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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 3:53:40 AM   
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A top is something I wear to cover my breast and stomach. A bottom is what I wear to cover my ass and my legs. Or on hot days, just to cover my ass.  


I was going to say the something similar.  And it still applies, unless you happen to be inverted.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 4:02:40 AM   
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The simple definition (and i'm NOT trying to be a smartass) is the Top is what is above and the bottom is what is below. 

Some have likened it to Pitcher and catcher. 

The relationship, the scene, the play, the session, the place, time, activity, and people invovled will change the nuance of the terms so that a single definition changes to be what is needed at the time for the people involved.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 5:59:14 AM   
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These work for Me they may however not work for you. I don't think it matters if you are in a relationship or one play session at a time.

1. Top-the giver of sensation in a scene
2. bottom-the reciever of sensation in a scene.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 6:07:10 AM   
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The Top is the boss and the other is there to follow ;)


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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 6:10:48 AM   
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this is only MY understanding
  not THE answer or definition ...
     shudders!
 
a Top = controls a play scene ...casual vs being withIN a relationship with the person they are topping.
 
a bottom =  gives temp-control ( physically/of the body) to the Top in above mentioned scene/play   also casual vs being withIN a relationship. Actions/play does not require submission emotionally or mentally.
 
 
 
  

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 8:39:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07
Every word has a standard meaning. You may tweak it here and there to fit what you want it to be, but there also is the root of a word.


The definitions below were far from finished.  But if the dictionary cannot come up with a short definition for you, I doubt a group of people will either. 
Define yourself, your relationship, your mate, your relationship to your mate and those around you, but be satisfied that any definition you assume is correct for someone else, is colored by your prejudice of who you think they are.
If you are engaging in relationships with people who claim to be top, or bottom, ask them what THEY mean by that.
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top1      /tɒp/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[top] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation, noun, adjective, verb, topped, top·ping.
–noun
1.
the highest or loftiest point or part of anything; apex; summit.
2.the uppermost or upper part, surface, etc., of anything.
3.the higher end of anything on a slope.
4.British.
a.
a part considered as higher: the top of the street.
b.
high gear of an automobile.
5.
tops,
a.
the part of a plant that grows above ground, esp. of an edible root.
b.
one of the tender tips of the branches or shoots of plants.
6.
the part of anything that is first or foremost; beginning: Let's go over it from the top again.
7.
the highest or leading place, position, rank, etc.: at the top of the class.
8.
the highest point, pitch, or degree: to talk at the top of one's voice.
9.
a person or thing that occupies the highest or leading position.
10.
the best or choicest part: the top of all creation.
11.
a covering or lid, as of a container or vehicle.
12.
the head.
13.
any of various outer garments for the upper body, as a blouse, shirt, or sweater: a sale on cotton tops and shorts.
14.
Nautical. a platform surrounding the head of a lower mast on a ship, and serving as a foothold, a means of extending the upper rigging, etc.
15.
Chemistry. the part of a mixture under distillation that volatilizes first.
16.
Bridge.
a.
the best card of a suit in a player's hand.
b.
(in duplicate bridge) the best score on a hand.
17.
Sports.
a.
a stroke that hits the ball above its center.
b.
the forward spin given to the ball by such a stroke.
18.
Baseball.
a.
the first half of an inning.
b.
the first three batters in the batting order.
19.
Textiles.
a.
a cluster of textile fibers, esp. tow, put on a distaff.
b.
a strand of the long wool fibers in sliver form, separated from noil by combing and wound into a large ball.
c.
a similar strand of rayon.
20.
Jewelry. crown (def. 27).
21.
the tops, Informal. the most outstanding person or thing in ability, favor, etc.: As a friend, she's the tops. –adjective
22.
pertaining to, situated at, or forming the top; highest; uppermost; upper: the top shelf.
23.
highest in degree; greatest: to pay top prices.
24.
foremost, chief, or principal: to win top honors in a competition. –verb (used with object)
25.
to furnish with a top; put a top on.
26.
to be at or constitute the top of.
27.
to reach the top of.
28.
to rise above: The sun had topped the horizon.
44.
on top, successful; victorious; dominant: to stay on top. 

