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Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 9:39:47 PM   
nymphonan


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Status: offline 		About two years ago Master gave this girl a pearl necklace which was to be worn as a discreet daily collar. Recently, the string broke and this girl has been unable to wear her collar. Master is aware of this fact as girl told him that the string was wearing thin prior to its breaking and told him imediately when it finally broke. This girl is feeling very lost without her collar on. The question is whether it would be appropriate for this girl to come right out and ask Master to replace it, should she just share with Master how lost she is feeling or should she just be patient and wait for Master to make the decision that the collar should be replaced? 
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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 9:41:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why don't you ask your master?  He's the one who ultimately decides what's appropriate for you to ask.

I would inform him of what happened and ask him two things:
a) what does he feel the next steps should be in this
b) what he expects of your actions in case such a thing occurs again

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 9:42:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just express how you feel. "I miss being able to wear the collar you gave me." Plain, simple, truthful. He can decide from there once he is aware how much you miss it. Nothing wrong with expressing your feelings at an appropriate time.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 9:47:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you both, LuckyAlbatross and ProlificNeeds for your replies. This girl greatly appreciates your imput, thoughts and advise.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 9:54:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Does a collar define who you are? Are you not still his slave and committed to him without a physical piece of jewelry on? When you feel lost realize it isn't the collar that makes you his. Just ask him if he is planning on a new one to replace it. It is ultimately up to him to decide. Maybe finances need to be better. Just ask when appropriate.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 9:56:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ProlificNeeds

Just express how you feel. "I miss being able to wear the collar you gave me."


And if you feel it is appropriate to your relationship, I would add after that, "May I have it repaired?"

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 9:59:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		i have asked for collars from my Daddy in the past...i have a difficult time wearing anything with any kind of weight (almost at all) around my neck for any length of time, so for this reason i asked him for something small and light and silver in color so that it would go with everything...

He didn't seem to find it inappropriate and now i have a collar that i can actually wear day and night all the time......Maybe if you explain your Master will understand and get you a new one.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 10:20:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Come right out and tell your Master it broke.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/3/2008 10:25:05 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		She has told him.

OP, it's entirely OK to let him know that you are feeling this way. I'd ask him, very respectfully, if it's ok if you had it restrung.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 2:30:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: nymphonan

About two years ago Master gave this girl a pearl necklace which was to be worn as a discreet daily collar. Recently, the string broke and this girl has been unable to wear her collar. Master is aware of this fact as girl told him that the string was wearing thin prior to its breaking and told him imediately when it finally broke. This girl is feeling very lost without her collar on. The question is whether it would be appropriate for this girl to come right out and ask Master to replace it, should she just share with Master how lost she is feeling or should she just be patient and wait for Master to make the decision that the collar should be replaced? 

I'm a little surprised your master hasn't taken it upon himself to get the necklace repaired himself.  Any collar I give, including something synbolic to wear in public, is still my collar that represents my ownership - so I take care of it.
 
The girl only wears my collar, everything else about it is my responsibility, especially when repairs or replacement are in order.  I'd go with sharing how lost you feel without it....
 
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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 5:10:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with what Focus50 said.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 5:40:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Why don't you ask your master?  He's the one who ultimately decides what's appropriate for you to ask.

I would inform him of what happened and ask him two things:
a) what does he feel the next steps should be in this
b) what he expects of your actions in case such a thing occurs again


Exactly - take responsibility for what is your side of the house, and put the final decision in his hands. When my girl is exact and precise about these sorts of things, it gives me notice that she really needs direction and attention on something.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 6:32:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just think of all the drama and emotion that surrounds lost wedding rings, a collar can evoke the very same emotion. 

If only people would actually communicate when their mouths are moving!

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 6:53:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you still have the pearls, or most of them, then take the remnants to a jeweler and have it restrung.  Get an appraisal first for cost of restringing and replacing missing pearls. Give him the appraisal if you can't afford to have it fixed. In future, pearls worn daily should be restrung every two years.

Most jewelers who restring pearls will do so while you watch. (To prevent poor quality pearls from being substitued for better ones).

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 7:44:47 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: nymphonan

About two years ago Master gave this girl a pearl necklace which was to be worn as a discreet daily collar. Recently, the string broke and this girl has been unable to wear her collar. Master is aware of this fact as girl told him that the string was wearing thin prior to its breaking and told him imediately when it finally broke. This girl is feeling very lost without her collar on. The question is whether it would be appropriate for this girl to come right out and ask Master to replace it, should she just share with Master how lost she is feeling or should she just be patient and wait for Master to make the decision that the collar should be replaced?


I require my slaves to disclose anything that unsettles their mind. If they have a problem, I want to know about it. That is the rule in my house.

Consequently, my two pennies is that you should tell your master how you feel, and ask what is to be done about the necklace.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 7:53:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you all very much for your thoughts, ideas and advise. BTW, this girl did talk to Master when she noticed that the threads of the collar were showing signs of wear and when the collar actually broke. W/we live in a rural area so jewelers are not readily accessible, the nearest one is about an hours drive away. this girl will share her feelings with Master. 

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/4/2008 11:09:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I understand, and that is a problem. The nearest pearl restringer here is about a half hour/45 minute drive. But I get up there on average of every two weeks so I can plan ahead for my next doctor's app't or whatever.

However do call the nearest jewelers and ask if they do restringing, and how long a lead time would they need to do so while you wait. Give him this info. Because he may tell you to schedule it for three weeks when he wants to go there anyway. Eventually you will get to town, better to know ahead of time if it can be done while you're there.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/5/2008 3:15:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hello nymphonan. From my experience, one does not "replace" a broken pearl necklace but rather has it restrung at a jewelry store. I don't get the "problem". RL.

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/5/2008 3:20:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nymphonan

...W/we live in a rural area so jewelers are not readily accessible, the nearest one is about an hours drive away. this girl will share her feelings with Master. 


Hello again, you have no neighbors, friends etc that are not going to town? No fedex? No post office to mail it in to your jewelery store and have it mailed back? An hour away?... still do not get the problem. RL

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RE: Asking Master..... - 2/5/2008 4:34:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would ask if I could get it restrung. Pearl necklaces (hello ZZ Top) are usually knotted between each pearl and I've had to have 2 of mine professionally restrung. I wish I could remember the cost.. but I don't. I suggest you do a bit of research, find out how much it will cost and how long it will take. Then tell him that 'it needs to be fixed and here is the information, may I please get it repaired?'.  ETA, hmph. I didn't read all the answers & Des had much better information than I did.

< Message edited by camille65 -- 2/5/2008 4:37:28 PM >

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