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Collar Question - 2/2/2008 7:26:18 PM

Feric

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Had you always wanted a collar, or is it something your Dom(me) / Master worked you up to?

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RE: Collar Question - 2/2/2008 7:27:44 PM

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Oh I always liked the symbolism of the collar, and how it gave me extra cool status points in the scene. But got burned out on it because the relationship didn't work.

So now I enjoy collars as I choose, for whatever purpose they happen to serve at that time.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/2/2008 7:30:05 PM

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i haven't had a collar in years, however the feelings and emotions behind the collar were far more important than the actual collar itself. It was merely a physical representation of what we meant to each other.

Edited to add my answer to your question... it was something worked up to, it was not accepted lightly.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/2/2008 8:09:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Feric

Had you always wanted a collar, or is it something your Dom(me) / Master worked you up to?

when i started looking about a year ago now, i did want a collar. it means something to me. and so yes, it was something that i discussed with the gentlemen i spoke with, what were their feelings about the subject. and yes, Daddy has collared me.

if i had ended up with someone who wanted to work up to collaring, or taken a longer time about it, that would have been ok too..as long as i was sure of where i stand. me, personally, i need the outward sign of "you are mine, you belong to me". that physical symbol makes me happy and content and is something to literally hold on to when i'm feeling insecure.

Daddy understands that. and so he's been very indulgent of me, in giving me things to hang on to when i'm feeling insecure.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/2/2008 9:12:14 PM

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i had wanted one but it wasn't the collar so much as the relationship and the symolism attached to it....it would be like asking did i always want a wedding ring.....no....not just the ring but the relationship etc behind the ring.

i was totally thrilled and ecstatic when my Daddy sent me my first collar and love each of the ones i have.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 2:21:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie

i haven't had a collar in years, however the feelings and emotions behind the collar were far more important than the actual collar itself. It was merely a physical representation of what we meant to each other.

Edited to add my answer to your question... it was something worked up to, it was not accepted lightly.

agree it is like a wedding ring....a symbol for the wedding...but not as important

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 3:17:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

wasn't the collar so much as the relationship and the symolism attached to it

For many years i did NOT want a collar or the relationship it symbolized. i could be strange but there was a time when i could not devote my time and attention to such a deep, committed relationship. i wanted my kink and freedom too. i wanted to know myself, to explore, taste, feel, experience without the problems of messy emotions. i felt it was important for me to know myself, my needs, likes, dislikes, i needed to be totally ready to surrender before i could surrender totally, if that makes any sense.

Now i have two collars, the one i wear every day and one gorgeous custom posture collar and both i wear with gratitude and pride.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 4:25:09 AM

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i dream of the day when he collars me. He has picked it out and it's beautiful. i want it more than anything.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 8:22:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Feric

Had you always wanted a collar, or is it something your Dom(me) / Master worked you up to?

I wanted to be his long before a thought of being collared entered my head. Once he finally convinced me that I was indeed his, the collar followed.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 8:41:18 AM

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I like the symbolism of a collar. But if I had to choose between a collar or the relationship it symbolizes, I'd choose the relationship.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 8:47:38 AM

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I like the symbolism of a collar, but I would not wear a collar unless I was in a commited relationship - not because it's a symbol of commitment, it's just a personal choice.

I barely keep my hair colour the same for more than a couple of months, let alone wear one single collar. I am a slight exhibitionist in that sense - and I love anything that stands out from the norm. Darcy knows exactly what I am like and what suits me, I trust his judgement on the issue.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 8:59:56 AM

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i do not have a collar, Master does own my heart, mind, body and soul. when He thinks we are ready for that committment it will happen. it cannot happen a minute before, as it is a huge committment, and one not to be entered lightly as we both agree, it is a symbol of a lifelong committment. so for me, i just enjoy the journy, big sigh, the journey has been great!!

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 9:01:09 AM

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To quote Fox from a journal entry elsewhere.
"I always thought the idea of a collar was somewhat silly. But now that I have one it is my prized possession."

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 9:28:22 AM

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I've always wanted the relationship a collar symbolizes to me. That leads me to want the collar, but only if it is indeed a symbol of what I have.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 9:52:30 AM

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I did not want just a collar i wanted HIS coller. I was not collared to my late Dom did not want to be.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 9:58:06 AM

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i'd love to be collared, but a collar for me signifies something deep and meaningful and until i have a relationship where i feel secure and content and which i know will last for a while (or at least hope it will) than i will not accept one. i love collars though think they are gorgeous :)

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 10:10:33 AM

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i've been collared, in the context of what it means as a relationship; as far as wearing or owning a collar, they better buy it for their pets, not me, unless they never want to see my sweet ass again; they can fork out the cash for jewelry that's i'd be proud to wear, not some crap they pick up at the pet store!

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 10:14:23 AM

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As others have said above, I have always wanted a collar, not just the collar but the relationship and meaning that collar symbolises.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 11:33:03 AM

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It isn't the peice of leather I was after, it's the relationship and connection it reflects. I've seen a few Doms/me that go through collared submissives like a kid with candy, they had little meaning it seemed, or value aside from the 'prestige' of having a collared slave or being a collered to someone,anyone as long as they were owned that is what counted.Those relationships, funny enough always seem to discolve.

I see a collar like a wedding ring, they shouldn't come with velcro.

The collar of consideration I wear now to the collar I will have as an owned slave are earned and valued, but neither of us entered into the relationship with that final edict of having to have a collar. That part came as we got to know each other.

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RE: Collar Question - 2/3/2008 10:06:15 PM

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I was actually remembering the other day that when I was a young girl I always used to want a "special necklace," something that meant something to me that I wore all the time, that never came off. I wasn't sure why I wanted it because even then I thought it was kind of silly that I had this idea of wanting something special like that without actually having the special thing. I tried to make a couple necklaces that had meaning for me but they never seemed quite right. I was just thinking this week how funny it is that that is now exactly what I wear.

But I do want to note that I more attached to the relationship than the actual peice of steel around my neck. The first time he moved to unscrew it after it had been on for about 3 months I jerked and burst out "no please!" Turned out he wasn't actually removing it but I was still a little shaken. However he had to take it off a few weeks ago for a photoshoot and after it was off I wasn't thinking about it being gone. I know I'm his slave no matter whether I have the collar around my neck at all times or not.

We do both enjoy the symbolism of a locking collar though.

charlotte

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