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how safe? - 9/6/2005 2:44:49 PM

sklaba

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Greetings to A/all

I am a submissive girl from Greece. What I want, is your opinion about how safe is to relocate to another country, just because I meat a Dom from USA. Will you ever relocate, if you don't know somebody to another country?

I prefer to take answers from females cause I am sure that they can understand my fears

Thank you

Vicktoria

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RE: how safe? - 9/6/2005 4:12:40 PM

JohnWarren

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sklaba

Greetings to A/all

I am a submissive girl from Greece. What I want, is your opinion about how safe is to relocate to another country, just because I meat a Dom from USA. Will you ever relocate, if you don't know somebody to another country?

I prefer to take answers from females cause I am sure that they can understand my fears

Thank you

Vicktoria

I have some experience with the Immigration and Nationalization Service. If you come over on your own you are in pretty good shape. If your sponsor is also your dom(me), it could be very sticky if you two break up. But, I'll leave it to "females" to expand on this since I'm only a male.

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RE: how safe? - 9/6/2005 6:31:02 PM

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I prefer to take answers from females cause I am sure that they can understand my fears

Yeah, no MALE of the species would understand the fears of going overseas into a complete unknown situation. But I am a male... what do I know?

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RE: how safe? - 9/6/2005 10:29:29 PM

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Be very careful, your post doesn't say whether or not you have actually met this man. Have you? I suggest long weekends, several of them, before you commit to relocation. First and foremost he should visit you, in your comfort zone, he should be the one in new and different surroundings for the first couple of visits, before you ever agree to meet him in his.

I relocated from the US to England to be with my Master, but I had also known Him for almost 9 yrs before I actually moved here and now we have a wonderful relationship.

I am not implying you should wait 9 yrs, just be careful and take whatever time you need to get to know each other. Long distance relationships are hard at best, but you can't learn enough about someone via email and telephone conversations to know if you are compatible enough to co-habitate and quite frankly, the US is full of self professed Doms that haven't got a clue and are only looking for a quick piece of kinky ass. There are also alot of good Doms and men in the US, I just can't tell you enough to be careful and take your time.

Good Luck

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RE: how safe? - 9/7/2005 12:33:04 AM

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It's risky business getting involved in anything new. Add a completely foreign location to the mix and it has potential to be volatile, to say the least. My best advice is to know your dom for quite a while before you pack up and head on over. I'm talking in years here. Of course it's your life, and you need to make your own decisions, but it's still a very good idea to have known him for a rather lengthy period. It's also a good idea to visit him here in the US several times before the big move. That way you get to know him on a one on one basis in the territory you'll be moving to. It might not be a bad idea for him to visit you at your current home as well. It will aid the transition involved in merging your seperate traditions and cultures.
In addition, ask yourself if you'd consider making this move on your own? Would it be something you would be willing to do without his influence? If not, it might be a good idea to question your motives and take extra precautions. You'll most likely be in an entirely different situation here, one that could be potentially frightening and lonely.
I would start trying to set up some base contacts, on this site and others, from the general region that your potential dom lives in. These should be friends that you can call upon should relations with your master turn sour, and just to make your life in the US a little less lonely at first. Make sure that these people are reliable and trustworthy. If you come over to visit your dom, it would be a very good idea to take and extra day or two to visit with these persons as well. You never know when someone is lying over the internet.
If you decide to make the move, feel free to contact me at any time. If you need a little help adjusting, I'll be here to talk. Be careful and good luck.

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RE: how safe? - 9/7/2005 6:34:10 AM

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hmmmmmmm........so you feel males have no feelings? in ter esting....

i personally would have NO issue with moving to europe if i felt it was good...i am by the way, german heritage and would not mind being with my people in germany...

but i AM American and i love my country.

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RE: how safe? - 9/7/2005 7:42:14 AM

fig

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yeap on the several trips over, yeap on getting him to visit, yeap on giving it a bit of time before the jump.

also make sure your english is american english rather than british english. Its a small point, but the accents may trip you up when you get over there. Having problems understanding the locals makes a easy trip very hard and wearysome. also check out the greek community stateside. I'm sure they'll have resources that you can look to, esp. wrt to visa for the states.

again, I'm only a man, so what do I know.

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RE: how safe? - 9/7/2005 9:48:19 AM

WickedKev

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I am male hear me roar...cough cough....What I don't figure is you live an Greece and want to go to USA. Nothing against USA but give me Greece everytime.

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RE: how safe? - 9/7/2005 10:15:15 AM

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Be cautious, get to know one another, move slowly and by all means, meet before you move. Sometimes you have to trust your instincts, but you also have to be safe and sure that's it right when trying to decide on such a major event in your life.

See, us males have feelings too!

Goodluck to you and I hope whatever you decide, is the right move for you.

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RE: how safe? - 9/11/2005 1:01:52 AM

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If your own common sense can't tell you that picking up and moving out of the country isn't an idea to do lightly you have more to worry about than moving.

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RE: how safe? - 9/11/2005 10:19:08 AM

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It's a long way to go, if you're wrong.

There's a lot of new things involved when you do this. Your support system will be far removed from you. New culture, new slang, new food, new stores, new brands, new social expectations, new rules, new laws, new relationship. It's a lot of pressure.

I went through all of this just moving from the east coast to the west coast. I would suggest that before you do this, you have a plan in place in case it doesn't work out. Without money and friends, getting out of a situation like this can be impossible.

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RE: how safe? - 9/11/2005 9:29:30 PM

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Consider yourself first before your lust. What would you do here? What are you giving up? Would you be safe?
The common sense questions you must ask yourself. Immigration?

I know a fantastic dom in Paris. If I were seeking, we were compatible would I relocate? I don't know that answer still today. He asked me it nearly ten year's ago.

I've known people to make the choice and fail, I've also seen people make the choice and succeed. Would it work out for you? Only you can answer that question.

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