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bot·tom      /ˈbɒtəm/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[bot-uhm] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun
1.
the lowest or deepest part of anything, as distinguished from the top: the bottom of a hill; the bottom of a page.
2.
the under or lower side; underside: the bottom of a typewriter.
3.
the ground under any body of water: the bottom of the sea.
4.
Usually, bottoms. Also called bottom land. Physical Geography. low alluvial land next to a river.
5.
Nautical.
a.
the part of a hull between the bilges, including the keel.
b.
the part of a hull that is immersed at all times.
c
the cargo space in a vessel.
d.
a cargo vessel.
6.
the seat of a chair.
7.
Informal. the buttocks; rump.
8.
the fundamental part; basic aspect.
9.
bottoms, (used with a plural verb) the trousers of a pair of pajamas.
10.
the working part of a plow, comprising the plowshare, landside, and moldboard.
11.
the cause; origin; basis: Try getting to the bottom of the problem.
12.
Baseball.
a.
the second half of an inning.
b.
the last three players in the batting order.
13.
lowest limit, esp. of dignity, status, or rank: When people sink that low, they're bound to reach the bottom soon.
14.
Usually, bottoms. Chemistry. the heaviest, least volatile fraction of petroleum, left behind in distillation after more volatile fractions are driven off. –verb (used with object)
15.
to furnish with a bottom.
16.
to base or found (usually fol. by on or upon).
17.
to discover the full meaning of (something); fathom.
18.
to bring (a submarine) to rest on the ocean floor: They had to bottom the sub until the enemy cruisers had passed by. –verb (used without object)
19.
to be based; rest.
20.
to strike against the bottom or end; reach the bottom.
21.
(of an automotive vehicle) to sink vertically, as when bouncing after passing over a bump, so that the suspension reaches the lower limit of its motion: The car bottomed too easily on the bumpy road. –adjective
22.
of or pertaining to the bottom or a bottom.
23.
located on or at the bottom: I want the bottom book in the stack.
24.
lowest: bottom prices.
25.
living near or on the bottom: A flounder is a bottom fish.
26.
fundamental: the bottom cause. —Verb phrase
27.
bottom out, to reach the lowest state or level: The declining securities market finally bottomed out and began to rise. —Idioms
28.
at bottom, in reality; fundamentally: They knew at bottom that they were only deceiving themselves. Also, at the bottom.

< Message edited by Missokyst -- 2/2/2008 8:45:28 AM >


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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 8:48:31 AM   
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Welp as you can see, there is no agreement on this or any other term.  I wonder what would happen if we asked everyone here what an egg is?

Some people use the term top or bottom in a derogatory fashion.  Many are merely referring to who has the authority, some are referring to a temporary situation, other's any situation.  Sensation receiving isn't the relevant factor in my book as a top can tell a bottom to give them sensation or activites, even those considered bottomish and still be a top.  Clear as mud?  As LA stated, you aren't going to get a consensus merely because you desire it, people don't work that way nor does language and especially here. As with all language context can be the defining factor, other times, it's not so helpful. 

< Message edited by laurell3 -- 2/2/2008 8:49:44 AM >


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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 9:38:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Top and bottom. What is the correct definition. i hear so many different  versions from people that i don't know which is right. i have heard that it means a one time play session.

2) When you are not in a serious relationship.
3) when you just play at it

Does anyone have the correct definition? i would appreciate it. Thanks.

Clarification please on the bolded parts
who is defining the seriousness of the top/bottom relationship?
what does "JUST play at it" mean
Lucy

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 9:56:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Does anyone have the correct definition? i would appreciate it. Thanks.


There really isn't one. There isn't a one true way of BDSM which includes easy definations.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 9:57:21 AM   
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From Wikipedia:
Top, a toy that can be spun on an axis, balancing on a point.
 
From me:
Bottom, the part of my body that rests on a chair while pondering definitions. 

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 12:32:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Top and bottom. What is the correct definition. i hear so many different  versions from people that i don't know which is right. i have heard that it means a one time play session.

2) When you are not in a serious relationship.
3) when you just play at it

Does anyone have the correct definition? i would appreciate it. Thanks.


Hello taken
 
I think the best course of action is to talk to an individual and ask their definition and try and understand it, than try and find a 'correct' definition.
 
For me, I am in a ltr and I top occasionally, but I do not pretend or play the action, it is something that I am and have learned as a part of me.  However it can work in play situations.
 
For me Topping and bottoming are actions - physical representations manifest.
 
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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 3:28:06 PM   
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Thanks, actually from several people's posts on this thread i understand the meaning completely. They all had one common definition and that's what i wanted to fully understand the word's meaning. :)

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 3:31:53 PM   
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a top has openings for one's head, arms and waist, a bottom has openings for the waist and legs.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 3:34:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

Thanks, actually from several people's posts on this thread i understand the meaning completely. They all had one common definition and that's what i wanted to fully understand the word's meaning. :)


Obviously you did not quite grasp what so many were trying to communicate on this thread.  Just because a few people's definitions are similar does not mean that you have a "full understanding" of the words.

You may be able to appreciate their understanding of the words, but you may not appreciate my understanding of the words. 

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 3:55:54 PM   
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Obviously you did not quite grasp what so many were trying to communicate on this thread.  Just because a few people's definitions are similar does not mean that you have a "full understanding" of the words.

You may be able to appreciate their understanding of the words, but you may not appreciate my understanding of the words. 



It bore repeating.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 4:04:07 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Obviously you did not quite grasp what so many were trying to communicate on this thread.  Just because a few people's definitions are similar does not mean that you have a "full understanding" of the words.

You may be able to appreciate their understanding of the words, but you may not appreciate my understanding of the words. 



It bore repeating.

I'll triple that.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 5:52:34 PM   
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I believe that a top is the one in controll or trying to control a scene. And the bottom is the one being controlled.

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 6:33:30 PM   
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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 6:36:50 PM   
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i don't know what blank means. i must of pushed the wrong button. Sorry

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RE: Is that your final anwer? - 2/2/2008 6:38:42 PM   
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I doubt I was the only person who saw what you put there before you edited it out.

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