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The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 9:50:44 PM   
UndertheRose


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Status: offline 		After reviewing the last few pages of forum chat I have come to the conclusion that me and my master are alone in this and I am concerned.

My and my master are in a BDSM free master/slave relationship and it seems like we are the only ones.

I mean, is it true? Are we alone in our quest? Or are there some other like minded folk out there?

If so please, speak up now or forever hold your peace.

If not, your input would still be useful.
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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 9:53:05 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		Heh that's a pretty dramatic opener.  No you are not alone.  There are others here that do not participate in BDSM, although I'm not one of them.  Even if you were, would it make a difference?

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 9:53:15 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: UndertheRose

My and my master are in a BDSM free master/slave relationship and it seems like we are the only ones. 

If not, your input would still be useful.


Tell me what it looks like, and i will tell you if I've seen one.
 
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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 9:54:44 PM   
daddyncherry


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Status: offline 		Huhhhh???? The only Master/slave relationship? There are a bunch of us here...unless i'm misunderstanding you...but that is what you asked right?

i'm a slave, to a Master/Daddy.


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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 9:57:41 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		M/s without bdsm is I believe what the OP is about.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 9:58:01 PM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		That depends upon how you're using the term "BDSM".  BDSM was coined to be an umbrella term that includes Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism. 
 
Am I correct in assuming you and your Master do not engage in Bondage/Discipline or Sadism/Masochism, but are involved in Dominance/Submission (or Master/slave or however you want to label your power exchange relationship)?  If so, then no you're not alone.  Though it is more common than not for folks in power exchange relationships to also engage in some form of B/D and/or S/M.
 
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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 10:01:41 PM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		They are probably here.  But not nearly as cool as the rest of us.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 10:03:17 PM   
daddyncherry


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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

M/s without bdsm is I believe what the OP is about.


Ahhhh i saw "BDSM free master/slave "and put the emphasis on the wrong part lol..i thought it was free master/slave....and thought it might be "free" as i've heard from Goreans.

My bad.


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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 10:06:34 PM   
charmdpetKeira


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quote:

ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

M/s without bdsm is I believe what the OP is about.


Ahhhh i saw "BDSM free master/slave "and put the emphasis on the wrong part lol..i thought it was free master/slave....and thought it might be "free" as i've heard from Goreans.

My bad.



Things are so much clearer to me now.... glad I'm not the only one.
 
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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 10:12:42 PM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

M/s without bdsm is I believe what the OP is about.


Ahhhh i saw "BDSM free master/slave "and put the emphasis on the wrong part lol..i thought it was free master/slave....and thought it might be "free" as i've heard from Goreans.

My bad.



Actually I did that same thing and couldn't figure out how it made sense and went back and looked again.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 10:33:42 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UndertheRose

After reviewing the last few pages of forum chat I have come to the conclusion that me and my master are alone in this and I am concerned.

My and my master are in a BDSM free master/slave relationship and it seems like we are the only ones.

I mean, is it true? Are we alone in our quest? Or are there some other like minded folk out there?

If so please, speak up now or forever hold your peace.

If not, your input would still be useful.


I don't understand.  Under your profile under "lives for" you list the following BDSM activities: Hair Pulling, Spanking, and Watersports and under "loves" you list the following BDSM activities: Blindfolds and Gags. 

I'm tryig to figure out when those things became *not* BDSM.

C~

Edited to add: unless you live for and love those activities but never have actually done them.


< Message edited by Wildfleurs -- 2/2/2008 10:34:36 PM >

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/2/2008 10:53:22 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		And even then, you're not alone.  It's just talking about doing laundry is boring so it doesn't get mentioned a lot.  Talking about UNordinary activities is fun and what gets people giong.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 12:54:27 AM   
UndertheRose


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Wildfleurs

quote:

ORIGINAL: UndertheRose

After reviewing the last few pages of forum chat I have come to the conclusion that me and my master are alone in this and I am concerned.

My and my master are in a BDSM free master/slave relationship and it seems like we are the only ones.

