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RE: The use of petnames and actions - 2/3/2008 1:34:13 PM

NakedOnMyChain

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ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch

it all depends. i have a habit of referring to everyone as either babe or buddy depending on if i'm annoyed or not (babe if i'm happy buddy if i'm not). it's all in how they accept it. it probably wouldn't be that great of an idea when i'm register for example. when i'm with my friends i can be more lenient and even more so if i'm with my partner (s).

I do the same thing. It's "hon" if I'm happy and "dear" if I'm displeased. I use them mostly with friends and family, rarely with acquaitances, and never with someone I'm just meeting or haven't known very long. I've found that it's too easy for someone who doesn't know me well to mistake what is, to me, endearing terminology for condescension and vice versa.

For some reason, I have garnered the nickname Ms. Michelle. Even my favorite bartender calls me by that name. It's especially funny because I'm married and I lean more towards the submissive. I like it, though. It's sweet. It isn't even slightly lifestyle related, in my case, but it's interesting to see how different people take it.

I remember the first time my best friend called me Ms. Michelle in front of her then dominant, he got exceedingly angry. I'm still unclear as to his reasoning. I thought it was pretty stupid reason to be upset, but to each their own. I think he just wanted me to be completely submissive and wasn't thrilled that I didn't have that kind of dynamic with him, and was a bit jealous. It just goes to show you how a sweet, harmless pet-name between two people can mean something completely different taken in other contexts. I wouldn't worry overly about it, but it's good to consider your company's feelings.

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