Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first?

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Willowmoon -> Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 5:33:01 PM)
This is more aimed at those that are in Master/slave relationships where both sides of the equation really know each other and each others limits. When you are doing a scene with your partner do you still discuss it before hand so that both sides know what is going to happen or does the Master do what ever he wants without discussion first? For us I usualy have no idea what he is going to do with me and I like it this way. When a scene has been disucssed in advance I find that I can't relax into them as part of me holds back thinking okay next he is going to do this or that or whatever it is. I am his slave to my mind that means he can do what he wants with me when he wants without discussion of it first.

whiteslavebitch -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 5:48:58 PM)
MasterK knows my limits. He is completely free to do anything else that is not a limit. We do not discuss what is going to happen during a play session, it's fully his decision.

Rover -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 5:49:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Willowmoon When you are doing a scene with your partner do you still discuss it before hand so that both sides know what is going to happen or does the Master do what ever he wants without discussion first? If it's something we haven't engaged in with each other previously, we discuss it. And we'll probably discuss it afterwards as well. After that, it's Katie bar the door (unless there is a compelling reason to the contrary). We will still dissect scenes out of mutual interest, and the development of mutual understanding. And sometimes out of unilateral or mutual concern. John

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 5:51:40 PM)
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. The idea is that you've already discussed all the relevant points BEFORE you make the commitment to eachother. Everything after that should be just additional paintstrokes and highlights. Each relationship is different. Since I more often than not don't know what a scene will entail beforehand, I can't possibly discuss it with them first. And this isn't a Ms issue, it's a personal relationship/kinky play issue.

Littlepita -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 5:57:09 PM)
We don't discuss things first. I do tell him if I am wanting something in particular and he decides if and when that happens. For me the biggest rush is not knowing what he is going to do until he does it.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 6:03:13 PM)
Unless it is something new or if I have asked for something in particular then it isn't discussed beforehand. We discussed things that we both enjoy and don't enjoy way before I became his slave and committed to him.

Dari -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 6:05:14 PM)
I'll discuss anything that I'm not sure they'll enjoy long before the actual employment of a certain element. Depending on that will determine how we will proceed. I rarely plan out scenes and then discuss them, and I don't really need agreement. Walking in the door, or obeying the command to kneel gives me consent to play in the relationships in which I am engaged.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 6:16:35 PM)
Sometimes he will give me an idea, especially when i have not tried something before, other than that everytime is his decision and what he is in the mood for. Which is usally exactly what i'm in the mood for. We don't play or scene, we just do.

beltainefaerie -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 6:16:39 PM)
Unless it is something we've never done before, there is no discussion. Even then, the discussion may take place well in advance of the scene, so I still don't know when it may happen.

DesFIP -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 6:22:25 PM)
D/s not M/s but we rarely discuss stuff ahead of time. I know it's supposed to build anticipation but with me it usually sets off anxiety, even if it's stuff we've done a hundred times before. But I do get told if he wants to play that night, so I can try to get myself in the mood, make sure dinner is done early, etc. And because sometimes I'm just not up to stuff, which he would rather know about than have to end things suddenly and try to calm me down.

adoracat -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 6:23:28 PM)
the only discussion we have is "how much are you up to today?" some days i can take a lot more, some days i cant. right now i'm sitting here sore as all get out from bites and bruising...and he took it easy on me. grins kitten

salilus -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 6:27:18 PM)
He doesn't discuss it with me - he doesn't need to... unless he needs me to do something beforehand. Even then, I only know that he's going to, for instance, use needles on me because he has me take the syringes apart for him. He does what he likes and I like that.

swtnsparkling -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 7:15:47 PM)
quote: This is more aimed at those that are in Master/slave relationships where both sides of the equation really know each other and each others limits If this is indeed the relationship I am in then there is no need for any prior discussion

akisha -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 7:32:21 PM)
In my past relationship the only time we dicussed things before hand is if we were going to venture into something that was new or that might cause me stress to have suprised upon me. For instance, dealing with something I was in apprehension of. Not something that was a hard limit but something I was willing to try but that scared the hell out of me. I don't like certain kinds of suprises, I react badly to them.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 7:50:29 PM)
We would only discuss it if ....others would be involved....or...if He were teasing (testing) me before beginning. ~Christina

kallisto -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 7:54:32 PM)
To discuss beforehand - only if it were something not done before or if it were something that would test my limits and he would know those because we would be openly communicating throughout the relationship.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 7:55:52 PM)
We occasionally discuss things before hand. We have been known to discuss future play while in the midst of play. It makes for great scene talk. I tell him what I have planned because it excites him and the anticiption makes things a it more intense. If I am considering something majorly different that he had never done we will probably discuss it so he isnt completely taken off guard. He never bjects when I decide out of no where to play, but since we are still somewhat unsure of how he will take certain forms of aggression conversation is the better course. DV

gcarlos -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 7:57:12 PM)
For the most part, no. Master and i don't discuss the actual scene before hand. We do discuss my desires, my fantasies and things i am interested in trying. But it is Master who decides what we do and do not do. And as his slave, i respect his decisions. Best, Their {girl}

ChainedExistence -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 8:08:13 PM)
The beauty of a long term relationship for us is that Master can be completely spontaneous and I have nothing to worry about. He knows me- my moods, my temperment, my body language, the sounds I make, even the way I breathe, and I can pretty much be assured that ANYTHING he does isn't going to hurt me permanently, and I will be fine-both physically and emotionally. I trust him because I know him in the same way. I can't imagine playing this way with someone I didn't know as well, because I don't think I'd ever feel completely safe and relaxed enough to let go and put myself completely in someone else's hands. More casual play never let me feel as submissive as I do now. We sometimes talk about scenes, just because it's an interesting subject to us, but not from a position of negotiation or discussing limits. Have I ever been totally shocked and surprised at something he's done? Absolutely, but I lived to tell an enjoyable tale! Even if it's something new, I can trust Master enough to know it wouldn't violate core values we both share.

Lordandmaster -> RE: Play between Master/slave is it dicussed first? (2/2/2008 8:28:31 PM)
I'm accustomed to doing whatever the fuck I want without discussion. If I say anything beforehand, it's to get into her head. quote: ORIGINAL: Willowmoon When you are doing a scene with your partner do you still discuss it before hand so that both sides know what is going to happen or does the Master do what ever he wants without discussion first?

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