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cuteLImsubbie -> what am I doing wrong? (9/5/2005 5:36:20 PM)
Why is it so hard for poeple to be honest and up front? I am a having a hard time meeting a real person how is nice both on the vanilla side and the "other" side. I did meet a really wonderful person but she is in the same field as I am in and that freaked her out. Any ideas?

greenie -> RE: what am I doing wrong? (9/5/2005 5:45:14 PM)
time, patience, optimism, and wide open eyes.

JohnWarren -> RE: what am I doing wrong? (9/5/2005 5:46:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cuteLImsubbie Why is it so hard for poeple to be honest and up front? I am a having a hard time meeting a real person how is nice both on the vanilla side and the "other" side. I did meet a really wonderful person but she is in the same field as I am in and that freaked her out. Any ideas? It's a law of the universe that we are going to have a hard time connecting. We not only want the same thing a vanilla person wants but we also want a complementary kink. Added to this, people freak. Libby and I have had people go into shock when they found out "who we are" since obviously we played at a higher level than they did. Despite the fact we were discussing a service scene with "advanced" thing like foot massage and warm oil play. One thing I could suggest is you try your local offline groups. Just remember they are often like a consignment store. If you dont' like what's there today, come back next week. New "stuff" arrives all the time.

TheRomDom -> RE: what am I doing wrong? (9/6/2005 8:03:26 AM)
Have you tried Long Island Leather n Roses---it is a wonderful group and most of the people I met there are sincere. It is a Yahoo group, but it also meets every week, first at a diner then at a special place, and after they get to know you, they do have private parties. It is a place to meet people from LI intop the scene who respect honesty, and all that goes with it. Look it up on the search engine, and I think you will be pleasantly surprised. Jay

GddssBella -> RE: what am I doing wrong? (9/6/2005 11:20:17 AM)
G'afternoon all: Ok..... I just had to do it. I looked at the O.P.'s profile. Which should've been his first clue. Absolutely no domme I know of is impressed by an opening line proclaiming: quote: THE SUB OF YOUR DREAMS! If you have tried the rest now try the best! Secondly, you do not state your marital status. Thirdly, you didn't post a picture. Fourthly, you list a great many BDSM interests and very few vanilla hobbies. These same proclivities scream out "I'm oh, so needy! DO ME NOW!!!". Should I continue?!? This topic has been done to death, not only here, but in the Mistress forum as well. A helpful hint: read the link provided. Follow instructions. Read forums. Use the search function. Realize above all else? This is the net, get used to being disappointed in your search. The only way you'll make contacts real time is likely to be local munches and groups. Get out and live my man..... So, you want to meet a domme? Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others... [:D] Bella

MistressGrace07 -> RE: what am I doing wrong? (9/6/2005 11:27:17 PM)
like I said in another thread.. as My dad always said.. "to find the gold.. sometimes ya gotta move some dirt"

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