I mean, is it true? Are we alone in our quest? Or are there some other like minded folk out there?

If so please, speak up now or forever hold your peace.

If not, your input would still be useful.


I don't understand.  Under your profile under "lives for" you list the following BDSM activities: Hair Pulling, Spanking, and Watersports and under "loves" you list the following BDSM activities: Blindfolds and Gags. 

I'm tryig to figure out when those things became *not* BDSM.

C~

Edited to add: unless you live for and love those activities but never have actually done them.


I consider BDSM to be everything that a stereotypically 'vanilla' couple would be unwilling to do. Light bondage to me, (including blindfolds), holds no place in the BDSM world (however you might define that is up to you).

So I do not consider what we do related to BDSM in any way. Nothing done is used as a device to reinforce my submission but rather as a continuation of the sex we shared before we started this lifestyle. The hairpulling/ spanking and watersports were present long before i had ever even heard of 'Master Slave' relationships.

I hope that clears things up a bit.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 1:06:05 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Yes but it means you are using the term "BDSM" in an extremely different way than most everyone else is.

What you are doing is still what most people call "kinky stuff."

So when you say you are different for not doing kinky stuff, and then say you have enjoyed for a long time doing what most people consider "kinky stuff" you get the confusion we have here.

Now that we know what most people call "kinky stuff" is what you call "vanilla" we have a baseline of communicating, at least for this thread.

As well, tons of kinky people doing kinky stuff has NOTHING to do with domination or submission, it's just hot fun stuff that gets people going/off.



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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 2:17:19 AM   
Willowmoon


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Status: offline 		out of those live fors and loves most vanilla people i know would consider them to be kinky bdsm stuffs with perhaps the exception of a blindfold.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 2:25:25 AM   
Justme696


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UndertheRose

After reviewing the last few pages of forum chat I have come to the conclusion that me and my master are alone in this and I am concerned.

My and my master are in a BDSM free master/slave relationship and it seems like we are the only ones.

I mean, is it true? Are we alone in our quest? Or are there some other like minded folk out there?

If so please, speak up now or forever hold your peace.

If not, your input would still be useful.


No..I had periods....that I owned a girl..with out the spanking, cuffing, chaining part..if that is what you mean.
But she obyed otherwise.



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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 2:45:17 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		See.... it's exactly what is said in these forums time and time again... each relationship IS unique!  my Master and i may enjoy activities that others define within bdsm and others not.  Some things we do some folks would consider extreme and others would yawn.  See, i am an individual and Master is and individual and the combination we form is unique from any other relationship i have had or Master has had.  So in a sense each of us are the only ones.....

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 2:55:55 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		Yes, I've heard of these strange relationships. People who live together and one is bossy, the other one obeys and they engage in sexual practices. It's called a relationship. Vanilla people don't just lie there and do the starfish position. They do move occasionally. And sometimes even get a lil funky.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 3:19:07 AM   
lusciouslips19


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quote:

ORIGINAL: UndertheRose

After reviewing the last few pages of forum chat I have come to the conclusion that me and my master are alone in this and I am concerned.

My and my master are in a BDSM free master/slave relationship and it seems like we are the only ones.

I mean, is it true? Are we alone in our quest? Or are there some other like minded folk out there?

If so please, speak up now or forever hold your peace.

If not, your input would still be useful.


Why would you be concerned if you are alone in this? Live your life and stop worrying about others.

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RE: The Only Ones - 2/3/2008 3:25:59 AM   
liketophoto


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Status: offline 		I think your absolutly right there are people with unclear objectives here. perhaps myself.
Most people in there profiles spend so much time telling the other that they must read their entire profile that the reader is bored right off the bat.

We should develop plans/guides to identify what we want from a relationship and tailor our profile that way.
What a revolation....
Trouble is, No one really knows what they exactly want.
Most would change their requirements for a pretty face and/or ass.

As far as this thread goes, I am not really into the 24/7. Not entirly anyways.
I do like to roleplay, and like to do many different things.


< Message edited by liketophoto -- 2/3/2008 3:29:56 AM >

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