in person, that chemistry just disappeared completely.

I've also found that a fast-typist on one end and a one-finger wonder on the other end don't make the best IM partners.

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RE: Silence - 2/1/2008 8:40:33 PM

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GRRR..I HATE im!!!!...I find it to be the worse possible way to communicate to anyone!!...I refuse to IM with anyone!!..if they wish to better know me after a few e-mails..then I have no problem obtaining their phone number and going from there..Personally much easier to know if there is a more real connection via phone than IM..or even e-mail..conversation flows in a phone call, tonality and inflection is easier to decipher..less chance for misunderstandings and frankly you get a more realistic idea if you will click, if you skip the middle man, IM, and go straight to phone..if a man is unwilling to give a phone number he is either taken in some way or form orrr..he was simply looking for a way to have cyber wanking material...or even for some to "Dominate" via IM...~eye roll~..I am sure I am being way to subtle on my rant about my viewpoint on IMming...but what the heck..I am as always the demure quiet submissive..

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RE: Silence - 2/2/2008 8:20:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
I've also found that a fast-typist on one end and a one-finger wonder on the other end don't make the best IM partners.

Yeah, that's me. I may have fingers that do wonders, but not on the keyboard! I have utter defeated numerous touch-typing instructional programs, including Mavis Beacon and, sadly, even "Mario Teaches A-typing" (Mario of the Nintendo games.)

It took me 45 minutes just to type this message....

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RE: Silence - 2/2/2008 9:45:28 AM

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Thank Y/you all. Great things to think about! The frustrating part is while emailing is the first step and was with these 3 people in particular, we had great rapport through the emails! I mean true connections in so many ways and then CRASH! They decide to move it to IMing and my thoughts are, 'Wow, we connected so well in email and so YES, i'm ready to move it forward", like they are. And what the h***!! IMing is just dead and i'm in no way shy and at that point excited that we both found so much mutuality to move it to the next step and then it's just dead. If he/she cannot hold a conversation, dictate a conversation ... i'm hurt, disappointed, sad, and confused. Thank Y/you all for your input, suggestions and opinions ... it had made me see things that i had not seen as a possiblity. One thing missing then is the lack of honesty on the part of the master/mistress if they have initiated the IMing and are slow at writing or need more time to collect their thoughts ... ???

Are we not working toward the same thing... building a foundation!!
Thanks again E/everyone... i speak from pain right now.

Can you say unrealistic expectations... a true connection from swapping a few emails! Come on. Are you really that desperate that you feel a emotional connection from some email. Maybe you should wait until the first seconds of a phone call before you decide to spend the rest of your life with them. Just a thought

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Holy Cow I agree with SailingBum.

OP are you limiting your search to only people that contact you? I have found many of the mass emailers sound good in email but are just looking for online play, when it fizzles, I wouldn't stop to get frustrated over it. Have more realistic expectations about the fact that this is the internet and you cannot know much from emails. You can also do voicechat rather than IM's (rather than one of you giving out a phone number) if you want to talk to the person and IM isn't their cup of tea.

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RE: Silence - 2/3/2008 5:16:38 AM

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Now you know why I don't chat, except with people I know well, and have met.

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